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To just want to be on my own?

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DS had a (minor) operation last week. Needs me all the time cos he's fed up poor little thing as he is in some pain which is controlled with painkillers. DD1 is a hard work child (very emotional will cry if you look at her the wrong way) DD2 is getting bored at home and wants to go to nursery.
They are driving me mad with the noise and the constant screaming, fighting and complaining about anything and everything. They are only 6,5 and 3 and I love them all dearly but my GOD they seem like they were sent to me just to make my life Hell!
On top of this we were out yesterday with my Dsis, BIL and DNs. DSis (again love her dearly and would defend her to anyone) is very impatient with adults. Its as though she takes it as a personal affront if you haven't read her mind. DH got annoyed with me as I was paying attention to DN and not DD2 for literally 30 seconds, according to him why don't I pay attention to my own children? That hurt me a lot. He was nit picky all day. EVERYONE seems to either need me for something, wants to tell me something, wants me to tell me that I'm not good enough, I'm doing things the wrong way, not doing things well enough, quick enough or what ever.
AIBU to just want to go off on my own somewhere for a day? Or a few hours. And not to the supermarket.

mikkii Wed 28-Aug-13 22:36:22

DH has gone skiing every year since DS was born. I too love to ski (I seem to recall, it's been 10 years since I did) but we can't afford to all go.

This October I am going to Greece with DH's cousin (who I get along really well with) for 5 days. No kids, no DH.

DH cousin has suggested (if we enjoy each others company for an extended period of time) that we make this an annual event.

Just think, a plane ride with out screaming kids, a glass of wine, late nights, book over breakfast, sunbathing on he beach, only swimming if I want to (DD2 is nearly 3 so can't go in alone, although DS and DD1 are like fish so I watch them from the side)

BlackeyedSusan Wed 28-Aug-13 22:43:13

oooch somerset, thata was below the belt.

biook the hotel!

somerset wow! Definitely below the belt!

What's stopping me making it happen? Well ... the old chestnut of no money for hotel stay. Other than that by the time it gets to DH coming home I'm so tired I can barely concentrate and flopping in front of the tv is about as much as I can muster. I realise I sound defeatist. In december we have a night away for DHs work christmas 'do' and im looking forward to it. Do you think I could feign a headache tho, forgo the meal and disco and spend the night in the room alone? hmm

Incidentally im up at stupid oclock as 3 yo DD has decided sleep isfor wimps and has a 4 hour 'lively' window in the middle of the night 3-4 timws a week. Its me that invariably gets up. yawn

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Stupid phone...sorry for all the self piying posts I'll pull my socks up now.

MorrisZapp Thu 29-Aug-13 10:19:13

No, no, no. This is no way to live. Be like me! Walk out the door with nary a backward glance every chance you get. Your kids are lucky, they are loved and cherished and well cared for. Don't sweat the small print.

They won't suffer if you leave them for a bit. Your DH won't suffer much if he has them on his own.

I'm a spoiled git, I take regular breaks and enjoy train travel, leisurely coffees etc pretty much whenever I want. I'd be in the nuthouse otherwise. Kids are great but please don't forget yourself in all of this. Think of your own inner child, she needs nurturing too.

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