Am I being unreasonable to confront this woman?

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justanuthermanicmumsday Thu 19-Sep-13 01:33:00

for those of you who don't know I wear a face veil usually a patterned scarf to avoid sticking out so much lol. point is I expect the odd comments maybe groans as I work past in my honour of course.

But two times now this senior lady I'd say in her 60s or more unprovoked loudly made comments at me. The first time she said" why are you wearing that" I was walking past with my twin buggy to supermarket, I thght she was incredibly rude. Had she said excuse me and proceeded to ask me a question in a normal tone I wouldn't have been miffed. Still I kept my cool said religious reasons as I walked away. I didn't want a conversation I don't see why I should explain when she was so rude.

yet today I see her again shouting across the road at me this time." No need to wear that take it off". Today I would say she looked aggressive or perhaps it was my eyes deceiving me. My toddler was with me she looked distressed said" mummy whys that lady shouting". I said "she's prob ill like your gran never mind her."

Should I confront her if this happens again? I'm not an aggressive person quite a walkover and not much confidence but I think it can't be ignored its like harassment.

I dread to think ill pass her again if I pop out she's always on the same route as me, yet why should I dread her.

Granted she doesn't like my dress neither does my brother, I'm not harming her in anyway. one sibling said I shouldn't confront her in case she goes to the police. But that's insane what reason would she have to go to the police i would simply tell her to get off my case. How would she like it if I told her to change her dress for something more acceptable to me. She's not the fashion police or the law.

Please remember this is not a conversation on whether you approve of my dress rather this woman's behaviour

nicename Sat 21-Sep-13 16:24:53

But a jewish woman in a wig looks like a woman with hair (depending on the wig oif course). Nuns don't generally cover the full hair up (fewer these days wear scarves) and I suppose you could say that their male counterparts are just as sartorially dictated as they are (if not more).

To cover the face is to conceal your identity. We recognise each other by our faces generally (unless in the phone). We read expressions in the face, lip-read if deaf, or listen closely to the voice if hard of hearing (not sure if the voice is all that muffled under a veil).

A woman of non-Arab extraction who chooses to wear a veil is deciding to copy a culture, not following religious teaching. To prove a point, please someone, be closer to god?

It's like wearing a costume. I can dress like an Afghani woman but it won't make me a muslim. If I were to marry a pakistani man, there's no way I'd wear a red gown with all the sparkles (beautiful as it is). I'd look an arse.

SubliminalMassaging Sat 21-Sep-13 16:26:54

Personally I have never understood the Jewish thing of covering up your real hair with fake hair, but there we are. grin

nicename Sat 21-Sep-13 16:33:36

It like plucking off all your eyebrown and drawing/tattooing new ones on!

I used to do that with my eyebrows

nicename Sat 21-Sep-13 16:41:55

Didn't it really hurt though? I've only got invisible, fair ones, so no need to pluck.

I used to cheat and shave instead grin I hate plucking, it's too damn painful

nicename Sat 21-Sep-13 16:59:01

I just keep thinking of that Made in Yorkshire clip with the girl saying 'da ya like me eyebraws? I shehved the orf last naaaaaht'.

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