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to think you shouldn't post pictures of someone else's DC to Facebook without asking permission?(82 Posts)
Possibly being a bit over tired and pfb, but have been having visitors over the past few days to meet my divine week-old DD. Am knackered, but pleased to see everyone and understand they all want pictures of themselves holding the baby. But now they've all started popping up all over Facebook and it's just really winding me up. Not sure exactly why, I just feel it's really rude to broadcast pictures if someone else's baby without even asking first! AIBU?
I don't tend to post pictures of other people's children on Facebook unless I know they are happy with it or they are prolific photo posters who have shared pictures of my DC. I also don't post photos of anyone who isn't on Facebook themselves.
I also work with social media and don't find the future particularly alarming. I actively like the way my aunt in Canada and another in Norway can discuss who my baby looks like on social media by commenting on my photo. I loved when friends posted lovely comments and photos after visiting my recent newborn. Having said that, I only post rarely as I don't want to bore everyone rigid.
I am more concerned about the lack of sense current teenagers show in what they post. I have several teen cousins who post not-cryptic-enough messages about sex, parties and drugs without much thought of how easy this is for future employers to access. That is doing a lot more damage in my eyes than some boring photos of them at a party as children would be.
Wow guess I should remove all the pics of my Dniece and Dnephew (all pics set to friends only) from all our days out over the years.... Yeah, really isn't going to happen unless Dsis tells me to which she isn't
YAB sort of U If you don't want your dc to ever have a photo on facebook that YOU haven't put there then never let them leave the house or go anywhere with their friends (when they're old enough to have them) or family.
They are your family and friends. They want to share special moments with their family and friends, they choose to do this via facebook.
YABU. Ask/tell them when they take the photos or just say no photos thanks
I get that it's your baby and you have the final say in matters regarding what happens to your baby, but I'm not sure how it works saying you never want a picture of your child appearing on Facebook. You may know that none of your friends have posted pictures as you have access to their profiles, but you don't know if someone else took a photo of your child in the school play or at the park or a birthday party. I am more concerned about these photos as I don't know who has access to them than photos my friends post of my children as I trust the people on my friends list as I know them. Do that make sense? Im Just not sure you can stop pictures of your children ever appearing on Facebook unless you stop them going out the front door.
I don't think you're being pfb at all. I wouldn't dream of putting a photograph of anyone, adult or child, on any internet site unless I had their permission to do so. It wouldn't even occur to me that anybody would 'do' anything with the pictures, but it's up to the parents to decide whether their child has their photos on public display or not, not some well meaning friend or relative.
It's the same with adults. I don't have a fb page, I don't put photos of myself on any Internet site because I don't want them out there and my DH knows never to put pics of me on his fb page. On our wedding invites, we even included a request not to put any photos of me on fb. (My DH doesn't feel this way and really doesn't care) And yet I still had several people put photos of me on their walls because they didn't understand why I wouldn't want them to be there. The point is that I just don't and I don't have to provide a satisfactory explanation of why I don't. And if someone thinks that it's acceptable behaviour to ignore that fact, then they are incredibly rude.
Sorry, I get a real bee in my bonnet about this subject!
I think it depends on who it is and how old your child is! I wouldn't really mind friends and family putting up pics of my child - as long as they were dressed etc. and not in a completely open forum/profile. Some privacy with pictures should be expected, but in a "just for friends" facebook profile for example, it'd be alright for me personally.
I think the sensible thing would be to ask the parent first, if the child is under 12. If the child's over 12, then you'd want to ask the child for sure.
I can understand how you feel but its a loosing battle really.
noone is that interested in other people's children to be honest unless they are friends/family.
your baby is big news to a small circle of friends/family so enjoy it.
don't let Facebook get to you this early😄😄
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