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To be angry at SIL for dangling DD?

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We met up with SIL and family today at an attraction with a viewing platform which was probably the equivalent of 1 storey high. SIL carried 10 month old DD up and lifted her so her legs were dangling over the side. She had her arm around her waist and then said something like "your mummy and daddy think I'm going to drop you!". Her husband made a jokey comment about the Michael Jackson baby dangling thing.

IABU to have internally freaked out about that? DH immediately went to get her back as he could see I wasn't happy. I didn't say anything as I think they already think I'm massively PFB with DD because I don't leave her to cry it out ever.

Was I being too protective?!?

Was her body over the drop or just her legs?

I don't think it's funny but if DD was safe I wouldn't make a fuss.

Well she was sort of resting her bottom on the top of the railing- supported but not fully sitting as she wasn't properly bent at the hips if you see what I mean?
Think I'm possibly a bit prickly about SIL sometimes so deliberately didn't comment at all. Was annoyed at her comment though as, if SIL thought we wouldn't be happy, then surely she shouldn't be doing it

She's baiting you, what a horrible woman.

FrussoHathor Mon 02-Sep-13 04:31:15

She sounds very immature.

Not pfb or U to me. The thought of dangling child makes me feel sick. But i have 3dcs that would arch their back or twist at random times,

I am glad that your DH got you dd back, to me that shows that he didn't like sil doing this either.
Do they have their own children?

FrillsandLaces Mon 02-Sep-13 04:31:18

I agree with Squinkie, definetly baiting you. Well done for not reacting! I would be really cross if that was my child, well bloody done x

Doubtfuldaphne Mon 02-Sep-13 05:01:36

What a bloody weird thing to do! I would go absolutely nuts if anyone did that to my baby. Why would anyone even do that with someone's baby?

BonaDrag Mon 02-Sep-13 05:11:45

YANBU. What a cunt. I would have knocked her out (after getting my child back) so you were very restrained.

ItWasLightCreamCheese Mon 02-Sep-13 05:21:59

That is something my sister would do. It is baiting; she's setting you up to look unhinged and overprotective when you protest. Why? Because she gets a kick out of it. What a pathetic individual she must be to get her thrills in such a way.

People like that are a waste of your time. I would steer well clear if I were you, OP.

cantreachmytoes Mon 02-Sep-13 05:27:45

Agree. Baiting and YADNBU.

Lilacroses Mon 02-Sep-13 05:32:57

What an idiot. No youare not being pfb. Any parent would freak at that, well I would anyway!

mykingdomforasleep Mon 02-Sep-13 05:44:12

You are so NBU! I would have freaked!

YADNBU!
I am PFB about my 5wo DD and I freak myself out just standing next to a window never mind dangling her over a railing! sad
Your SIL is a knobber!

TartanRug Mon 02-Sep-13 06:03:21

Yep, she was def trying to get a rise out of you. Cow.

Yay! Was starting to doubt myself. She's got 2 DDs. Feel much better now. Thanks lovely vipers

ihatethecold Mon 02-Sep-13 07:25:06

Horrid and spiteful
Why would anyone find that funny

pudcat Mon 02-Sep-13 07:31:23

YANBU What a dreadful thing to do. Not only to you but to your daughter. Your daughter only had to wriggle quickly for your SIL to lose her grip. Then to say that to you. That was really nasty.. I would make sure she never looks after your daughter on her own.

bootsycollins Mon 02-Sep-13 07:36:25

I feel sick reading this, vile woman. Don't ever leave dd unattended with her, in fact have as minimum contact as possible life's hard enough.

Retroformica Mon 02-Sep-13 07:36:44

She shouldn't have done it. Would i partially hang a child over a one story drop - no! What if someone had knocked me or I'd tripped

Slainte Mon 02-Sep-13 07:40:02

Hearing about a baby being held like that made my stomach flip with worry. All it would take for a tragedy is one little toddler twist.

YADNBU.

recall Mon 02-Sep-13 07:40:24

This would have freaked me out shock

ILoveAFullFridge Mon 02-Sep-13 07:48:18

I might do that with one of my own dc, but never with someone else's. shock

Agree with the other posters- she's baiting you. Well done for not rising to it.

Toizzy Mon 02-Sep-13 07:51:03

yanbu
What if your baby had suddenly jerked?
My bil had quite a fright several months ago while he was holding his baby boy, 9 months at the time i think, just on his lap and the little lad nearly ended up smashing his head on the hard tile floor when he suddenly jerked it back.
Pretty stupid thing to do what your sil did IMO.

Toizzy Mon 02-Sep-13 07:54:06

Btw please could someone explain PFB?

McPie Mon 02-Sep-13 07:54:16

I have 3 dc, 12yo ds and 6 yo dtwin,s and I freak out when the eldest leans out of an upstairs window never mind the youngest two!
Shes a horrible woman for even thinking that was funny in the slightest, kids are unpredictable and what could have happened if your baby freaked out and she lost control chills me to the bones!

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