to wish this child would stop effing screaming?

(39 Posts)
NoisyBrain Thu 22-Aug-13 21:29:43

There is a child somewhere nearby, who is incapable of playing outside without screaming like a banshee. I'm talking blood-curdling, top-of-voice screaming and it's extremely irritating.

Of course I expect to hear kids' laughter and some shouting during the summer holidays (and I'm noticing it more because I'm on maternity leave I suppose), but is high-pitched screaming during play necessary under ANY circumstances? I don't know how old the child in question is, but definitely sounds older than a toddler who might not know better. It sounds like proper horror film screaming too. The only reason I know the child is playing is because I can hear other children's voices at the same time as the screams.

My mum was really strict with me about things like this. If she'd heard me screaming I'd have been made to come inside and told off for annoying the neighbours. Aside from the annoyance factor, her argument was that if I was ever in real trouble and screaming out of fear or pain no-one would realise - like the boy who 'cried wolf'. I think she had a point, but being pregnant with my pfb I'm aware I know very little about the realities of policing such behaviour. So, aibu to think it shouldn't be encouraged?

Mumsyblouse Thu 22-Aug-13 21:41:37

You are right and I don't let mine scream for the same reason, it's very alerting when a child really screams that horror film scream and hopefully people will react if there's a real emergency. But what can you do, unless you can see the child and peer over the fence saying 'sorry, I thought there was really something wrong' in earshot of the parents.

MrsLouisTheroux Thu 22-Aug-13 21:42:14

I really dislike screaming, screeching or whining children.
YANBU

LadyMaryQuiteContrary Thu 22-Aug-13 21:43:21

You must live near me as said child was yelling at her mother at 08:20am this morning.

spottygoat Thu 22-Aug-13 21:43:47

YANBU

Although I often join in with a good screaming competition with my girls and their friends!!!!

RandomMess Thu 22-Aug-13 21:44:18

YANBU however the child may have special needs and therefore the parent not able to implement a reaasonable stop the screaming rule sad

LadyMaryQuiteContrary Thu 22-Aug-13 21:45:11

Or maybe the child is a Diva who is incapable of being quiet, Random?

vintageclock Thu 22-Aug-13 21:46:38

YANBU. I live beside a green. The sound of children out there playing is lovely. But there's always a really annoying child who can't play without screeching their head off.

kiwidreamer Thu 22-Aug-13 21:47:34

I completely agree its annoying and disconcerting... DD is two and has started a god awful screaming habit, for attention or fun or when greatly aggrieved, it is mortifying but I would take her inside if she persisted.

littlemisswise Thu 22-Aug-13 21:49:24

YANBU. I bloody hate screaming and screeching.

PelvicFloorClenchReminder Thu 22-Aug-13 21:49:55

My son makes a dreadful noise out in the garden sometimes. He has various complex SEN and doesn't always understand that he might be upsetting other people. He finds life very stressful sometimes, and likes letting off steam in the garden.

Sorry, and all that.

Would you prefer it if I locked him inside?

lougle Thu 22-Aug-13 21:50:33

Oh dear, that could be my 4 year old. She's going through a very angry phase and when she's overwhelmed with injustice at my parenting she screams.

It's very high-pitched, very annoying.

Not much I can do - to stop the screeching I'd have to back down on enforcing whatever rule she disagrees with and there's no way I'm doing that.

urgh i HATE this!

i have a couple of friends who have little girls who always seem to have to scream whatever game they play. it drives me insane!
it's just so unnecessary

CrabbyBigBottom Thu 22-Aug-13 21:54:33

YANBU at all - high pitched sounds physically hurt me. Next door neighbour's child and friends were doing this this morning and I just wanted to shout out of the window
stop fucking screaming! you can enjoy yourself without screaming like hysterical banshees!
angry

justanuthermanicmumsday Thu 22-Aug-13 21:56:34

Children scream whine cry. Whining and kids go hand in hand. I've not met a kid who didn't whine at some point in their life.

I can understand your sentiments but my daughter is a banshee I don't live near you do I! Lol no amount of me talking to her helps. She apologies profusely promises she won't then as soon as her brother so much as touches her even by accident high pitched scream. It's like a Hitchcock movie moment lool. It's not funny it's annoying, angers me stresses me. To be fair her and my son are only a year apart and they've come to a phase where they seem to argue or fight every day, then five mins later they're best mates again. I have spoken to other mums and teachers they've told me its normal phase and will pass.

Some parents have told me to chill out.I can't reprimand them every five mins. so now I choose carefully when to reprimand and other times I leave them to resolve their disputes. If its gets too out of hand I get them indoors. I do try and respect the neighbours and in the summer if I know they are out for a barbecue which is really rare I get my kids indoors.If i can see theyre gardening and my boy is bothering them, hes so darn chatty and cross questions everything, that kid could give jeremy paxman a run for his money lol.Otherwise I'm afraid I will leave them out to enjoy the weather. They're kids I'm sure we shouted, screamed whined too.

If we go to a big park I let them talk loud shout kids need some outlet I don't like always hushing them up. I've yet to see a parent here bat an eyelid at their behaviour. Or maybe I'm just a bad parent with evil kids .

If you have solutions for the screaming or whining please do tell.

WorraLiberty Thu 22-Aug-13 21:57:12

I hate it too although I've never complained

I've just thanked fuck that they're not my kids grin

But it physically hurts my brain

lougle Thu 22-Aug-13 22:01:37

Hurts mine too.

I was actually in a queue in a supermarket a couple of months ago and the chap serving us has ASD. DD3 normally saves her unreasonable behaviour for home, but on this occasion let rip in the store.

I was doing quite well until the chap serving us said 'That girl is really annoying me...' I looked at him and said 'She's annoying me too, but if you serve me I can get her out of your way...' and thought 'at least you don't have to take her home

It's horrible.

DD screams when angry and not getting what she wants and I hate it sad it's an ongoing problem along with everything else she is going through.

The neighbours judge me because of her ways, I know this because they mainly ignore me throw dirty looks, slag me off these days.

I spend my days being a referee to DD and her siblings, we stay in a lot because of everything which in some ways makes it worse.

Famzilla Thu 22-Aug-13 22:25:04

Ugh I hate hate hate the Screechy screaming noise!

NDN's kid screams every day about everything from 8-6 without fail. We live in terraced houses with French doors going out to our gardens and I actually have to shut all windows & doors when it's DD's nap time as there is no way anyone could sleep through it.

No SN's, just an annoying kid with a stoner mum.

NoisyBrain Thu 22-Aug-13 22:26:20

My unborn ds is going to be a screamer just to pay me back for starting this thread isn't he? blush

emmelinelucas Thu 22-Aug-13 22:35:35

The local primary school is very near our house. It is bliss in the holidays. Every year there is just ONE screamer, that can be heard above all the others.
I really do dread them going back every year.
Having said that, the neighbours at the back have something knocked down and built up every summer (when they - both teachers bugger off for 4 weeks)
So-there is always something to get on the nerves.
And I feel sorry for mothers of screamers.

carabos Thu 22-Aug-13 22:42:32

We live in a terrace house with a lane behind wide enough for two cars. Some neighbours park there, but essentially it's a safe traffic-free zone. As a result, all the kids in the street play there. They congregate round our back yard because NDN's DS1 is the ringleader popular.

The noise is horrific. I work from home and my office is on the first floor at the back. During the school hols, I can't take a phone call in there because of the screeching. I can't work with the windows open, and I find myself migrating around the house throughout the day in search of quiet.

I have never complained or asked them to keep the noise down - they're just kids, and they're off school. The thing that majorly pisses me off though is there is a huge school playing field at the end of our road and none of them ever plays there - even the ones whose homes are adjacent to it. No, they must come round to ours. hmm

MrsLouisTheroux Fri 23-Aug-13 19:14:25

justanuther :Children scream whine cry. Whining and kids go hand in hand. I've not met a kid who didn't whine at some point in their life.
Not all children scream/ whine/ cry on a daily basis.
I've met plenty who don't make a habit of it.

EndoplasmicReticulum Fri 23-Aug-13 19:18:28

I hate screaming. If mine scream they only do it once and then they have to come in. I have told them they have to save it for emergencies.

I blame school, they seem to have screaming competitions in the playground, they didn't do it before they started.

I think some of you are my neighbours.

I live on a green and my DS and his friends are so bloody loud when they play outside. blush

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