to wonder why gentle parents are often anything but?

(105 Posts)
ohforblardysake Thu 19-Sep-13 18:36:22

I breastfeed, use cloth nappies, co sleep, baby led wean, etc etc. It's what feels right for me but I recognise that everyone does it differently and what works for one doesn't work for everyone.

I joined a few gentle parenting sites on Facebook and have one by one unliked them over the last few months as they are all so horrible! I hoped to see from them just posts and articles about things that interest me in terms of bfing, cosleeping,etc, but instead they are just judgey and horrible.

One recently had a thread absolutely slating women who have pain relief in childbirth. Another full of women going on about how they are having unassisted births and laughing at those who have hospital births as stupid scared,and hoodwinked and not understanding how birth REALLY works. The latest one full of horrible crap about formula feeding, here

https://www.facebook.com/pages/The-Alpha-Parent/168640486536470

There is nothing gentle about any of them - they are judgey, spiteful and nasty. Feel quite disillusioned!

neunundneunzigluftballons Sun 22-Sep-13 16:21:41

There is absolutely no need to go on gentle parenting sites to watch women sling mud at one another you can come on here instead. The irony of this thread. Women on the internet are very judgmental. In fact I have experienced many judgegy pants men on other sites to just not parenting ones. Should we be concerned that men don't engage in competitive parenting on websites? Or maybe do they not give a shit how Dad next door is doing it.

carovioletfizz Sun 22-Sep-13 16:41:03

I do see what you are saying neu, that it's judgy to judge other people for being judgy.

The difference is, I'm not judging these women for their parenting choices. I'm judging them for being so completely vicious and horrible about how other people bring up their children.

JerseySpud Sun 22-Sep-13 16:43:14

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carovioletfizz Sun 22-Sep-13 16:44:35

will have a look!

neunundneunzigluftballons Sun 22-Sep-13 17:04:15

There are plenty of people engaging in the same behaviour on other threads on this site though carovioletfizz. There are downright nasties on the internet who I do not believe would act like that in real life. I like you went onto one of those gentle parent sites even though I have ff kids as well as bf ones. The ff went into their own room earlier than probably necessary, I always use disposable nappies. But a bit like here there are posters I ignore completely, threads I don't read but I have definitely have gotten the best bf info on those sites which is why I use them.

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