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Nose members of the public

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nesticles Thu 19-Sep-13 13:43:22

DH and I are both blind and very comfortable about talking/answering questions about it. but since having our sighted ds I am getting increasingly angry about one question members of the public ask us "is he blind too?" and when we say no they often go on to ask "was that a fear?". I litterally see red lol and often find it hard not to flip my lid. I know people have questions as we do things differently like pull our buggy and have Guide dogs but really? am I being unreasonable? DH things I might just be a bit over sensative. Am I? or is it a rather rude question?

SofiaAmes Mon 23-Sep-13 04:47:43

nesticles, I'm curious (hopefully this is not a question that the english find offensive...smile )...how did you find life in the USA as a blind person as compared to what you find in the UK? I am American, so am biased, but feel that disabilities of all sorts are far more accommodated in the USA. For example, I have never seen anyone refuse service to a blind person, or someone in a wheel chair in the USA, but saw that type of discrimination all the time when I lived in the UK. I was just wondering if it's my bias (or even just that most of my time in the USA was in either LA or NYC and my time in the UK was in London and maybe none of those cities are representative of the rest of the country.

nesticles Mon 23-Sep-13 14:44:02

Sofia: I love the US, not because I find it very different in terms of access but I find people less scared of disability weirdly. I have experience of both a small university town and NYC and LA. I found the uni town very restrictive not being able to drive but people were lovely. I found in NYC that we still had the taxi problem as well as being refused in to a few restaurants but really didn't enjoy LA. I felt stuck not being able to drive and people were far less willing to talk to me. I found all three experiences very different and was surprised ahow cultures were so different in the one country. I didn't have a dog when I was in Missouri so maybe that made a difference? The access to books for uni were much better in the US though. I found at the beginning of each semester I had them scanned and waiting for me and didn't have to spend hours with a reader. it meant I could do my essays at 3 AM if I wanted to.

BlackeyedSusan England Mon 23-Sep-13 14:50:03

oh my goodness, do some people need the light on to dtd? shock grin

people are so rude sometimes.

FanjoForTheMammaries Mon 23-Sep-13 14:54:37

Did you say "did you not get sex education at school then?" grin

KarinMurphy Mon 23-Sep-13 15:11:37

What a lovely thread. smile

Just last week I walked past a lass with a stunning golden retriever guide dog, standing talking to a family who were having a picnic. Unnoticed by her and the family, the youngest child was sneakily feeding bits of his sandwich to the dog.

nesticles Mon 23-Sep-13 15:44:17

What a naughty monkey that little boy was. My lab has to have a gentle leader on at all times for that exact reason. Having to clean runny dog poo off carpets is a bloody nightmare...especially if you don't know if someone's given your dog something...cos then you don't know if they're really ill or just a dojy tummy from having something they're not allowed. Yep I have had the sex question more than once. I always say "if you don't know that by now...well...what can I say?" lol. I truely marval at the utter stupidity of people...just today Guide dog, DS and I were walking along side a very busy mainroad and a stupid twat (cuse the french) tried to call my dog over from across the road. My lab being a very social dog (huge problem) tried to take me to the curb to see the person. I had to tell her off but really and truly it wasn't her fault. I know people are being nice but it is so dangerous and happens all the time. grrr lol x

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