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To feel like my body is letting me down.............

(73 Posts)
BeanandGone Sat 07-Sep-13 06:35:23

I've nc for this as i don't want to be identified by anyone i might know.....

40 + 10 days pregnant today, I have had Braxton Hicks for about 4 weeks, lost mucus plug on Thursday following a sweep and lots and lots of twinges and on off feelings as if i'm starting labour.

Then nothing. Having spent about 20 years being a victim of my bastard hormones appear to be in some kind of hormonal fucking wasteland and can't seem to muster what i need to give birth.

DH suggested yesterday that because i have spent so much time on MN I have possibly slightly fried our baby with laptop rays.....

I had a tiny bit of watery discharge in underwear last night, I'm shitting myself about getting induced, I'm convinced it won't work and i'll need a c-section.

I've been couped up in this house for weeks

We had a lovely home birth planned. I really don't want to go to hospital and as lovely as the midwives are, don't want to have smiling ladies saying 'bless you' or have to deal with bounty women or give birth lying down with a fucking drip in my arm.

Bastards....................

ParvatiTheWitch Sat 07-Sep-13 08:59:31

Yes, I got a weed on the night before I had DS1. I was really ratty and out he came the next day.

Also, try massaging either side of your achiles tendons by your ankles. That is a nature accupressure point for the uterus. Good luck.

WaftyCrank Sat 07-Sep-13 09:19:56

It's not your age, I'm 26 and have 4 DC. They were all induced at different stages, no signs of anything starting on its own.

Good luck, I hope baby is here soon.

NorksofPlenty Sat 07-Sep-13 09:21:38

Watery discharge and a raging grump/hormonal depression is how both of my labours started. Tightening and twinges too, I reckon you're on your way! Good luck, you're going to be fine xx

Gobbolinothewitchscat Italy Sat 07-Sep-13 09:49:22

My theory is i'm 37, cannot psychologically cope with the life change i'm just about to have, miss my work, can't relax or slow down mentally and therefore body is just saying no to this. That's what i want to know. I feel tricked by society and life. I think women have loads more control over childbirth than anyone lets on and i'm fucking failing to ride this horse. I have one thing i'm competent at, work.

Hello! Are you me (change the age to 34). That is exactly how I felt before I had DS last November

Can also absolutely vouch for "the rage". The day before I went into labour with DS, I decided DH was having an affair. Called him up - demanded that he came out of a clinic and screatched down the phone. He was so worried he was going to come home immediately. I posted here with my evidence under a name change convinced I would be told to Leave The Bastard immediately and even Anyfucker was like, "er, I don't think so love". I started railing at all the unreasonable bastards on here as I saw it and about 50 posts in mentioned I was 40+4. I think it was actually Anyfucker who pointed out that I was probably about to go I to labour and my waters broke about 10 hours later grin

Thankfully I had changed my name and the thread was in chat do can never be found again!

I think you're deffo in labour grin

Fakebook Sat 07-Sep-13 10:01:34

You sound really pissed off and emotional! I think you're very very close now! I had a tantrum and cried the day before I went into natural labour with DS. I was in labour all through my due date and DS was born at 2.47am the next day.

I was induced with dd at 40+13 and I was "only" 24, so age doesn't really have anything to do with it.

madmayday Sat 07-Sep-13 13:54:48

You're in early labour mate - I can tell by the rant! grin

Best of luck OP! thanks

FrigginRexManningDay Sat 07-Sep-13 14:09:29

Ranty and narky,stab by pains,tightening,discharge ,i reckon we might have a live labour thread.

I think theres a Klaxon for this.

TiredDog Sat 07-Sep-13 14:11:15

Aw I really hope so for OPs sake

Yes good luck with the labour OP. Keep walking, maybe start making anice pie or stew?

ItsAllOverTheFrontPage Sat 07-Sep-13 14:21:37

OP what are night times like? Do you get more twinges at night (that wake you but stop when you get up) or nothing at all at night?

minouminou Sat 07-Sep-13 14:26:55

Oooh, yeah!
Any minute now.

Just reading your angry stream o' consciousness reminded me of the night before DD was born. I was actually in slow labour then, looking back.

Klaxon! Oddly enough....as I was typing "Klaxon" one sounded in some rubbish advert on the Yesterday channel!!!!

That's it....you is in labour, innit!

FrigginRexManningDay Sat 07-Sep-13 14:30:49

I'll bet its a boy born at 3:44pm tomorrow.

BeanandGone Sat 07-Sep-13 14:34:53

I hope you are right. I went out for a walk and picked a load of blackberries so feeling a bit calmer................

DH is listening to Metal in the garage...............I have been listening to a ten year old copy of a scratched Sugarbabes CD that i found down the back of the bookshelf. It made me cry,...ffs.

Can we do a sweepstake for the time - I reckon 3.34pm today

Don't think that's going to happen but a good time to start the proper labour. smile

I'm never going to be in control of my life again am I? :/

Thank you women of mumsnet.

goblinthewitch were you o.k with the whole mum thing? I'm thinking i might have to carry on diarying everything in my life so it feels normal. I might set some deadlines for some stuff to stress myself out with......that will help.

SomethingOnce Sat 07-Sep-13 14:37:14

Nipple stimulation is thought to help start labour.

I couldn't say for sure if it was what worked for me.

Keep us posted.

BeanandGone Sat 07-Sep-13 14:39:00

I'll bet its a boy born at 3:44pm tomorrow

That made me cry...^^

Oddly enough....as I was typing "Klaxon" one sounded in some rubbish advert on the Yesterday channel!!!

And that....^^

you lot of randomers are so much better company than DH....2 hours ago he was telling me about motorbike faring...WTAF why would i want to know bout that?

Thank you smile

FrigginRexManningDay Sat 07-Sep-13 14:39:18

You'll be fine pet.
Stand with your feet apart and sway your bum from side to side. It will help get that head right down.
A bit tmi but do you feel like you need a poo?

BeanandGone Sat 07-Sep-13 14:43:03

Yeah, i need a poo smile itsallover the twinges are at night and cramps and then i get up and they go. If i sit down they come back. Had it for weeks on and off though..

Then i get some right shooting pains and practice contractions.

I might go and cook something...yes.

beepoff Sat 07-Sep-13 14:43:21

I had friends over for dinner at 40 + 7 and lo and behold had my first contraction that night. didn't meet DS for another 33 hours but that's another story...

MonstersDontCry Sat 07-Sep-13 14:48:07

I went into labour the day before I was meant to be induced, twice!

It's so shit being over due. I really feel for you. I had my DS 6 weeks ago and he was 2 weeks late. The last two weeks of pregnancy were horrible. My DP and mum said I was an absolute pain because all I did was cry and complain. grin

Anyway, the day before I went into labour and after my 4th sweep, I was getting BHs. Well I thought they were BH but they must have been contraction. You'd think id know what a contraction felt like after a previous 36 hour labour! So your BHs might be doing something.

Don't be so hard on yourself. Keep on your feet and walk around as much as you can. Any chance you could ask your midwife for another sweep? Sex? Good luck.

FrigginRexManningDay Sat 07-Sep-13 14:54:37

I'm going to guess your 'poo' is a head.

FrigginRexManningDay Sat 07-Sep-13 14:55:52

I'm wondering too if your watery discharge was leaking waters.

ItsAllOverTheFrontPage Sat 07-Sep-13 15:06:00

OP I had this. Is because you relax more at night so it 'begins'.

Are you usually (when not pregnant) partial to a glass of wine? I had this for a week, nighttime contractions, stopped when I got up to tell my then DP.

My doula suggested a glass of wine because it relaxes you more. I bought one of those tiny bottles.

I drank 1 large glass by 9pm, 10pm bed, 10.15pm one full on contraction followed by another. They were coming every minute by 11pm and he was born 3am.

So, you need a glass of wine tonight before bed.

BeanandGone Sat 07-Sep-13 15:32:46

itsallover Excellent. If ever i needed an excuse!!

Frigging i phoned the hospital and they said probably not yet as not enough of it...

We DTD last night! Dh is a bit freaked and can't look at the bump so it has to be obscured with a pillow. blush

I'm really embarrassed about the Sugarbabes. Don't judge me.

Gobbolinothewitchscat Italy Sat 07-Sep-13 15:45:31

bean - I'm so alright with the mum thing that DS is now 9 months and I'm 22 weeks pregnant with DC2 grin

Bit of a surprise. And, I'm not going back to work either grin. If you had told me this would be the situation a year ago, I would have thought you were mad!

I do diary everything on my iPhone grin. Don't miss my blackberry one bit!

This all sounds very promising. When I went into labour with DS, I think I was in early labour the day I freaked out at DH. Then spent the night in the bath - which was very pleasant. Got out and went to bed. Leaned over and felt something click (think it was DS' head!) and my waters went like Niagara falls. I think things will really ramp up tonight. Agree with the other posters that its usually night it all kicks off. Make sure yiu keep eating and drinking if you can

Gobbolinothewitchscat Italy Sat 07-Sep-13 15:46:31

Yes - yes. Totally agree with a glass of wine. A nice big glass of red. My doula recommended too

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