I think I probably was and now can't say sorry

(51 Posts)
Pantone363 Thu 22-Aug-13 22:02:38

Went to Sainsburys to pick some uniform bits up.

DS was easy, girls stuff was not to my taste this year (cardis with big frill around the bottom, horrible trousers and babyish dresses)

DD picked up some trousers and said "what about these". I wasn't even thinking who was around and just glibly said "god no they're bloody ugly" blush. They were though, horrible shape and material.

But there was a woman behind me with her DD who had already placed said trousers in her trolley...her DD then says "are they ugly mummy?"....woman quite rightly gave me a mouthful and her DDs face crumpled and she starts crying that she doesn't want ugly trousers.

To my eternal shame I slunk off muttering a rather crap apology.

Was I BU saying they were ugly out loud? Friend said well if they were ugly they were ugly don't worry about it. I feel like shit remembering that little girl (a few years younger than my DD)

If you were the mum in Sainsburys in C town this afternoon I'm sorry!!

CharityFunDay Thu 22-Aug-13 22:07:01

YANBU. The other mother was well out of line for giving you a mouthful in front of your child and not explaining gently to her daughter that different people have different opinions about fashions.

Och you stopped a little girl having to wear ugly trousers, I frequently do the same. I declared that a lamp in ikea looked like it had a giant foreskin to my husnsnd and was glared at by a woman who was obvioisly considering buying it oops :-)

oohdaddypig Thu 22-Aug-13 22:11:23

Sorry you feel guilty OP.

Don't think you have any need to! You were just expressing an opinion whilst shopping. These things happen.

Maybe the other little girl got nicer trousers as a result smile

jacks365 Thu 22-Aug-13 22:12:57

Never be sorry for the truth. Just think what you saved that little girl from. She was unreasonable she should have dealt with it better and not had a go at you.

Pantone363 Thu 22-Aug-13 22:16:32

Foreskin lamp...that needs a link

JeanPaget Thu 22-Aug-13 22:24:31

YANBU - nothing wrong with giving your opinion about an item of clothing in a shop. Obviously it was unfortunate that the woman and her daughter overheard, but as Charity says the mother could have used it as a opportunity to explain about differing tastes.

I'm also keen to see the Foreskin lamp...

Ha I don't think they do it anymore , was a very tall papery shade floor lamp that the paper went sort of baggy and wrinkly at the end.

UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea Thu 22-Aug-13 22:27:18

I had that lamp angry

myroomisatip Thu 22-Aug-13 22:30:18

I also echo a link to the foreskin lamp smile smile smile

I'll have a look around the Internet it's gone from ikea site

Pantone363 Thu 22-Aug-13 22:36:48

Haha I so know the kind of lamp you mean!

Think it was this on
http://m.ikea.com/gb/en/catalog/products/art/00213600/
Although I do remember it being distinctively more phallic and wrinkly

Sorry having trouble posting links on here, I want to see these ugly child's trousers, were they bell bottomed ?

TheSunTheMoonTheTruth Thu 22-Aug-13 22:39:16

YANBU. You can't NOT speak just in case someone doesn't like what you said.

And, as mentioned, you saved that child from wearing shite trousers.

Charlottehere Thu 22-Aug-13 22:43:32

Nothing to apologise for. You are allowed an opinion. The othermuvva should apologise for having bad taste wink

OhDearNigel Thu 22-Aug-13 22:45:28

Unless you pointed out said trousers in the other womans trolley and said "look at those ugly trousers DD" YANBU. The other woman certainly was

OnTheBottomWithAWomensWeekly Thu 22-Aug-13 22:46:09

She shouldn't have said anything to you. If I were her, I would have told my kid that people have different tastes, and if we liked them it makes no difference what anyone else thinks of them.
She was mad to have a go at you.

Pantone363 Thu 22-Aug-13 22:46:26

They had a big baggy arse on them giving any child a lovely "mum bum".

Plus scratchy material. They were ugly hmm

ChippingInHopHopHop Thu 22-Aug-13 22:47:20

There's nothing wrong with having an opinion that is different to someone else's. It would have been wrong if you had seen them put them in their trolley then said it - but you didn't. You should have told the woman to fuck off buy her DD nice trousers calm down to leave you alone.

You have nothing to say sorry for. Hopefully her DD will get some nicer trousers out of it!!

fuckwittery Thu 22-Aug-13 22:48:17

If I was the other lady I would have said to my DD, dont be silly they are different trousers, or that lady means she thinks they will be ugly on her daughter as they don't suit her but different people suit different things and they look lovely on you etc
Not had a go at you!

quesadilla Thu 22-Aug-13 22:49:35

Woman totally overreacted. If age and her dd like it they should have the courage of their convictions. It's not offensive to state that something isn't to your taste unless its being offered as a gift.

LookingForwardToVino Thu 22-Aug-13 22:50:38

Your allowed an opinion op grin

It could have been worse, they could have been wearing the trousers.

daisychain01 Thu 22-Aug-13 22:52:25

I totally love this thread - Pantone, YANBU, I have foot-in-mouth disease and say things then afterwards think Oh BUM why did I say that! and feel bad for weeks afterwards. Don't worry, you did that little girl a favour, only short term pain, she'll be thanking you for not walking round with a baggy arse.

But the best thing is the foreskin lamp. I want one

BrokenSunglasses Thu 22-Aug-13 22:53:45

The child didn't cry until the Mum started shouting. You might have made the a little girl question the aesthetic qualities of her trousers, but her Mum made her cry.

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