To think there's something not quite right with my baby

(182 Posts)
ButteryJam Fri 23-Aug-13 16:15:58

HV, GP and DH all make me feel like I'm an over worrying hypochondriac mother hmm

My LO has been very very fussy right from the very start, very alert and a little bit colicky (but definitely not colic). Now she is 13 weeks and has the following:

- episodes of screaming in pain for up to two hours, and won't settle unless I give her calpol. This occurs in the morning too. But it's all very unpredictable
- excessive (sometimes up to 50) hiccups at least twice a day
- refuses feeding (even if feed time) when in the state of crying
- tends to only feed when either asleep or very sleepy
- naps are so short, sometimes just 10-20 min, and a very very sensitive sleeper (I have to keep the house phone off and literally tiptoe around her)
- has had a sniffly nose, watery eyes almost constantly
- coughing during feeds or after
- and just generally not very happy, though does have some very happy smiley moments too

I'm a first time mum, so please tell me, is this all completely normal? HV told me earlier on in the week to stop looking for what may be wrong but just accept I am very unlucky to have this type of a baby.

(Tongue and lip tie were removed around 10 weeks so its not that).

Catsize Wed 18-Sep-13 17:57:21

Blimey! Just read your last post!! Grrrrrrr.

Gatekeeper Wed 18-Sep-13 17:57:18

last post at 17:38...not the bit about you crying x

Catsize Wed 18-Sep-13 17:56:27

Oh, sorry to hear that buttery. Sending you a brew
My son had colic and cried, ate or slept. No nice awake bits. You are doing fine, and it really will pass. Promise. But I know it is horrible at the mo.

Gatekeeper Wed 18-Sep-13 17:56:07

thanks for updating; lovely to read your last post smile

ButteryJam Wed 18-Sep-13 17:55:36

And to add to that, one of them let my DD cry for over 10-15 min saying she is just tired and hence screaming, and telling me to pull my socks and be a stronger mother. I left crying ...

ButteryJam Wed 18-Sep-13 17:54:34

CatSize, I've seen two cranial osteopaths that specialise in children, both of whom don't treat reflux, and after sessions I didn't see a difference with my DD. Maybe others have had a good experience, but for me, they have been a waste of money.

ButteryJam Wed 18-Sep-13 17:52:53

And I must add she now feeds whilst awake grin

Catsize Wed 18-Sep-13 17:52:30

Another vote for cranial osteopathy here. Make sure the person specialises in treating babies.

trixymalixy Wed 18-Sep-13 17:47:48

That's great to hear Buttery!!

ButteryJam Wed 18-Sep-13 17:38:37

Hi,

I came back to thank everyone who offered me support and advice on this thread, mumsnet really rocks! grin And hopefully the update may help someone else going through a similar thing too.

We started treatment for silent reflux just over two weeks ago despite the paedetrician not being too keen on it (suggesting its probably colic), but he did prescribe it. It took two weeks of being on medication for us to see a major difference, and my LO is so so much happier now, and this is how it is to have a baby! smile Gosh, the relief (!) and it is just so so nice to see my baby happy! smile smile I am so glad I didn't listen to HV and pushed for referral, I just wish I had done it earlier!

Thanks once again everyone and yes, do follow your instinct!

Wishfulmakeupping Mon 02-Sep-13 22:16:16

Meant to add hope treatment makes a difference.

Wishfulmakeupping Mon 02-Sep-13 22:15:51

Glad you did take little one back to dr and they've given you something for the reflux. I spoke to Hv 3 times and had 2 trips to dr before they finally gave me infant gaviscon for my dd it worked so well reflux must have really been hurting her before we got that she never seemed comfortable.

OHforDUCKScake Mon 02-Sep-13 21:48:11

Snap trixy when my baby was like yours OP, I stopped dairy and replaced it with soya and I had no change. I did it for 2-3 weeks, and then figured it wasnt dairy so went back to it.

Then I gave him a yoghurt at 5 months and he went into anaphylactic shock.

I instantly stopped weaning him (he was only 5 months anyway) and stopped dairy and soya, since I was told most dairy allergic babies are so with soya.

Within 2 days the reflux, pain and waking stopped.

As 2.3 year old now, he is still very allergic to dairy and soya.

Did you replace your dairy with soya?

trixymalixy Mon 02-Sep-13 21:03:29

I saw a change in DS within 24 hours after eliminating dairy. Unfortunately I then replaced it with soya and was back to square one....

appletarts Mon 02-Sep-13 19:31:00

Dairy does not take 3 weeks to clear from your breast milk. The impact should be withing 24 hours.

SHarri13 Mon 02-Sep-13 19:29:45

Also this re reflux,

kellymom.com/health/baby-health/reflux/

I'll stop now grin sorry if you've already seen them.

SHarri13 Mon 02-Sep-13 19:27:18

kellymom.com/health/baby-health/food-sensitivity/

See 'What if a specific food appears to be a problem' section here, hope it helps.

SHarri13 Mon 02-Sep-13 19:25:45

Dairy takes 3 weeks to clear from the body iirc x

ButteryJam Mon 02-Sep-13 19:16:10

Thanks everyone!

Rumandboak, I introduced dairy 4 days ago.

ChilliJo, I was completely dairy free (everything - I used the kellymom guide) for 2 weeks and I didn't see a difference, in fact she got worse. When re-introduced, she definitely brings up more milk but doesn't seem more unsettled by it.

HeyUGuys Mon 02-Sep-13 17:42:41

Some drs dont believe silent reflux exists, my ds1 was diagnosed as he was in ICU so was drip feed, when the pulled up the milk they could see a problem. Ds2 was bf until 3 weeks when he totally stopped feeding an all the other symptoms OP has discribed. Dr sent me away saying it was colic, i went back the nxt day to a different dr, walked in and said my ds has silent reflux, i need infant gaviscon, domperidone etc. she didnt question me at all.

muchadoaboutsomething Mon 02-Sep-13 16:42:01

I just want to say I am glad someone listened but I do get fed up with Paeds not listening to parents saying their children have reflux. With prems they know because it shows in their sats. They can test blood sats and if they dip when a child feeds it's reflux. I do wonder whether this is true for slightly older children as it does make it very clear cut when a baby needs something

IfNotNowThenWhen Mon 02-Sep-13 16:38:12

My reflux baby only started sleeping at 8 mon ths when he could roll onto his tummy.
He was diagnosed because, like you, I knew something was wrong, and I took him to the a and e. The Paediatrician there diagnosed reflux and gaviscon.
I also realised he was retaining wind, or was very difficult to wind properly, and the paed showed me a method which they use, where you run your hand firmly up the baby's right side (I think-check this!) which is where the large intestine is, and that would bring up the trapped wind.
That helped enourmously.

HeyUGuys Mon 02-Sep-13 16:17:25

I'd say definatly silent reflux, you have discribed my 11wo ds perfectly, he has infant gaviscon.

ChilliJo Mon 02-Sep-13 16:12:07

How long did you remain dairy free and were you really, really careful (checking ingredients of everything)?

I say this as my DD (my 2nd DC) was just like your DD sounds and I knew she wasn't right and that she wasn't just a difficult baby after my easy first which was what EVERYONE was telling me angry .

When I tried cutting out dairy, I began to see a difference after a couple of days but it was closer to 5 days before she was cured. This was when she was 16 weeks old. On 2 subsequent occasions after that I accidentally ingested the tiniest amount of dairy and she was horribly uncomfortable and unsettled almost immediately. Thankfully I slowly introduced dairy back in to her diet from when she was 13 months old and she had no issues with it at all.

I really hope you get to the bottom of what's bothering her soon, I remember those days all too well thanks

RumAndBoak Mon 02-Sep-13 16:03:10

So glad someone listened to you !
How long ago did you introduce dairy again? If it was a few days ago I would stay dairy free to see what difference the lansoprazole makes - any change can then be attributed to the medicine rather than wondering if its dairy or meds.
Good luck and fingers crossed!

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