to consider living next door to my MIL?

(74 Posts)
SuperFlea Mon 26-Aug-13 15:40:02

MIL is lovely but can be quite overbearing sometimes, she's quite loud and chatty. I get on with her great but wouldn't want to spend lots of time with her. Currently we live about 5 miles away and initially we were concerned she would be "popping round" all the time. As it happens, she hasn't and only does so every now and again. (We are a drive away though).
A house has come up for sale just a few houses down from MIL, lovely house, great potential, cheap and in the village location OH idolises.
You can see the house from MILs!

Would you want to live so close to your in-laws?

Floralnomad Mon 26-Aug-13 15:41:18

No .

IvanaCake Mon 26-Aug-13 15:42:09

No. Fucking. Way.

And my in-laws are lovely by the way!

DaleyBump Mon 26-Aug-13 15:42:17

Never ever ever ever x500. Not in a million years. But then, I hate my MIL. FIL, maybe.

YouTheCat Mon 26-Aug-13 15:42:51

No. Absolutely no way. I lived with mine for 16 years. It was not fun and I can imagine that had it just been a matter of a few houses away, it would have been much the same.

Constant interference. Constant stupid bloody arguments (instigated by her). Constant stress.

Floralnomad Mon 26-Aug-13 15:42:59

That said I'd be happy to live next door to my mum !

Not a cats chance in hell, but then you are not me and your Mil isn't MY Mil. It totally depends on your relationship with her but from your OP I suggest not. If you find her over bearing it would be a no go area I think. What does your DH think?

lotsofdirections Mon 26-Aug-13 15:44:35

Yes I lived for many happy years a one minute walk from my IL's. We had a rule, both sides, that we would never call in without a phone call in advance. It worked brilliantly and now they are both dead I can never pass their house without a pang.

Yes, we get on well.

I would still talk about not popping round without calling etc as she and us are entitled to privacy

cocolepew Mon 26-Aug-13 15:45:45

Never in a million years.

youmeatsix Mon 26-Aug-13 15:46:18

wouldnt bother me, i am able enough to talk it over and set boundaries, we are all rational adults with our own lives

ElaineVintage Mon 26-Aug-13 15:46:21

No way. Never. Nada. Not on your nelly.

redexpat Mon 26-Aug-13 15:47:37

I would. I bloody LOVE my MIL. She is very good at reading people and knows that I like notification before she comes round. She respects that. Would your MIL do the same?

No because my inlaws are toxic, dysfunctional & controlling. But having said that it all depends on how you get on with your mil in this situation.

Finola1step Mon 26-Aug-13 15:50:13

Only if there was a very clear understanding that both sides calls first before popping in.

diddl Mon 26-Aug-13 15:53:31

I don't particularly like my ILs, but I think that they could be trusted to not keep popping in tbh.

That said, Ils are in a village, but no way would I want to live there.

Would you like to live in the village that your ILs are in, OP?

SantanaLopez Mon 26-Aug-13 15:54:52

Have you never seen Everybody Loves Raymond?!

My MIL used to drive over and sit outside our flat waiting for us to come home from work. If we were late she'd start phoning. We now live abroad. grin

queenebay Mon 26-Aug-13 16:01:33

No no no and no to living near my own mother too!

Kiwiinkits Mon 26-Aug-13 16:02:32

Fuck. No.

ShipwreckedAndComatose Mon 26-Aug-13 16:02:43

Yeah, I would. But then I get on with my mil very well.

Thaumatrope Mon 26-Aug-13 16:03:05

I have done this.
And my advice is: don't!

primallass Mon 26-Aug-13 16:03:07

Mine. Definitely. It would be fine. They were going to move here and didn't and I am still miffed grin

InTheFace Mon 26-Aug-13 16:03:58

I get on well with my ILs and my own parents, but I wouldn't live so close to them. There's just no need, there are plenty of other houses in the world.

Such proximity could create all sorts of problems, why deliberately put yourself in the path of trouble?

DorisShutt Mon 26-Aug-13 16:04:54

I would, but I luffs my MIL. I'd move in with her if I could nothing to do with their wine collection in any way, nope, not that

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