To think this man at the cinema was plain nasty?

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WombatCat Mon 09-Sep-13 23:57:27

Dh and I watched a film at the cinema on Saturday night.

There was a young man a few rows back from us with very vocal Tourette's. Obviously it was distracting to most people around him, but once the film started I didn't find it an issue. However, one man decided to tell him to shut up and "isn't there a special showing you could go to?"

Quite a few people appeared to be in agreement with him. I now wish I said something.

buss Tue 10-Sep-13 00:03:28

that's awful - what a bully

kikid Tue 10-Sep-13 00:08:45

aww come on , if you had 'very vocal tourettes' the last place you would want to be is a quiet cinema surrounded by people?

ChasingDogs Tue 10-Sep-13 00:08:52

I'd have said something, but I'm a gobby cow and in all fairness, I'd only have spoken up if if was an obvious vocal twitch- I'd have ignored it and any tension otherwise (not sure what that says about me- that I'm an arsehole probably!).

"No there isn't a special fucking showing, so shut the fuck up 'cause you're noisier than the guy with tourettes" being one offering from the top of my head. Something like that in future maybe?

I've several times had to hush groups of teens or even adults in the cinema who seem to think they're there on their lonesome and so can make all the racket they wish. Generally they're so shocked to be told to shut up by a stranger that they do just that.

Cinemas are so bloody deafening these days that the bloke with the vocal twitch behind you is the least of your worries. The volume they play the audio at is wince-level. Gits.

Elsiequadrille Tue 10-Sep-13 00:16:20

Yes, he was plain nasty.

BoneyBackJefferson Tue 10-Sep-13 06:38:01

Do you actually know that he had 'vocal tourettes'?

We went through a stage with some local youths where they would pretend to have tourettes (I know one of the youths, so I know that he didn't have tourettes)

WombatCat Tue 10-Sep-13 07:41:40

Well it wasn't just shouting out swear words, he had vocal tics, with loud squeals, whistles and grunts. It sounded like he was trying to repress them.

NotYoMomma Tue 10-Sep-13 07:55:05

tbf the price of the cinema if I had paid to see a fil for it to be disrupted with squeals, grunts and shouts I would be pretty pissed off too

my gran has a nevous cough tic thing and I can switch off and not hear it but my mum can't and the cobstant coughing drives her mad!

claraschu Tue 10-Sep-13 07:59:48

Do you think it is ok for someone with Tourette's to go to somewhere it is important to stay quiet? What about a violin recital, the opera, the Theatre, or a yoga/meditation class?

I think the cinema is loud enough that he should be able to go, and people should be accepting of him.

IneedAsockamnesty Tue 10-Sep-13 08:02:08

Of course its ok for someone to go anywhere that the public are allowed to go.

No matter what the disability

YouTheCat Tue 10-Sep-13 08:02:28

Some people are just fucking nasty.

BrokenSunglasses Tue 10-Sep-13 08:11:32

The man was nasty and should have kept his mouth shut, then taken it up with the cinema if he genuinely couldn't enjoy the film.

I can understand him being pissed off though. Noise in cinemas is distracting, and it can easily stop people being able to enjoy the film. Cinema tickets aren't cheap.

comingalongnicely Tue 10-Sep-13 08:14:24

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mignonette Tue 10-Sep-13 08:15:39

My local cinema does have screenings for parents of children w/ special needs. They advertise them as suitable for people w/ Autism.

However If you want to attend general screenings why not? I'm irritated by all the ranked masses of people chomping and slurping like a field of cows chewing the cud. I have left screenings because once that noise gets into your head, I cannot block it out.

Tourettes? No problem for me.

sonlypuppyfat Tue 10-Sep-13 08:16:40

Too right the cinema is my special treat and it is very expensive I don't want it spoiling by anyone

NecessaryWeevil Tue 10-Sep-13 08:24:49

"TBH as NotYo says, given the price of cinema tickets nowadays & the fact that we tend to view it as a treat I'd be just as pissed off with him as I would with a group of noisy teenagers."

Except a group of noisy teenagers can control the noises they make, so they would be deliberately spoiling a film for others, where a young man with Tourette's cannot help it.
He has every right to enjoy a film just like every other person.
I hope I can bring up my children to be tolerant of disabilities and understand that being disturbed in a cinema for an hour or two is absolutely nothing to get worked up about at all.
In fact, attending a cinema screening and being disturbed is probably a walk in the park as apposed o actually living with a disability.

Hate these threads, really shows up the intolerant shits of the world.

Shakirasma Tue 10-Sep-13 08:26:58

If somebody else's disability is spoiling your enjoyment of a film, speak to the cinema staff to arrange a re-visit.

The implication that people with distracting disabilities shouldn't impinge on others enjoyment is fucking disgusting.

NecessaryWeevil Tue 10-Sep-13 08:29:20

"Too right the cinema is my special treat and it is very expensive I don't want it spoiling by anyone"

Ah, OK. So people with disabilities should be shunted into their own special screening so they don't upset others hmm

chateauferret Tue 10-Sep-13 08:35:11

I wasn't under the impression that OP's viewing was disrupted by a guy with Tourette's, which is a recognised disability anyway, but by a guy who was Being A Twat, which isn't. Did I misunderstand that?

Suelford Tue 10-Sep-13 08:37:44

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Shakirasma Tue 10-Sep-13 08:38:11

No, you are correct Ferret. It's some of the replies that are plain intolerant and nasty.

OnTheBottomWithAWomensWeekly Tue 10-Sep-13 08:40:07

He was rude, yes. But its not as simple as that. He has a right to enjoy a film just like every other person, but what about the people who then can't enjoy it? Does one outweigh the other? I don't know the answer to that, but I do know its isn't an obvious one.

BrokenSunglasses Tue 10-Sep-13 08:47:36

I'm all for tolerance and understanding, I really am, but when that is expected to extend to wasting people's money, it crosses a line.

No one has the right to expect someone else to literally waste a lot of their own money in the name of tolerance. Whether its nice or not, people should have the right to decide whether they want to tolerate their enjoyment of an expensive activity being spoiled by someone else.

A night out for two at the cinema costs about £30 for two people by the time you've bought a tub if popcorn, and that is a huge amount of money for some people, and it's not cheap for anyone. That's a lot of money to spend to sit there feeling annoyed that you can't do the thing that you have paid for.

NecessaryWeevil Tue 10-Sep-13 08:50:19

Like I said, I hate these threads.

OP, YANBU at all, the man was plain nasty.
Perhaps there should be special viewings for intolerant fuckers, so they can enjoy their popcorn in peace hmm

Shakirasma Tue 10-Sep-13 08:50:27

So when is the guy with Tourette's supposed to be able to go to the cinema then, or should he not be allowed?

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