"Isn't he great with the kids?" when said in reference to my husband.
I know this has probably been done to death but I've heard it three times recently (all by young women) and it makes me want to scream!
Don't misunderstand me, my husband is a perfectly adequate father and loves our children very very much - but so fucking what? Looking after his own children and engaging with them, playing with them, is surely the bare minimum of what any parent should do. Not once has anyone been in conversation with DH and looked over, seen me interacting with my kids and said "Aah, isn't Pontouf great with the kids?" Because of course they fucking wouldn't. Nobody ever says in passing that a mother is good with their own kids. Why should it be worthy of comment that my husband is a competent parent purely because he is a bloke? And why should it only be noteworthy if a woman is a crap parent?
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Or just a bit po-faced to find this phrase infuriating!
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Pontouf · 02/09/2013 13:30
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