This is probably going to be really long, I don't want to dripfeed!
Me, DP and our 2yo DD. A week in Cornwall in a static caravan, with MIL, 18yo BIL and 21yo BIL. It would be bad enough like that, as BILs tend to argue over the smallest things, and MIL is a super clean freak, she never EVER does things 'in a minute', everything has to be done NOW. I am the total opposite, quite happy to leave washing up until the next day etc. me and MIL get on, but we cannot live together. I have been dreading the holiday from the day it was agreed. This is the only way we can afford to go on holiday though and we do need a holiday because we've had the shittiest year imaginable, my brother got stabbed and spent 4 months in hospital, my grandad died, my dog killed my rabbit, we bought a new (to us) car that's turned out to be riddled with problems, and on Monday DP had a bad accident at work with a Stihl saw and can't do anything so I'm having to run around after both him and DD. i even gave to bath him!
We've just been informed that oldest BILs (who isn't coming) son will be coming with us, his DS is also 2. Our DD is so laid back, she's (mostly) a lovely, cheery little soul who is a joy to be around and she stays in bed until 8.30-9am most mornings. DN is the polar opposite, he screams, cries, has complete meltdowns over the tiniest thing and wakes up at the crack of dawn. He spends the majority of his days in tears. It wouldn't be so bad if us 3 could escape for the day but DP might not be able to drive by the time holiday comes around and I don't drive.
I just don't want to go now. If I didn't want to go before, I certainly don't now. Would it be so terrible to fib to DP and tell him that the dogs other family aren't able to have him for the week so I'll just have to stay home? Either that or I'll happily accept donations of alcohol and hip flasks to get me through the nightmare week :(
I have my flameproof suit and hardhat at the ready, just in case I'm being incredibly bitchy to not want to go.
Aibu?
AIBU?
To be dreading our upcoming 'holiday'?
TheCunnyFunt · 25/08/2013 20:18
I'd avoid, avoid, avoid. Your DH's accident, needing his own bed etc is the perfect excuse. I say this having been on a holiday with FIL at the beginning of the summer, from which I am still recovering and wish I hadn't been on as he drove me mad and taught the kids all kinds of bad habits which I'm still trying to undo 
The odds are against you having a nice or relaxing time and it sounds like a week at home would do you far more good than a week crammed in a caravan with all that drama going on.
Your DH has had an accident and can't drive.
Tell them you are really really sorry but you can't come. I suspect they will be relieved to know there will only be 5 people instead of 8 (including 2 toddlers!) + a dog in a static caravan! 
I've got a feeling that you're going to get a bad case of D&V in the next few days and then, well it would be irresponsible to go and give everyone else it 
And how on god's earth do you get your 2 year old to stay in bed so late - I would have been so envious of that a couple of years back 
Send DP - tell him it will "do him good to get away for a nice rest and to recuperate from his accident" and you and your DD stay home because "it will make so much more work for poo MiL and she will want to look after DP when he's poorly".
Assume a martyred expression and sigh a bit but insist they go without you and DD, then lay in a stock of Disney DVDs, popcorn, buy each of you a onesie 
and make a fort from the sofa cushions on the living room floor for you and DD to have your own holiday at home.
Poo Mil .
Agree totally with Pombear.
You know you want to and it is a nice neat path to a win-win situation.
You can't possibly go with that awful stomach bug that you've got now, can you?
Autumn's description of it as the ninth circle of hell just sums it up nicely.
What if it rains incessantly and you're stuck watching the kettle boil for entertainment? (Father Ted ).
Or looking at the clock at 7.30am and working out you've got to get through 16/17 hours of it before you can crawl back into bed.
It's making me feel imprisoned you just describing it, please get yourself out of it. It'll be like the feeling of getting the day off school if you can, you'll appreciate every second of that time and your DD will be just as happy at home as she would on holiday.
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Having just been on a holiday where my laid back, sleep late, generally rather angelic (nowt to do with me btw- she was just born like it ) DD has been the brunt of tantrums, tale telling, deviousness and crack of dawn waking. All from a friends DD who is the same age. DD "enjoyed" the holiday because that's what she was there for etc. but seriously, the kid was so relieved to skip back through our door it made me realise that it hadnt been fair on her at all.
Yours is younger and I bet you experience a marked deterioration in her behaviour on your return!
Don't do it! I can't see how you will get 8 in anyway. I lived in a static for 2 years and they are TINY!
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