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To think that this 6th Form Dress Code is wrong.

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alistron1 Thu 05-Sep-13 18:30:34

DD1's 6th Form has a strict dress code of business/office wear. They have to look smart - which is fine.

This week it's been really hot, yesterday DD1 wore 'bare legs' with her very modest skirt suit. She got told off - initially for wearing flesh coloured tights (tights should be black) and was referred to the dress code which she brought home for me to read.

It contains this line:

"This is a mixed environment with particular implications for the way in which female students should dress."

AIBU to complain about this statement?

Hullygully Thu 05-Sep-13 18:32:11

No of course you're not.

alistron1 Thu 05-Sep-13 18:33:33

I'm feeling the rage you see Hully, and didn't know if the red mist had made me all unreasonable.

catgirl1976 England Thu 05-Sep-13 18:34:31

WTAF?

So there are no "implications" for the way male students should dress?

Awful statement.

Complain vociferously.

Bonsoir Thu 05-Sep-13 18:35:16

Bloody hell angry shock.

Send her in a chador.

Dawndonnaagain Thu 05-Sep-13 18:35:35

Wtaf!
There is no dress code at my dds sixth form, but I'd be shouting the odds if there were and that sentence were in it!

burberryqueen Thu 05-Sep-13 18:35:51

wtf is that supposed to mean then?
reminds me of deputy head to a girl who was being sexually harassed 'perhaps you should wear a looser shirt then'. Even DS 14 was gobsmacked.

Ezio Thu 05-Sep-13 18:36:30

WTF does that actually mean, your DD might have offended people of other religions?

alistron1 Thu 05-Sep-13 18:36:54

i'm composing an email which suggests that they either remove that statement or add one about male students controlling themselves around legs that are leg coloured, or something.

I need help with this email, I've drafted several ranty ones.

Bonsoir Thu 05-Sep-13 18:37:07

A summer dress with bare legs and no sleeves would be appropriate office wear in this weather.

Hullygully Thu 05-Sep-13 18:37:58

They've introduced bloody suits at my dc's school, and we all know it's because the girls were coming to school in their underwear with giant heels. But at least they haven't mentioned "implications"

Bonsoir Thu 05-Sep-13 18:38:05

Remind the school that it is in the UK not Saudi Arabia.

Ezio Thu 05-Sep-13 18:38:15

I would add in it, that is sounds like a very rape-apologist statement too.

How people insulting.

Ezio Thu 05-Sep-13 18:38:41

=bloody, so annoyed im getting it wrong.

MrsGarlic Thu 05-Sep-13 18:39:43

That is outrageous. I would definitely complain.

merrymouse Thu 05-Sep-13 18:39:56

Wow. black tights in summer is just plain odd.

Hullygully Thu 05-Sep-13 18:39:59

I fought the introduction of suits (hopelessly), and said that if the kids came dressed inappropriately (of either gender) they just send them home. The head of 6th form, actually quite a nice person, said they had to spend far too much teaching time on appearance.

No one cared when I were a lass. I went to school in stilettos and fishnets.

TheOriginalSteamingNit Thu 05-Sep-13 18:40:02

That's appalling, and I'd certainly be making some vociferous complaints.

DeathByTray Thu 05-Sep-13 18:41:53

You might need to send your complaint on a scroll, sealed with wax and by messenger on horseback as I think we have just slipped back in time.

Leg coloured legs, whatever next !

littlewhitebag Thu 05-Sep-13 18:42:14

They wear suits in my DD's school for sixth form. They are allowed to wear nude coloured tights and i have never seen a statement about 'implications' issued. Very bizarre indeed.

Rufus43 Thu 05-Sep-13 18:43:29

YANBU, we had a similar letter from our senior school

It said something along the lines of " so the girls don't have to deal with unwanted attention". I did get angry but decided that as my daughter hadn't even started yet that I ought to wait and see if that's the ethos of the school or just a badly worded letter

alistron1 Thu 05-Sep-13 18:43:56

I work in an office and often have bare legs. Didn't know there were implications. What are the implications anyway?!

noblegiraffe Thu 05-Sep-13 18:45:27

Surely if the attire is unsuitable for sixth form, then it is unsuitable for sixth form, regardless of whether any males happen to be in the area or not.

Otherwise it's suggesting that the only reason that inappropriate attire is inappropriate is because blokes may become overexcited.

alistron1 Thu 05-Sep-13 18:45:29

Rufus, was there any statement about boys being respectful etc? I suspect not.

It is like the 'she was asking for it' train of thought.

wonkylegs Thu 05-Sep-13 18:47:23

I'd be fuming and demanding that the school looks at the wording of it's policies.
I've no problem with office/ business wear for 6th formers but it should be overseen sensibly and equally.
The policy wording is at best frankly misguided and poorly phased at worst absolutely bloody unforgivable.
Schools should be teaching solid values of equality and responsibility not perpetuating sexist claptrap.
I'm so angry I can't put it in words, attitudes like this are the reason many girls do not report assault/harassment angry

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