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AIBU?

To want to sleep in same bed as ds forever

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Pinkpinot · 24/08/2013 00:38

Well, until he doesn't want to anymore
He's nearly 6
We've been away for a lot of the holidays, so shared a bed
He's so lovely and snuggly
And still wants to cuddle his mummy
Even though he's told me he hates me a couple of times this week Sad

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BitchyRestingFace · 24/08/2013 00:40

YANBU

DS is 5 and sleeps with me every night. It's the best Smile

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gallicgirl · 24/08/2013 00:41

Mmmm would be awkward when he hits puberty!

Sleepy snuggles are lovely though, aren't they?

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beaglesaresweet · 24/08/2013 00:42

hmm, as far it's healthy for him? children who grow up being very attached/clingy to Mum, have lots of problems when they grow up, esp with relationships.

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RagamuffinAndFidget · 24/08/2013 00:45

What rubbish beagles - how can a child who gets love and closeness from their parents as long as they want it grow up to have 'problems in relationships'?!

OP, I hope you have a good few more sniffly nights ahead of you. I love having my boys cuddled up to me.. although DS1 has developed a habit of sleeping at the foot of the bed so I inadvertently kick him during the night which isn't quite so cuddly!

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SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 24/08/2013 00:46
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AgentZigzag · 24/08/2013 00:48

Awww, having a cuddle with your mum in bed at 6 YO isn't 'very attached/clingy' Beagle, it gives small children security.

YANBU OP, and I'm sure he's just testing out what effect his words can have on other people with the Kevin-style 'I hate you'.

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AgentZigzag · 24/08/2013 00:50

Saggy Grin

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RagamuffinAndFidget · 24/08/2013 00:50

*snuggly nights!

'sniffly'? WTAF?

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SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 24/08/2013 00:53

Yes, bollocks to all of that 'clingy' rubbish! DS might be 17 and hairy, but he still loves a cuddle! He's hardly Oedipus!
He's banned from the bed though after he lept into it between dp and I the other week and broke 2 slats! Confused

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MoominsYonisAreScary · 24/08/2013 00:53

The little ones yes, the 18 year old not so much Grin

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Pinkpinot · 24/08/2013 01:02

I can't imagine doing it when he's 18, he'll really hate me by them, I'm sure.

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LinusVanPelt · 24/08/2013 01:16

I have just woken up in dd's bed (she's 3.5) after snuggling up at her bedtime for what was supposed to be a quick cuddle to settle her. I fell into a deep, lovely, cozy sleep, breathing in the smell of her little neck and with her drowsily stroking my hair. It's heavenly.

YANBU :)

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SabrinaMulhollandJjones · 24/08/2013 01:19

YANBU. But you can't.

Sad Grin

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Bunnyjo · 24/08/2013 01:19

I'm about to tuck myself up next to DS, who is 2. I love snuggling him on a night and, as he's just self weaned Sad, I want to treasure these moments for just a little longer.

When we were on holiday myself, DH, DD (just turned 6) and DS all snuggled up in a superking bed, despite there being another double bed in the room! If DH got too warm, he retreated to the other bed Grin

And, sorry beagles, but you're spouting utter garbage. Google attachment theory, and the studies around it, to see why.

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SabrinaMulhollandJjones · 24/08/2013 01:19

Well, maybe for a little bit longer... Smile

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AgentZigzag · 24/08/2013 01:23

DD2's 3.5 too, and gets in our bed every most nights, fucking hell she's boiling Grin

Especially in this weather

Does it worry you when he says he hates you Pinkpinot? You don't really think he does do you?

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MarcelineTheVampireQueen · 24/08/2013 01:25

Every night when I put my seven year old to bed, we cuddle in and talk about the day. I hope that never ends.

Too clingy, my arse. A child who knows they are loved can never be too clingy.

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MoominsYonisAreScary · 24/08/2013 01:30

No im sure he won't, 18 year olds can be really loving. Mines always giving me hugs and patting me on the head as he's so tall. He's just too big and smelly if his rooms anything to go by to have in the bed.

I wish my 18 year old was here now, he flew off Thursday on his first lads holiday

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AgentZigzag · 24/08/2013 01:34

Don't look at his facebook Moomins Grin

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MoominsYonisAreScary · 24/08/2013 01:38

I bet you my mum is stalking his fb Agent, his phone isn't working for some reason so he's sending the odd fb message letting us know what he's up to

I found myself messaging don't forget to wear suncream last night, I've turned into my mother

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Sunnysummer · 24/08/2013 01:47

Of course YANBU. I used to do short term nannying, and the clingiest kids were always the ones who were less attached to their parents - because they were less sure that mum would come back. We're just mammals, and all mammal babies sleep next to their mothers! Smile

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gymmummy64 · 24/08/2013 01:57

DDs 11 and 14 still come in for cuddles on many a Sunday morning. It's lovely. And of course, any illness and it's my bed with extra cuddles. I think by today's labels then we probably did a lot of co-sleeping when they were little, but we just did what seemed natural and I don't think it has made them clingy/scarred them for life Grin

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crazykat · 24/08/2013 02:03

I love cuddles with my DCs but not in the bed at night, I like my space too much. Plus even though its a kingsize bed I don't think there's room for me, DH and 4 DCs.

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Cloudkitten · 24/08/2013 02:04

Pinkpinot, do you have a DH/DP?

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Pinkpinot · 24/08/2013 07:42

Yes I have dh, would rather sleep with ds
Dh came in at 3am, probably stinking
AgentZZ-he tells me he loves me 50 times more than he hates me. Don't worry

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