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...to suggest to my DD1 (16) that she should go to the gym?

(53 Posts)
UneBelleCerise Tue 27-Aug-13 13:43:31

She is not overweight. In fact, she is slightly underweight but has steadily been putting weight on over the last two years, which is a relief.

Her high metabolism means she eats a lot of unhealthy food regularly (crisps, biscuits, chocolates) and never gets fat - lucky sod!

However she has a family history of heart disease from her father's side, so AIBU to suggest to her that she does cardio at the gym a few times a week? She is not very fit either.

Could you get her a personal trainer at the gym too? Just so it seems less bewildering for her.

Squitten Tue 27-Aug-13 13:47:06

Maybe suggest she stops eating crap?

UneBelleCerise Tue 27-Aug-13 13:47:47

ManAlive, yes I think I could. She can meet him at the induction to the gym and he is very friendly. The gym I am suggesting is also familiar to her as it is part of the racquets club where she plays badminton.

TiffanyAtBreakfast Tue 27-Aug-13 13:48:49

If you do suggest it, please go carefully. I ended up having a very dysfunctional relationship with food because my mum and dad were obsessed and commented on my weight all the time even though I wasn't overweight (I am now!).

UneBelleCerise Tue 27-Aug-13 13:49:10

Squitten we are trying to cut down on crap as a family but despite the fact it is unhealthy I'd rather see her eat as her appetite is not big. We are also vegetarian so putting on weight is quite hard.

TiffanyAtBreakfast Tue 27-Aug-13 13:49:40

Definitely agree with Squitten in thinking the focus here should be on her food habits and not just exercise.

Bonsoir Tue 27-Aug-13 13:49:49

Changing her diet would be my first priority.

If she plays badminton can you not approach it from that angle or encourage her to play more badminton or a different sport.

Bonsoir Tue 27-Aug-13 13:51:11

Why are you vegetarian? Is she eating crap because she lacks protein and is hungry?

UneBelleCerise Tue 27-Aug-13 13:51:15

Thanks Tiffany - you raise a valid point. I am thinking of joining with her for support. I'll see if I can slip it into a conversation.

By no means do I want to impose a diet on her of any sort - hence not complaining about eating crap.

Nottalotta Tue 27-Aug-13 13:51:59

I find the gym uber boring but LOVE exercise classes - zumba, step, body combat etc. They are more fun and might appeal more to her?

Nottalotta Tue 27-Aug-13 13:52:59

I find the gym uber boring but LOVE exercise classes - zumba, step, body combat etc. They are more fun and might appeal more to her?

Squitten Tue 27-Aug-13 13:53:25

Why does she need to eat junk though? If she's hungry, why can't she eat healthy food?

UneBelleCerise Tue 27-Aug-13 13:54:03

Bonsoir we were initially vegetarian due to religion but I have given DD the option of eating meat now that she is older. She has always refused and is now vegetarian because of her own views on animal rights.

Our diet does not lack protein. We have some form of lentils/pulses daily.

Squitten Tue 27-Aug-13 13:54:13

I wouldn't complain at her for eating junk - just don't buy it!

UneBelleCerise Tue 27-Aug-13 13:57:02

Squitten, this is the issue. I have stopped buying junk and the fridge is stocked with fresh fruit.

I have started making homemade juices in the morning and am pushing healthier snacks like carrot sticks and hummus.

Naturally they seem less appealing than a bar of chocolate however! grin

livinginwonderland Tue 27-Aug-13 14:00:46

Junk is a quick fix when you're hungry. It fills you up quickly, but because it doesn't last, you're hungry again a couple of hours later. I would focus on fixing her diet before you try and push the exercise route.

Seaweedy Tue 27-Aug-13 14:01:08

I think that vegetarians having difficulty putting weight on is a bit of a fallacy, OP (speaking as a fellow vegetarian). You say yourself that she has been gaining weight for some time, and that sounds like a pretty processed carbs-and-cheap-fats diet which is likely to cause weight gain even to a meat-free person.

Agreeing with those who say her diet needs addressing, rather than her activity levels. Whoever made the point about making sure she gets enough protein could well be right, too. Vegetarians who don't get enough protein often end up eating too much carbohydrate, in my experience.

Seaweedy Tue 27-Aug-13 14:02:52

Cheese, or don't you eat dairy products? Eggs?

WorraLiberty England Tue 27-Aug-13 14:03:36

If she plays badminton, is she not already quite fit?

Or does she not play often?

eurochick Tue 27-Aug-13 14:05:01

I think diet is the issue here, although being more active is always a good thing.

UneBelleCerise Tue 27-Aug-13 14:13:25

WorraLiberty she plays once a week for 2 hours.

To all others, what are your suggestions to mend her diet? Dairy products are fine but not egg - she is allergic.

lljkk Netherlands Tue 27-Aug-13 15:55:47

exercise is good for most of us. yanbu on that part.

Have known plenty of fat vegetarians, mind. And junk food is really bad for your teeth, too.

Nottalotta Tue 27-Aug-13 16:52:25

She doesn't need to lose weight but you want her to be active? I can't see an issue with that. I think you are right about not worrying too much about her diet. Shes 16 fgs! You presumably give her healthy meals but she snacks on junk? When i was 16 i ws very very slim, waas provided with plentiful healthy breakfast and a proper evening meal. I usually spent my lunch money on fags and an iced bun!

Better some choclate than 10 B & H!!

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