DH's friend asked last week if he and his GF could stay over at ours this evening. They're from another EU country, over visiting friends in another city, but as we live in London where their flights are going from it's more convenient and free if they stay with us the night before they go home.
A few weeks ago I booked a day off work for tomorrow, not to go anywhere but to have a lie-in, laze in the bath reading a book, paint my toenails, eat cake and generally not do anything of any importance. I've been working really really long hours over a particularly busy period at work, and I just wanted one day to have the house to myself and be totally lazy. I very rarely get to do this, as although DH and I don't yet have DC we're very busy at the weekend and evenings - the next month is booked solid.
DH told his friend that he could of course come to stay (without consulting me), and has told him that they can leave whenever they want on Friday as I'll be around so they don't have to leave at the crack of dawn like they would have had to if we'd both been working. I was really peeved about this, and told him that he's effectively ruined my day off - I wanted to lie in and then laze about in my nightie, which I certainly won't be able to do with strangers in the house wanting showers and breakfast. He thinks IABU, and I can just book another day off (I could, but it would be in a few weeks' time and I'm tired NOW), and that they won't be much trouble and will potter about without input from me.
However, that's not the point! I don't want anyone in the house on my 'me' day, not even DH, and I certainly don't want to deal with DH's friend (whom I dislike anyway) and his GF (whom I don't know). I want to be alone and selfish and lazy for one day - is that too much to ask? I've already cooked them a meal, washed and ironed their bed linen, made up the beds in the spare room, and will then have to wash the linen again after they leave - i.e. enough!
So, who is BU? DH or me? And, more importantly, how can I get them out of my house in the morning?!
AIBU?
AIBU or a mean wife about DH's friend and friend's GF staying over and not leaving with DH in the morning on my one-off me-day day off?
SybilRamkin · 19/09/2013 13:14
I was going to write why have you done all of this when your husband invited them around but numerous posters beat me to it 
Why should her dh necessarily do all that?
Because he invited them in to their house without asking OP, so he should be the one to look after them. In fact, even if he had asked OP, he should be doing the legwork. If OP was cooking anyway then it makes sense that she would cook for them, but her husband should be doing all the beds etc.
OP I would not be happy with my partner inviting people around without asking me however in this situation, I would probsbly bollock him then allow it. But I would tell them they will have to leave by, say, 9am because I have stuff to do.
I'm picturing me inviting a couple of friends over and expecting DH to do the spare bedding, cook a meal for them and then bugger off to work the next morning leaving him to play host on his day off .......
I'm now picturing allot of swearing!
If both of you work, and they're his mates let him stay home and play hotelier.
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