To think kissing a family member on the lips isn't weird

(187 Posts)
DrinkFromMyFountain Sat 07-Sep-13 14:44:50

I kissed my sister on the lips today to say goodbye in front of my friend. My friend afterwards said to me that she found it weird and almost incestuous shock.

It was a peck not a full on snog!

I kiss ds like this as well (although he is only a baby)

PaulSmenis Sun 08-Sep-13 15:49:57

I'm not a tactile person and I would find such a thing mortifying, but some people do it and that's normal for them. I think you friend is the one who's being a bit odd here OP.

paparizla Tue 12-Jul-16 17:54:15

I am a man of 45 and kiss my 4 year old son on the lips as I did my daughter I was raised with very little affection from my parents and am determined this wont be the case for my children. Anyone who sees this as weird or incestuous probably has similar issues with expressing affection to my parents.

Hulababy Tue 12-Jul-16 18:01:05

Lips for dh and dd (teen but also when little.)

Don't see a quick peck on the lips as anything sexual at all. It's a loving gesture but not a sexual gesture in the slightest.

I don't really kiss close family and friends much at all. But for those who do, and for other people we meet who do, it's a cheek kiss thing. Don't kiss work colleagues at all.

Alisvolatpropiis Tue 12-Jul-16 18:02:30

It's fine for children but in my family it is something everyone sort of grows out of, kiss on the cheek is just fine.

Hulababy Tue 12-Jul-16 18:08:09

I find it more weird that people always have to have some form of sexual link when giving a peck on the lips.

And incredibly strange that some people feel they need to judge or make some form of gross/freak/incestual type comment over something that is just an affectionate gesture!

Alisvolatpropiis Tue 12-Jul-16 18:09:56

Oh I don't think other people are weirdos for kissing family on the lips. Just that it seems to be something children do in my family.

I reserve my "you weirdos" thoughts for the people who won't kiss their children on the lips because their lips are for their husbands confused

SeymourButtz Tue 12-Jul-16 18:10:02


Chloe1984 Tue 12-Jul-16 18:25:01

Very normal for me, doesn't occur to me that it wouldn't be

Prometheus Tue 12-Jul-16 18:31:10

In Tudor times people used to kiss on the lips instead of shaking hands or kissing on the cheeks.

Roomba Tue 12-Jul-16 18:41:28

I never thought much about it - my kids have always kissed me smack on the lips when they were tiny, but I don't tend to kiss my adult relatives on the lips often.

My ex thought it was v odd though and I remember him saying ew, please don't kiss him on the mouth, it's weird and incestuous - when DS1 was a tiny tiny baby. I was shocked at his attitude tbh and carried on as normal, but it did make me think about it and I don't do it very often now he is 10. The 3 YO on the other hand gives me no choice, he slobbers all over my mouth gleefully!

Roomba Tue 12-Jul-16 18:42:00

Oh bollocks, didn't get a ZOMBIE warning - sorry.

Notagainmun Tue 12-Jul-16 18:47:19

Cheek kisses for anyone who is not DH.

Janey50 Tue 12-Jul-16 18:50:06

I am from a not very tactile or demonstrative family so I find kissing anyone on the lips that you are not sexually intimate with a bit weird.

KayTee87 Tue 12-Jul-16 18:55:24

I would find it a bit odd. I only kiss my husband on the lips and my 20 month old nephew smacks the lips on me occasionally haha.

mylovegoesdown Tue 12-Jul-16 19:07:28

What is being Googled for the ZOMBIE re-animator to find these threads?

ParentsNetWithDadsToo Tue 12-Jul-16 20:06:05

It was linked to in a BBC article about Victoria Beckham kissing her daughter on the lips.

Until a read that article it had never occurred to me that it might be considered weird. Why shouldn't I kiss my children on the lips?

They also showed a picture of a dad in the shower with his child and suggested that he was a paedo. Outrageous really, that wouldn't have been the question if it was the mum.

RaptorInaPorkPieHat Tue 12-Jul-16 20:08:35

Seriously, at least the DM lifts current threads instead of Zombie ones.


Bigfam Tue 12-Jul-16 20:09:46

ParentsNetWithDadsToo I was just going to post this. Although I found it weird because the quote they've used from mumsnet has NOTHING to do with Victoria and harper beckham, the comment was made back in 2013 in response to the original thread about someone kissing their sister on the lips! hmm

Copy74 Tue 12-Jul-16 20:27:11

I kiss my brother on the forehead when I'm drunk (a lot). Is this acceptable?

silvermantela Tue 12-Jul-16 21:25:57

Agree with cardiback - not only does it seem very weird to me, it's something I have never even heard of (or seen) until mn, which suggests it is fairly unusual. I think saying it was incestuous is rude though!

LilacSpunkMonkey Tue 12-Jul-16 21:27:47

1. Each to their own.

2. Zombie FUCKING thread!

Lsli1951 Tue 12-Jul-16 22:05:29

I suggest that those who are critical of Victoria Beckham look deep into themselves - as that's where the darkness is! I and my family have kissed this way forever, along with any other style of affection that we thought appropriate: we are normal, the detractors are the ones with the problems, I feel.

nc17meg Tue 12-Jul-16 22:11:31

I was gonna add my thoughts, but the post by Lsli1951 exactly sums up my feelings. Can't really add anything to it, other than to agree 100% that the people who have criticised it perhaps need to examine their consciences.

Beorach Tue 12-Jul-16 23:25:40

If you think a parent kissing their child on the lips is icky I feel sorry for you

Bigfam Wed 13-Jul-16 06:36:05

I'm actually think it's weird NOT to kiss your child/children on the lips. It just comes completely naturally. My youngest dd will **only kiss myself dp her sisters and brother on the lips multiple times a day

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