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To not want MIL to do this to my cloths?

(101 Posts)
NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Fri 23-Aug-13 08:35:04

Since there is already a tea towel based thread on here I thought I'd join in the pettiness! MIL is staying and while she is lovely she has a maddening habit...bear in mind this thread is slightly light hearted...but i am also a bit annoyed too.

When she's tidied the kitchen or washed up (which she does at least once a day bless her) she always takes the cloth I use for wiping the surfaces and sink over and spreads them to dry over the side of the sink or the body of the mixer tap...the cloths are always stained and dirty looking....as though she's wiped up four coffee spills with it.

I don't see the need! I place them in a a little bleachy water after a wipe around...she must think hanging them to dry will minimize germs....but surely she should take note of what I DO in my house which is what I do when in hers!

I never follow MY routine in her kitchen but adhere to HERS!!! AIBU?

Cloths are minging. I only use kitchen towel. YABU for having a cloth, draped or otherwise.

Hopasholic Fri 23-Aug-13 09:07:27

Why would it be a reverse? You think it's from the Mil perspective? That doesn't make sense confused

LadyMilfordHaven Fri 23-Aug-13 09:07:33

oh OP
get a grip

CockyFox Fri 23-Aug-13 09:07:50

I would far rather rinse and dry than leave in a pot of water however much bleach is in it. I hate wet cloths.
But yeah she should do it your way.

Fakebook Fri 23-Aug-13 09:09:14

Quick rinse in hot water and drape them. Our kitchen surfaces get wiped down about 10 times a day. It's the busiest room in the house (after the bathroom!). So you chuck them in bleach after every single wipe down? Or just once a day?

SoupDragon Fri 23-Aug-13 09:09:27

Yes. You sound like a mad, ungrateful bint. Sorry.

This. if someone tidied my kitchen and did the washing ounce a day they could hang the cloths out on a line in the front garden for all I care grin

But you said it was lightearted and I agree that it can be immensely irritating when someone is in your house doing something differently.

NoComet Fri 23-Aug-13 09:10:53

YABU
The smell of bleach makes me sneeze.

I have no wish to interact with your bleachy water.

Fakebook Fri 23-Aug-13 09:11:29

Wet cloths in a heap (even in bleach) stink the room out. The smell reminds me of my primary school toilets where the mop was left in bleach.

HandMini Fri 23-Aug-13 09:12:02

Is this just j cloths you're talking about?

Use for a couple of days / until a major spill occurs and then bin. No need for any bleaching or draping nonsense.

If you're using those mingy white string things, get rid and start using j cloths.

ELR Fri 23-Aug-13 09:14:18

Sounds exactly like my mil but I couldn't give a flying fuck what she does with the cloths as long ad she keeps doing the dishes!!

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Fri 23-Aug-13 09:15:59

Now now...I SAID it was light hearted! I'm very happy she washes up....but WHY DRAPE A FILTHY ClOTH???

Feminine Fri 23-Aug-13 09:18:50

Why not?

Yamyoid Fri 23-Aug-13 09:20:55

Oh my god! It's probably never even entered her head that how she leaves the cloth would be an issue and why would it?
My dh leaves the dirty, unrinsed cloth in a wet stinky heap on the side next to the bowl of dirty soapy water he's not tipped away. That's annoying. Therefore we have the cheap jay cloths and I chuck them every couple of days as a pp suggested.

ELR Fri 23-Aug-13 09:21:11

neo it drives me batty but given the choice of having to do it myself I let it go whilst sheathing inside!! She puts everything in the wrong place too and stacks the dishwasher wrong!!

LovesBeingOnHoliday Fri 23-Aug-13 09:22:40

I hear your pain op, at least she'll be leaving, dh does this.

noddyholder Fri 23-Aug-13 09:23:57

How can you even give this headroom

Yamyoid Fri 23-Aug-13 09:24:35

It's funny how the little things ils/parents do, that drive you mad, that when put into perspective are so insignificant.
When my fil washes up I have to leave the room grin

TipsyandTom Fri 23-Aug-13 09:25:14

Yanbu. What does your DH say? Is he supporting you on this? Have you considered LTB?

BadPoet Fri 23-Aug-13 09:26:55

YABU, she probably just does it automatically. I am fussy about my cloths and both drape (after a good rinse and I use mabu cloths which are amazing) and bleach when stained but tbh I'd be slightly freaked if someone observed my cloth habits and faithfully copied me. Apart from Dh of course.

TipsyandTom Fri 23-Aug-13 09:29:18

Actually you may be being a little U, but I have every sympathy - I generally find other people's washing up in some way incorrect - think it's normal to feel somewhat territorial about one's kitchen. (I decline some offers of assistance, in fact.) But at least she is helping!

valiumredhead Fri 23-Aug-13 09:36:48

Good Lordhmm

Toomanycuppas Fri 23-Aug-13 09:52:53

YADNBU. My mother and I have just spent two months back in England staying in the homes of several different friends and relatives. One of our daily observations was the treatment of the cloths. We do things properly in our own homes, like you OP, but followed the householder's habits when we washed up in return for being fed and in some cases flung the minging stained cloth back on the side in a heap

I won't mention the hand towels and tea towels bork

Montybojangles Fri 23-Aug-13 10:00:27

Really? It's a coffee stain, not shit. What sort of germs do you think are in that?
It drives me nuts when my cloths are not pristine, but I wouldn't be whinging if it was that way because someone had wiped down the sides, rinsed and draped. As someone up thread said, it's when they are left in a minging wet heap that I get a bit crazy.
Just pop them in some bleach overnight to soak.

MissPiggiesLeftTrotter Fri 23-Aug-13 10:01:24

Actually she is doing you a favour by not bleaching your cloth. You need a few germs around to boost immune systems. Growing up she probably didn't have all the media scaring the bejesus out of her over stupid things like sterilising your toilet and bed bugs. The UK is generally a cold country. Try moving somewhere hot and sweaty like Jakarta for a few years with cockroaches the size of a tennis ball in your kitchen as soon as a crumb lands on the floor and you will know what germs are.

SPBisResisting Fri 23-Aug-13 10:06:56

So people dont just squeeze out their cloths snd leave them at the side of the sink?
Weird

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