To be disappointed with my lie in

(52 Posts)
Thatsnotmychicken Sat 14-Sep-13 08:08:18

Dh is taking dcs swimming while I catch up on some sleep. So far I have been asked,

'where are my swimming trunks?'(with all the swimming stuff)

'Where is the dcs shampoo?' (In the shower?)

'where is the dcs hairbrush?' (On dc1s dressing table)
both girls want to wear dresses and its raining -

'which pair of rights should they wear under these dresses?'

So much for my lie in - is it really that difficult?

quoteunquote Sun 15-Sep-13 10:52:11

In future, before anyone uses screens (TV/computer) , make them find all items for the following day's activities and make them put them in a bag by the door, or in the car,

make them lay out the clothes they intend to wear, and spares,

When they come in the door, make them unload bags to washing pile, and storage, sort out the next day's stuff, that way they do it, and you are only involved in advance.

Suggest in order to become familiarised with the location of items, they do a complete top to bottom clean of the house, and reorganise all drawers, shelves and cupboards.

Stick to this and never again have other household members try on the, I can't be bothered to try, so intend to make someone else compensate for my pathetic efforts game again.

It makes life really easy.

SummerHoliDidi Sun 15-Sep-13 09:15:10

My lie in yesterday was disturbed by 3yo dd2 arriving in my bedroom with a yoghurt for me. She announced that it was my breakfast but I'd have to get up and come downstairs because she couldn't reach the spoons hmm. I'd rather have had some more sleep tbh.

PoppyWearer Sun 15-Sep-13 09:03:57

I take it back, I woke up naturally at 8.30. All is forgiven.

trixymalixy Sun 15-Sep-13 07:52:18

poppy that's how my lie ins usually go too. I usually have to kick DH awake and he tries to get a few more minutes sleep by which time I've been jumped on and am pretty much awake. I told DH that it wasn't good enough anymore and if he was going to continue to be so selfish then he'd forfeit his lie ins.

trixymalixy Sun 15-Sep-13 07:49:31

My lie ins are always a bit rubbish too, because the kids come to me for a cuddle first usually so I get woken up. DH did try his best yesterday to stop them disturbing me after we had a huge argument about our lie in entitlements the night before.

I did give him instructions and made him get all DDs ballet stuff ready the night before as I knew he would be clueless and have to ask me as Saturday is normally his lie in day and he's never taken DD to ballet before.

I'm struggling to work out just how many places these things can actually be. I mean shampoo is in the bathroom isn't it? Bathrooms that consist of bath shower loo sink and a cupboard. Unless its a hoarder house how on earth is it so hard to find.

And which tights ??? Seriously? Has be never dressed the children or something???

And it's swimming, presumably local??? I don't think anyone's going to drop dead of he forgets a hairbrush. There was actually no need to disturb you at all. That would annoy me.

I'd expect the kids to ask questions, not a grown man who should be able to think for himself. Do you have to remind him to breathe?

Suddengeekgirl Sun 15-Sep-13 07:43:01

See I genuinely don't think most of our DHs are useless BUT I do think that when we get the lie in they end up doing things they aren't as practiced at. Which makes them nervous.

Dh will ask where stuff is - probably because I out it away during the week (SAHM). He also has issues about only seeing the big picture, not the details, when looking at anything.
Dh is slightly flummoxed by girls clothes - having never worn them and having no interest in fashion. He doesn't get it. Boys clothes are fine as he wears the same as ds.
Dh is also colour blind. He gets a bit embarrassed if he choses the wrong colours for himself, and is much worse if he does it for the dc.

So when it's my tur for a lie in about 2/3 of the time I experience the same as OP.
not because dh can't do it, but because he's just not had as much practice because he works as I'm SAHM.
That's the choice we made fr our family and you have to take the ups and downs of that.

madmomma Sun 15-Sep-13 07:40:53

I was

madmomma Sun 15-Sep-13 07:40:39

Lea

madmomma Sun 15-Sep-13 07:38:46

I bet he didn't even take talc to get the tights back on soggy legs.

OP posted with a light hearted observation about the prospect of a lie in and an unprepared dh.

Nothing more , so why was the need for a po faced response slating him and other men from some?

Lighten up.

PoppyWearer Sun 15-Sep-13 06:55:22

I'm delurking to add my own experience from just now. It's my turn for a "lie-in" this morning, although we have guests so it will really just be for one (precious) hour.

So far it's gone like this:

6.15am - DC2 climbs on me in bed (not DH, oh no, never DH)
6.20am - I get fed up of DH remaining unconscious and wake him up
6.25am - DC1 wakes up, I go to give her a cuddle and help her go to the toilet, get her into dressing gown, fob off DC2's demands to read him endless stories
6.40am - DH has gone back to sleep, DC2 is demanding breakfast, so I wake up DH again and send him downstairs with DC2
...I then spent the last ten minutes persuading limpet-like DC1 to leave me alone and go downstairs. Which has finally happened.

I have 40 minutes of my precious "lie-in" remaining. DH had a whole hour yesterday. envy

I've been up in the night with DC2 as well.

I am soooooooooo not doing bath time tonight. grin

Sob.

we have a lie in each on the weekend. what goes around comes around.

we both get a break grin.

ZingWantsCake Sat 14-Sep-13 16:04:20

<sighs >

and if it is not my own family it's the neighbours tv too loud or the postman knocking or the phone ringing or another neighbour cutting the grass.

I can't remember who said "Hell is other people", but was damn right.

I'm going to go and give DH a big kiss. The other day he was taking DD out, the day before she started preschool. She was dressed in a foul outfit. I said, "interesting choice" and he told me he had chosen it in the absolute knowledge that I wouldn't have chosen it for her first day so he wouldn't be using clothes I would need.

Some men are practical, prepped, do some thinking about their kids' and DW's needs.

diddl Sat 14-Sep-13 15:43:04

"Tomorrow is my lie in. This is what will happen:
"What shall I give dcs for breakfast?"
"What shall I dress them in?"
"Do I need to put some washing on?"
"Can the cat go out?""

Hope that you're exaggerating for comedic effect, there mummy

MummyPig24 Sat 14-Sep-13 15:27:46

Sounds like my lie ins. This morning was dhs turn. I fed and dressed the children, fed the cat, folded a load of washing, put a load in the tumble drier, another load in the machine, cleaned the kitchen and made dh breakfast.

Tomorrow is my lie in. This is what will happen:
"What shall I give dcs for breakfast?"
"What shall I dress them in?"
"Do I need to put some washing on?"
"Can the cat go out?"
Plus many more questions. I generally answer "I don't care as long as I'm left alone!"

LazyGaga Sat 14-Sep-13 13:04:37

Well exactly.

There's something off about a man who won't get up and take his children out.

Not something wonderful about one who does.

IMO.

diddl Sat 14-Sep-13 12:02:11

"WHY does the WOMAN have to get the bags ready the night before for the MAN to take his own flipping children out?"

Because he's such an absolute star for taking his own children out on his own, that he can't be expected to to do the prep as wellhmm

clam Sat 14-Sep-13 10:51:20

WHY does the WOMAN have to get the bags ready the night before for the MAN to take his own flipping children out?

MovingForward0719 Sat 14-Sep-13 10:25:27

Get it all ready the night before and tell them they have to do it independently, I do this but my 9 year still talks me into getting up because "I like being with you".

kim147 Sat 14-Sep-13 10:20:56

There is an element of truth in what silverapples says about how some men are almost scared to make their own decisions as they fear the criticism from their OH if they make a mistake.

Bowlersarm Sat 14-Sep-13 09:54:08

I think people are taking it seriously because you used the word 'disappointed' in thread title which is quite a gloomy word!

Glad you aren't taking it seriously OP. (lack of lie in, I mean, or rather 'sleep' in)

Bowlersarm Sat 14-Sep-13 09:51:43

It's just family life though,isn't it?

I don't think I ever got to actually sleep on any of my lie ins when the children were small. Was interrupted all the time by DH or DC. However it was nice to take a coffee back to bed and just not be responsible for anybody for once.

diddl Sat 14-Sep-13 09:48:15

Oh OP!

But why aren't some men able or expected to do these things?

And the fact that they do an activity with their own children makes up for all other shortcomings!

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