To wonder why when people want to refer to women's or girls external genitals they say vagina

(56 Posts)
BoundandRebound Sun 15-Sep-13 23:12:13

It's not called that

It's vulva

We don't refer to boys urethras do we?

digerd Tue 17-Sep-13 13:43:28

Beyond grin I'm not artistic with drawings. I was showing only the inside bit .
Love your Labia and Clitoris design- wish I'd thought of that - brilliant grin

Ziggyzoom Mon 16-Sep-13 20:30:24

So Bellablot, you give your child incorrect information from the age of 2 and then when they are 12 tell them that you deliberately misinformed them because that is what everyone else does - madness!

bellablot Mon 16-Sep-13 20:13:30

Another thing to be judged about as a parent, ffs people get a grip. If your talking about educating a 2 year old then YADBU, a 12 year old, YANBU.

puggle01 Mon 16-Sep-13 20:09:46

YANBU! I was apoplectic with rage when Dr Christian from Embarrassing bodies was asking women if they washed their vaginas before they went out - then scolded them as it was all self-cleaning + shouldn't be douched- when if he'd clarified the vulva/vagina question in the first goddamn place. ...And breathe.....

mewmeow Mon 16-Sep-13 20:06:59

What??shock
I thought that.. the vagina was the whole thing?!
Ok.
Cheers mums net. Only taken me 23 years.

BoundandRebound Mon 16-Sep-13 19:59:43

I think Julia is spot on with "it's just yet another one of those little things which are all really trivial on their own, but added together with eg embarrassment of schoolgirls about periods, sex being defined a penis in vagina, ignorance about female sexual pleasure, teenagers wanting designer vaginas, pubic hair ripped out with hot wax, etc etc it ends up being quite alienating"

And the lack of female education about their physiology - it wasn't until I was interested in conception that I realised that cervical mucus was a natural part of my body and not some kind of recurrent infection

((*)) labia and clitoris

Digerd, great diagram, but you missed...

\,/ vulva grin

StickEmUp Mon 16-Sep-13 19:39:55

Shit me what a non problem.

StuntGirl Mon 16-Sep-13 19:37:54

Language is important though and it adds to a collective general attitude towards bodies, especially women's bodies, where women (and men) choose to use incorrect terminology because it 'doesn't sound nice' or 'it's yukky' or whatever.

Basically, what Julia said.

mrspremise Mon 16-Sep-13 19:08:41

Bloody hell, talk about first world problems! wink

hackmum Mon 16-Sep-13 17:26:11

I know nobody in real life who says "vulva". They say "vagina", even if it's technically incorrect. It's just one of those things, I think - a bit like the way people say "stomach" when they mean "abdomen". (Though I think that's worse - I cringe when I hear women talk about "the baby in my stomach"!)

digerd Mon 16-Sep-13 16:44:25

The Cervix is at the top of the vagina/hollow conception and birth canal/tube, the cervix is the bottom of the uterus, so the uterus/womb is above the Cervix. So
Vagina, Cervix then womb in ascending order.
My stick diagram:-

O= Uterus/womb
o= Cervix All joined together with no gaps inside the body
l l = vagina

Ziggyzoom Mon 16-Sep-13 16:21:49

Yes Julia has my feelings summed up precisely.

JuliaScurr Mon 16-Sep-13 16:08:50

it's just yet another one of those little things which are all really trivial on their own, but added together with eg embarrassment of schoolgirls about periods, sex being defined a penis in vagina, ignorance about female sexual pleasure, teenagers wanting designer vaginas, pubic hair ripped out with hot wax, etc etc it ends up being quite alienating

Dawndonnaagain Mon 16-Sep-13 14:20:43

Despite being taught correct terminology, I had one call it Jemima and one foof! It's a coverall, it does what it's supposed to do. It makes for easy communication. Really can't see what the fuss is about.

Balaboosta Mon 16-Sep-13 14:11:47

And LoL at "Volvo"!
I called it Virginia when I was little.

Balaboosta Mon 16-Sep-13 14:09:59

Oops x-post! The tube? That's it?

Balaboosta Mon 16-Sep-13 14:09:07

Oh god, I thought I was doing this one small thing right, teaching my girl to call it her vagina, loved that it came out as "jaya" in toddlerspeak. Only learnt this was incorrect when we stayed with friends last month who are gynaecologists! Hang on though, presumably penis refers to what's inside it and not just the skin, so what's the problem. And which bits the vagina anyway? The cervix? The uterus? Educate me!

OHforDUCKScake Mon 16-Sep-13 13:52:53

Do you know what, I had to actually google image that as I was still confused.

But by jove Ive got it now.

The vagina is the tube that goes upwards, the vulva is the bit you can see.

Got it.

BuskersCat Mon 16-Sep-13 13:48:57

DD knows the outside is a vulva, and vagina is the inside and that you don't pee out of your vagina. She prefers to call the whole thing her 'vagina' though, its better than her father making her call it her bum hmm

JuliaScurr Mon 16-Sep-13 13:45:56

Ziggy yes - penis goes in, baby comes out - the only important functions

Calloh Mon 16-Sep-13 13:45:25

Yes it is wrong to say Vagina for Vulva and vice versa so YANBU.

I do wish there was a name for the whole flaming lot that covered it all, wasn't worrying like I find flower or cutesy like Du-du. But just this is it, the BOGOF of genitalia. I use fanny for my daughters much to my husbands chagrin. But they know that tucked in there is a clitoris, a vagina and a urethra.

I don't like vulva because I don't like the sound of it and also it's then forgetting the internal stuff too. I like vagina being out and about and acknowledged though, even if incorrectly.

SilverOldie Mon 16-Sep-13 13:39:12

I don't care what people call it. I do think it's hysterically funny that some (hopefully a miniscule minority) refer to it as their front bottom. Never heard that until I started reading MN and it made me laugh out loud grin.

bebopanddoowop Mon 16-Sep-13 13:38:11

This had never occurred to me, thanks for posting! DH & I were having the discussion what we were taught and what we would like to teach to our future (am only 1st trimester pregnant) children. With either gender I will refer to them as 'privates' because I think it's a good idea to establish that they are that - private. But after reading this thread will definitely talk to DH tonight and suggest we both use the words penis and vulva too. I wouldn't have even know to call my own 'vulva' really, as 'vagina' is so commonly used.

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