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To think that my dad is a bit of a bad influence on my kids

(36 Posts)
BumFunHun Mon 02-Sep-13 14:37:21

Brief outline - he's been living with us for best part of a year after being booted out of his rented flat, and in return for us putting a roof over his head, helps out with childcare one day a week while I work.

In the last couple of months my 2yo has been coming out with some choice phrases; "I'm knackered" "Monty [cat] is a bumhole" "I farted from my mouth" "[baby] is a bum hole" and so on.

No 'swearing' as such (bum hole, knackered and fart aren't swearing in my book) but even so - hubby is getting the raving arse about it. I think it's not ideal, but am glad it's only these phrases she's picked up from him - it could be a lot worse. Tbf, if she chose one of my terms of endearments for the bloody cat it would be mortifying (he is a little shite at the moment)

So come on then - hit me with it! Do I need to have another word in the old man's ear? We've told him to watch his mouth around the kids before - but think it's probably a case of old habits die hard and all that jazz....

Backtobedlam Tue 03-Sep-13 07:40:31

I think the word bumhole is horrible, I'd rather they actually swore I think! It's all about what you find acceptable op, if these words aren't then speak to your dad.

Silverfoxballs Tue 03-Sep-13 07:41:26

I love the PLT, I am quite lacksidaisacal when it comes to language really. Depends on context used.

It is your house, a gentle chat should suffice.

wigglesrock Germany Tue 03-Sep-13 07:47:58

I always thought knackered came from being tired after too much sex -my mum never liked us saying it - too vulgar smile

I say knackered all the time, not in its historical context. My 2 year old dropped something the other day and muttered "Jesus Christ" I actually thought my husband had walked into the room.

dexter73 Tue 03-Sep-13 07:50:26

BumFunHun - your dad sounds brilliant!

ll31 Tue 03-Sep-13 08:01:48

Am not really seeing a problem tbh. maybe he's overstayed and thats whats annoying you

Vix1980 Tue 03-Sep-13 08:43:03

be grateful its just those mild words hes being saying in front of your children, i currently have an ongoing battle with fil when ds has filled his nappy he likes to point and tell him hes got a shitty arse, ds is trying his best to say it which he finds hysterical. i daydream about blowing fil up sometimes, only thing that gets me through the day sad

I guess there of a generation where it didnt matter, dp says he said things to him all the time when he was growing up, but i told him that was 30 odd years ago with his own kids, not mine here and now. I wont have ds going to nursery proclaiming hes got a shitty arse, it looks bad on us as parents! Id say something to him op, or better still get dp to and if he doesnt like it then he can start looking for somewere else to live. I dont think id survive if fil had to live with us!

cory Tue 03-Sep-13 08:48:07

I think the historical context of knackered is worn-out and ready for the knacker's yard and that any sexual meaning is actually secondary.

Leo35 Tue 03-Sep-13 08:54:38

Love the new version of That's not my car! So much better than the original. Hope the talk goes well. Your dad sounds a lot like mine - lots of irreverence and lots of fun.

Thymeout Tue 03-Sep-13 09:09:41

Well I think your dad sounds great. I love his sense of humour and new versions of bedtime stories - much better than the original. What lovely memories they're going to have. Good for them to have a variety of linguistic experience. Michael Rosen, ex Children's Laureate, would approve.

Tell your DH to lighten up.

Cookethenook Tue 03-Sep-13 09:36:36

I think it's quite sweet actually. Granddads are supposed to be a bit reckless imo. I think bum hole is a bit of a gross term too. I prefer arse, botty or bum!

My DF had DS up the shed the other day shooting at cans with an air riffle and telling 'rude' jokes to each other. His other Granddad gives him little sips of his whiskey and tells him even ruder jokes! I think it's lovely!

NotYoMomma Tue 03-Sep-13 10:20:17

knackered and ta are pretty normal where I live, the rest I wouldn't be impressed about

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