To think my husband has been spying on me?

(33 Posts)
midori1999 Sun 01-Sep-13 18:27:56

We had a row today and I went out. He text to ask where I was and I said in the car. He then said 'if you're anywhere near xxx can you please collect xxx'. I was near there as it happens.

I've just checked my emails and I've got one saying my iPhone has been found at xxx. (Where I was today) I haven't put an app like this on my phone, although it did used to be DH's phone. However, it's now linked to all my details/my iTunes account etc but I don't know much about phones etc so DH set it all up for me.

I've asked DH what the email is about and he's denying all knowledge.

AIBU to think he's put an app on my phone to spy on me and to wonder if he's got a guilty conscience for doing so?! I'm 34 weeks pregnant FFS. What exactly does he think I'm doing?! confused

WafflyVersatile Sun 01-Sep-13 21:41:27

Take it into an apple shop. Get them to go through it and remove stuff you don't want and change passwords.

midori1999 Sun 01-Sep-13 23:56:27

Well I'm still angry about it. I think he had downloaded an app onto his ipad to find my phone from what I can gather.

I haven't really spoken to him about it and horribly had to dash off to the emergency vets with one of my rabbits who has sadly died, so I don't really feel like talking to my DH about all this. Suffice to say though, he is still blaming me, I 'keep going off' apparently... hmm

Bogeyface Mon 02-Sep-13 00:00:14

I hate to tell you this but you are more likely to be check up on and accused of doing something/being somewhere you shouldnt by a cheating person than an innocent person.

I smell projection.

Sorry sad

ShellyBoobs Mon 02-Sep-13 00:11:02

He sounds dodgy as fuck. Any other red flags you can think of?

Yep, see if you can pin anything else on him.

BitBewildered Mon 02-Sep-13 00:12:53

OP, you can turn 'Find My iPhone' off by clicking on:

Settings

Privacy

Location Services

Find My iPhone

and then click the blue 'ON' and it will become a grey 'OFF'.

kali110 Mon 02-Sep-13 00:22:51

Op he may have downloaded it before he gave you the phone, it was first app i ever downloaded, but then never told you what it was for when he gave you the phone and used it to see where you were.
Do other posters think hes really playing away? Suppose he could use the app to check where you were, as he knows you wouldnt know about the app.

CSIJanner Mon 02-Sep-13 05:03:20

My DH downloaded this onto my phone but with my full knowledge and permission. I'm crap for putting things down and then not remembering where I left them. He did use it the week when I "just dropped by" to leave a birthday present and then left about 1hr later. DC2 was hungry and he kept looking at it thinking he needed to cook, and that I was gabbing again. He was right.

On a plus note, you can remove the app by following these instructions

However, enough about me! YANBU - he should have told you that it was on. It isn't your fault for "going off" as sometimes just some time out helps with an argument. It's his for being dishonest about it. Compounding the lies with the airgun sale does not help either. There are trust and boundary issues here.

CSIJanner Mon 02-Sep-13 05:05:57

Oh - and just downloading the app is bollocks as you have to have the iPhone at home on the cloud to register it on. He then would have had to turn your settings on and then add your apple ID to the app. He's talking bollocks.

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