To be furious that DH wants to give up work?

(76 Posts)
KittyKatkatKat Thu 12-Sep-13 18:25:34

Well am I? DH and I aren't short of a bob or two but FGS, he's just announced that he's giving up his job!
I'm pulling my hair out here. I've got such a nice lifestyle as a SAHM to my baby boy, have lots of friends and a Mum and sister who visit often. Actually, they practically live with me whilst hubby is away with work.
He's now giving up so that he can spend more time at home and I don't know what to say. His family are overbearing and he's going to be kicking around the house all day. AIBU? I'm in a real tizz about this sad

Mimishimi Fri 13-Sep-13 06:38:48

Ahhh... took me a while and reading this thread to get what this was all about blush

Mimishimi Fri 13-Sep-13 06:37:10

My DH just did this as well. We paid off the mortgage a couple of years ago, DD is in a good school for the next six years and DH was getting increasingly frustrated by the increasing importance of the 'old boy' culture in his company. It wasn't always like that but once they started moving in and up the ranks in larger numbers it became more so. Their discretionary approach to his bonus the last couple of years when he made them millions in profit, not just revenue, really riled him. The bonus was okay but DH wanted it in writing like the head honchos, who incidentally made far less although some years it is more, have it. They were mucking him about with writing up his new contract thinking that he would be on tenterhooks about his job and consent to less than agreeable terms. He has had some offers from competing firms or he's thinking about teaming up with a former colleague and doing the same and we decided it's a good time in his life to take some risks.

I think you should be more supportive of your DH. If he's miserable, it's not worth it.

bearleftmonkeyright Thu 12-Sep-13 23:40:57

Some people expect to be treated like royalty hmm

SecretLimonadeDrinker Thu 12-Sep-13 23:17:58

Ha ha, penny dropped eventually!

JosiePosiePuddingAndPie Thu 12-Sep-13 23:14:14

You need to get him into golf, seriously you'll never see him again! Does his gran have a course somewhere?

happygirl87 Thu 12-Sep-13 23:07:10

Are you also worried about his bald spot?!

Seriously, I think if you get on well with your MIL you should leave DH at home with PFB (Prince First Born grin) and devote your time to writing a book dedicated to your mumsnet fans: How I Deal with the Queen of MILs. It will be a best seller.

Mehrida Thu 12-Sep-13 23:02:51

Ooh have always wanted to say this:

You all sound very entitled.

KittyKatkatKat Thu 12-Sep-13 20:17:49

Altinkum That's a bit unhelpful. [sad face]

KittyKatkatKat Thu 12-Sep-13 20:15:24

Inertia you are so right. Hubby's late great Aunt used to own our new house and the battles I've had with the ILaws to make it my own. It was full of sentimental rubbish and 1970s bling for me.

Altinkum Thu 12-Sep-13 20:12:57

I think you all sound like a bunch of dicks!!!

Chippednailvarnish Thu 12-Sep-13 20:10:44

Because he didn't used to look like his Dad!?!

Inertia Thu 12-Sep-13 20:05:54

To be honest I know what in - laws like this are like - they'll have him running about here there and everywhere on Family Business, and he'll trot out some line about his duties when he is never around to change a nappy.

Bet the ILs have already been meddling with the decor in your new house too - mark my words, it it'll be filled with thrones and diamondy shit.

KittyKatkatKat Thu 12-Sep-13 20:01:02

Thevermicious grin

KittyKatkatKat Thu 12-Sep-13 20:00:11

chipped why do you think I married him wink !

TheVermiciousKnid Thu 12-Sep-13 19:57:38

I bet you have some interesting MIL threads... grin

SunshineMMum Thu 12-Sep-13 19:55:53

grin it took me a while!

Chippednailvarnish Thu 12-Sep-13 19:54:08

I had your DH spend a week where I used to work, when he was a student doing work experience.
He must be really charismatic or something, because he was the only student to get a table to himself and the chief exec each lunchtime on his own in the canteen. He didn't have to queue either (or pay).

KittyKatkatKat Thu 12-Sep-13 19:48:50

grin oblomov Sorry about that grin

Oblomov Thu 12-Sep-13 19:46:48

This is a bit weak. Couldn't you have done a bit better?

KittyKatkatKat Thu 12-Sep-13 19:45:22

Fast Honeydragon? Nope

dabump Thu 12-Sep-13 19:41:13

Haha

FastWindow Thu 12-Sep-13 19:37:25

honeydragon are you Clark Kent? Suspiciously not in the room...?

KittyKatkatKat Thu 12-Sep-13 19:20:23

MIWhite Nope! grin

marriedinwhiteisback Thu 12-Sep-13 19:12:25

Is that you hullygully

Squitten Thu 12-Sep-13 19:09:45

Can't you get him a nice shed built or something so he can have some "man space" and take up a hobby? Maybe something along the lines of Kensington Palace..?

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now