Note: Please bear in mind that whilst this topic does canvass opinions, it is not a fight club. You may disagree with other posters but we do ask you please to stick to our Talk Guidelines and to be civil. We don't allow personal attacks or troll-hunting. Do please report any. Thanks, MNHQ.

¨To send a copied and pasted Facebook Conversation to the superior at somebody's work

(268 Posts)

Most of what happens on Facebook just wash over me.
But today I got really really pissed off, and the latent feminist in me made a silent ROAR.

I am a member of a Selling/swap page on Facebook for my home town. A man posted asking if somebody knew a place on Facebook to post a job advert. (Vacant position) He attached a screenshot from his mobile detailing the job. He wrote in slang, outlining it was mostly lifting heavy boxes from delivery vans and putting them in storage, saying "this job is not for women".

A woman posted saying she did not think he could phrase it like that as it was discriminating against women. He replied saying in broad terms "you come and try out this job for a day babe and you will see it is not for women". She replied she worked in health care and did not need another job, she just wanted to point out that she did not think it could be phrased that way. A barrage of abuse from him, and various other men, mocking her being a woman, mocking her working in health care, and saying stuff like "of course, working in health care you have the time to make dumbass replies online" etc

I googled his name. Lo and behold he is general manager of the local branch. He has also taken part in a national reality show similar to Temptation Island, drives a Hot car with a Hot girlfriend in 6th form.

A woman posted saying she did 90kg in weights and would love a job with heavy lifting. He replied, he did not really want to meet a woman who could do that job, as he would not fancy a woman who could do such physical work without problems. He wondered if he should repost on lezbo.org.

His girlfriend posted laughing at all the women who felt affronted that they could not do the job.

He wondered if he should repost and hope that he would not get replies from "half brains" and idiots.

It was most absurd, most of the people posting were trying to help him see that it was against the law to post a job advert that was blatantly discriminating against a specific gender, and that not all men would be able to do that job. He was offensive to all of them.

As he is the gm of the local branch of a privately owned medium sized nationwide company, I am so tempted to email the entire conversation, with 30 comments mocking women and generally just being an arse to head office.

I dont know WHY the whole thing has angered me so much.

Should I just let it go thinking "Just another horrible arse" and be glad I dont actually know him at all.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Mon 02-Sep-13 22:54:21

Adding my two pennorth' as well. I want to know what happens!

fuckwittery Mon 02-Sep-13 21:45:36

Place marking!

CouldHaveMadeIt Mon 02-Sep-13 21:32:41

Also intrigued.

CamomileHoneyVanilla Mon 02-Sep-13 20:57:59

Further bump - please don't let this go.

GobTheGoblin Mon 02-Sep-13 19:11:25

Quint, have you heard from the company yet?

Mintyy Sat 31-Aug-13 13:27:29

Very interested to hear how this turns out!

Did the email end up with him? Or did it go to head office? I would send again asking whether they had received it along with cc-ing press office etc

sooperdooper Sat 31-Aug-13 08:13:33

I'd send them to your local paper and radio stations rather than their press office, they've had an opportunity to respond and haven't, I wouldnt try again

I bet your local press would be interested, and I can imagine it'd make a great radio discussion/phone in

AlphaBetaOoda Sat 31-Aug-13 08:01:40

shock

If you don't get responses , send again with links to here & talk press.

LegoCaltrops Sat 31-Aug-13 06:38:43

Good idea Belle. please keep updated OP! I really hope they reply this time but the pessimist in me says they won't.

BelleEtLaBaby Sat 31-Aug-13 02:16:08

A few people have murmured about not wanting to be the cause of someone losing their job due to telling. Can I just say - if he were to lose his job it would be because of his actions, NOT because someone reported his actions. Sorry, but reporting behaviour is important and if he were to lose his job it would be because he did something which the company found to be unacceptable. HE would be the cause. What he did/said was discriminatory, offensive and (I think) illegal.

There was an interesting discussion about sexism in football on the radio the other day. Basically one of the points that stood out to me was when someone said women accept sexism with a kind of shrug as we've sort of come to expect it. But take an instance of blatant sexism - in this example, sexist language used at football matches such as 'kicks like a girl' - and replace the sexist term with a racial one, and you're instantly horrified. It makes you pay attention to sexism when you do that. Everyone on here has said how shocking this example is - that there are plenty of men who can't lift much, and I've worked in bars with plenty of women who could do large barrel loads and changes without breaking a sweat - and this blokes general disregard for women. It's a very blatant example and exactly why it should be challenged and reported.

I've just read this back - I'm heavily pregnant, rambling a bit and not sure what my point is exactly. But I agree - well done for posting it and definitely follow this up - email again asking for a response and tell them if you don't get a response by a certain date you will be contacting the press.

mignonette Fri 30-Aug-13 23:25:16

excellent idea Quint.

savvymoo Fri 30-Aug-13 23:21:31

Send it to the press office of the company. In fact if you pm someone from this thread one of us could do it for you, if you didn't want to out yourself. I would be happy to do it.

When I get home, and have access to a printer, I will print off the screengrabs along with my email to the company, and post it to the founders and main share holders.

gaggiagirl Fri 30-Aug-13 23:09:15

I agree this should go public.

mignonette Fri 30-Aug-13 23:06:55

About time this went public.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Fri 30-Aug-13 23:05:46

Name them. I want to know what company allows this kind of shit. They're hoping it will blow over...

A wanker he may be, but I have just perused the local FB page for the company, and as the manager, the fb is all his doing. I like his marketing strategy, what he is doing on the company FB page. Lots of competitions, and people winning fruit baskets, lots of veg. fruit baskets delivered to nursing homes to "brighten the day" etc.
But not a word from the company no.

dirtyface Fri 30-Aug-13 17:57:57

sorry posted too quick

meant to add, what a total wanker, i would send it to them if you havent already

dirtyface Fri 30-Aug-13 17:57:12

I was all prepared to say don't do it when I read the title.

Then I read the post.

gaggiagirl Fri 30-Aug-13 17:52:24

Any update OP?x

wokeupwithasmile Thu 29-Aug-13 20:45:25

uuups, did not realise there were three pages of this and sent it after the first....

wokeupwithasmile Thu 29-Aug-13 20:40:36

Please give all to me if you are unsure. I would be SO happy to be the one who sends it.

AmandaCooper Thu 29-Aug-13 18:57:16

Lesmiss I meant why not give the company the benefit of the doubt. Perhaps it can distance itself; perhaps it has taken action in response to the OP's complaint. Who knows? It doesn't have to keep an external complainant in the loop.

grin

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now