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AIBU re babysitting neighbour's kids at 39 weeks pregnant

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sandwichyear Mon 16-Sep-13 03:36:45

My neighbour and I often do reciprocal babysitting for the odd daytime appointment etc for an hour or two. She has 2 kids, aged 3 and 1. We have one aged 3. When we go out in the evening we get a 'real' babysitter, but the ones we use are usually working/ at college etc during the day. They don't tend to use babysitters that often and don't go out much in the evenings, although they do occasionally.

I am 39 weeks pregnant, having a c-section in 4 days. I'm pretty exhausted, finishing up work, coping with a toddler, trying to get everything sorted before baby arrives and generally v uncomfortable with painful hips/ breathlessness/ tiredness/ all the usual late pregnancy stuff. My neighbour has just asked me to babysit for her kids one night this week for 3 hours while she has an early child-free dinner with her mother. She doesn't want to book a babysitter as she says she 'trusts' me more. her kids are pretty hard work (as are all kids of that age I guess) and I know that there will also be a HUGE mess afterwards that I will have to clean up and I'm finding the bending/ lifting of housework a lot to cope with atm. AIBU in thinking it is a bit off of her to ask me at this stage or should I just suck it up? I don't really want to say no, as we will probably need to ask them to babysit in an emergency for us if I go into labour before the c-section this week and don't want to cause bad feeling. Am I being unreasonable/ precious/ a bad neighbour to not want to do this?

Cerisier Wed 18-Sep-13 01:18:42

I don't think it is worth falling out over as she sounds a helpful neighbor usually.

Why can't DH go over and hold the fort for her? I think he needs to step in and offer here for your sake.

If he can't for some reason then explain you can't bend and tidy, you'll be happy to sit there and keep an eye on things but she must do the clearing up the next morning.

Cerisier Wed 18-Sep-13 01:19:35

*neighbour

sweetiepie1979 Wed 18-Sep-13 03:24:42

Yes of course you can call on her to be honest I think your making a bigger deal if this than you need to. Just tell her your not fit to look after the kids your too pregnant and just want to lie down she will understand!

MrsMook Wed 18-Sep-13 04:19:41

I've gone into labour both times at 39 weeks, so no. If something did happen, I wouldn't want the additional stress of having her needing to return before I could get to hospital. Between that, the discomfort and need to do things, they are all sound reasons to politelt decline. I'm sure that wouldn't compromise any arrangements is she's needed to support around the birth. (My only plan was my friend due to lack of avaliable family)

good luck with the birth and recovery

Pitmountainpony Wed 18-Sep-13 04:51:11

Just sweetly say no. You will pay back for babysitting she will do for you at a later date. She is thoughtless to think you would want to do this right now......so you have to be direct with thoughtless people. They just do not get it, ever, often.

Blondeshavemorefun Wed 18-Sep-13 08:42:55

Course she trusts you more - you are free compared to getting a babysitter to come

Tell her no as so close to birth and you are shattered

flowery Wed 18-Sep-13 08:46:00

"can I then impose on her if I do go into labour suddenly to babysit my DD "

Um, at 39 weeks have you not asked her this already?!

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