to ask you all how to stop eating rubbish!

(57 Posts)
peppapigsmummy Tue 20-Aug-13 13:55:49

I was always big, even in childhood.

I lost all my weight, 6 st of it. Around 4 years ago.
it was hard...but easy, in that it was my only focus and I felt very dedicated.

Fast forward to having a toddler and im overweight by 3st. I have tried and tried to get into the swing of loosing but am gaining and loosing the same few lbs constantly and im so fed up with myself.

I eat when stressed..

I eat when im bored

I work so much I fail to prepare properly. .then get stressed.

I eat kids leftovers etc

have constant access to food.

pleeeease tell me how to get out of this vicious circle and feel able to say no and genuinly not want it!

I have six months before I get married and im never going to forgive myself if I look like this!

yellowballoons Wed 21-Aug-13 13:21:07

Am wondering if you would benefit from those "delicious, home cooked, prepared and delivered to your door, weekly meals" or whatever it is that is advertised.
It would suit your busy life, mean you would look forward to your meals, and they are all ready calorie counted for you.

sherbetpips Wed 21-Aug-13 13:19:15

The problem isnt just the eating its the buying, dont buy it and you cant eat it. Lots of fresh veg and healthy food in the house. Total and utter ban on soft drinks, crisps, cakes, biscuits anything like that. If it is there you will eat it - you know yourself well enough. Also no leftovers, ask the kids to scrape there scraps into the bin and dont cook too much in the first place - especially pasta, etc. It scraps tempt you have a squirt gun to hand so you can 'ruin' them by spraying with vinegar or something else stinky. My SIL did this trick as she was hooked on left overs.

DrinaDancesInParis Wed 21-Aug-13 13:11:29

Sorry meant to add I've lost three stone doing this over the last year and a half and I'm now on "maintenance" calories. It isn't a quick fix, but a life-long change.

Congratulations on your engagement! I'm sure you will look beautiful on the day, whatever size you are.

DrinaDancesInParis Wed 21-Aug-13 13:07:23

Another vote here for MyFitnessPal.

But you must do it properly and write down EVERYTHING that passes your lips. (You bite it, you write it!)

For, say, the first week, don't necessarily make any changes. Just seeing what eg 4 biscuits and that packet of crisps does to your calorie count is eye opening. I found after seeing in black and white what I was eating, it was easier to control myself. Also knowing I have to log EVERYTHING makes me much less likely to eat that second biscuit. It makes you accountable to yourself.

I found I naturally started eating tons more fresh, healthy food because I could eat so much more and take up so many fewer calories. And, I actually enjoy food more now. I eat mindfully, so I really enjoy every mouthful, and there's no guilt attached, even when I have so-called "bad foods" like chocolate. If I do indulge I never hate myself for it, it's just part of the balance. I log it and keep it in moderation.

Good luck!

FastWindow Wed 21-Aug-13 12:54:06

I find it hard not to snack, so I've compromised. I eat unsalted nuts from Tescos, they come in bags with raisins so you get a bit of sweet as well. Why don't you do that old thing of sticking a picture of yourself with the six stone gone on the fridge and cupboard? Also agree with eating clean food - didn't know that was what it was called but basically food that is as close to its original state as possible.

Drink more. If you're hungry, have a drink of water or tea first. Then decide if still hungry after half an hour.

Work out your weaknesses - is it a vending machine or coffee shop? Don't carry cash and avoid them at key times eg lunch. Set up meeting for key snack times.

Give your kids smaller portions. If they have left overs then you're making too much.

Take lunch into work a couple of times a week and leave your wallet at home. Gradually you'll get used to eating less that way.

Don't shop when hungry.

Don't buy snacks.

Meal plan so you don't have excess food.

Grumpywino Wed 21-Aug-13 12:50:43

I eat low carb which does mean avoiding processed rubbish. I see food as fuel and honestly have no interest in eating chocolates, bread, biscuits etc. They are wasted calories that do me no good at all. I get confused by people who are anti smoking yet stuff themselves with junk! I eat when hungry, and stop when full. I like to eat food that is palatable but I have worked hard to stop thinking of food as a treat or a reward. I work very long hours in a stressful job but always take the time to prepare food to take with me. I do love wine though......

justgivemeareason Wed 21-Aug-13 12:31:12

When are you doing your overeating? Like the poster above, keeping busy and going out and about really helps. Now it's the summer holidays and I am taking the children out for the day, I am so busy I don't think about eating. Fortunately I have a busy job too and don't have time to eat a lot. Being at home a lot, it is too easy to raid the fridge. I have always wondered when very overweight people find the time to buy and eat so much. They must prioritise that over kids, work, chores, socialising, everyday life really. What do you prioritise in your life?

WallaceWindsock Wed 21-Aug-13 12:28:20

You work in childcare and don't want to out yourself?
shock shock You're Supernanny aren't you shock

Busy yourself? I have lost loads of weight by stopping caring about losing it and starting putting all my efforts into something else...for me it was having baby and being left with no time. I am busy all day and a lot of night so don't think about eating. Get outside as much as possible. Plan to go out for a walk when you get home or sit in garden or whatever, just do something that tales your mind off it.

HeySoulSister Wed 21-Aug-13 12:19:12

google 'clean eating'

its basically nothing at all processed,all fresh food.....veg,meat,fish,eggs,fruit,nuts etc. worked for me too but gets expensive.

squoosh Wed 21-Aug-13 12:10:16

Phew, I presume Wispas are ok then as I pick them off the newsagent counter?

<hopeful face>

KatoPotato Wed 21-Aug-13 12:02:27

If you can't pick it or kill it, don't eat it!

mumat39 Wed 21-Aug-13 11:58:08

Famzilla, wow, that's a massive weight loss in 5 months! Congratulations!

Can I ask, what do you mean by eat 'clean'

Thanks

GameSetAndMatch Tue 20-Aug-13 18:01:42

I managed to lose a bit by bit by the following, as crisps and snacks are my weakness.:

ONE fun size choccy thing every 2 days.
ONE packet of crisps (try and buy the less than 5 fat)a day.
Handful of nuts (almonds).
ONE alchy drink a week.
ONE fizzy drink once a month.

secret is not to deprive yourself but cut down gradually. I find now if i reach for a second choc i feel sick!

NoComet Tue 20-Aug-13 17:58:20

DD2 never ask for more savory food, she just helps herself to more ice cream if hungry or munches an apple if I veto icecream quickly enough.

specialsubject Tue 20-Aug-13 17:35:37

don't buy the junk.
serve less to the kids. If they want more, they'll let you know. That way the leftovers can be covered and put in the fridge, not wasted.

EauRouge Tue 20-Aug-13 17:15:44

Myfitnesspal is brilliant, I've been using it to cut down on sugar. Sugar is addictive; the more you eat, the more your blood sugar level crashes and you crave more. Don't buy biscuits, cakes etc. Switch to high cocoa content chocolate, you only need one square for chocolate cravings then. Get in lots of high protein snacks like nuts (raw, not roasted with tons of oil and salt) and seeds. They will help you feel full for longer.

And water, lots of water.

jaabaar Tue 20-Aug-13 17:08:01

Felt exactly like you. Lost 3st had baby and now back on. It was quite easy to loose the weight first time. This time I just couldnt get my mind into gear for 2 years.

The only think that worked for me was talking to myself (well silently).
I wake up and say to myself: im refusing to eat fattening crap. Im not hungry. I just dont want it.

Repeating this a few times before even getting a temptation has made it easier.

At the end u just believe it that u dont want to eat any rubbish

Famzilla Tue 20-Aug-13 16:51:43

If you have a smartphone, download 'my fitness pal' and log everything. Don't miss a cheeky biscuit or a sneaky glass I wine.

Through keeping a food diary like this, pledging to eat clean and going to the gym I have lost 4 stone since DD was born 5 months ago.

My problem was that I was in denial as to how bad chocolate & biscuits were for me and I was being absolutely ridiculous with portion sizes.

No faddy diets, no cutting out essential food groups which leaves you tired & miserable, no membership fees or complicated point systems. Just clean eating & exercise.

Also, Sunday is cheat day where I eat whatever I want all day. I never eat as much as I used to though, my whole outlook towards eating has changed.

Don't reward yourself with food, you're not a dog.

mumat39 Tue 20-Aug-13 16:17:36

Hi OP, no words of wisdom here. I'm the same. Try most days to 'start' but have usually failed by lunchtime.

I have also lost and gained pretty much 10lbs on every diet I have tried and then put that back on and then some and am basically heavier than I was even when I was two weeks overdue with a big baby. blush

It's like I don't have an off switch. Someone upthread said if they buy biscuits they'll eat them in a day. I eat packs like they were crisps, so I could finish a pack in say 10 mins. I also hide that I've eaten stuff, and have been know to go out on the pretence of needing nappies justo get a few chocolate bars.

I am waiting for some CBT/counselling sessions so that I can work on my anxiety and depression. I don't know why I do it to myself either. Another summer has nearly passed and I've spent it feeling disgusting.

The only thing I know is that sugary stuff gives me comfort. And I can feel my shoulders relax as I stuff my face.

Sorry I can't help, but just wanted to share this with you so you know you're not the only one.

I am ashamed of myself, but really can't stop doing it o myself.

Xxx

whitesugar Tue 20-Aug-13 16:08:46

Go for a brisk walk every day before your wedding. Don't wait til you feel in the mood. Accept that you will probably never feel like going and go anyway. Doing exercise will help improve your approach to eating. Someone told me recently about an App called map my walk which counts distance, calories used etc. Apparently this is a big motivator. My teenage daughter is downloading it for me now. Your post reminded me about it. If you need advice about downloading post back and she can tell you how. Apols if I sound patronising about downloading, I am clueless.

Enjoy your wedding day. I wish I was getting married to someone who loves me!

Sophita Tue 20-Aug-13 16:01:47

I managed to stop smoking by putting the money in a jar and eating too much chocolate so then I tried to loose a bit of weight with a similar tactic. The jar came back out, and everytime I wanted to crack and do a run to the cornershop for a kitkat, I'd put the money in the jar instead. I'd buy myself daft presents in the supermarket (nail-polish or a magazine or a bunch of flowers) instead of buying biscuits. I think as long as I still felt like I had treats, it didn't matter so much that they weren't edible!

peppapigsmummy Tue 20-Aug-13 14:44:01

heysoulsister. I work in childcare.

TooExtraImmatureCheddar Tue 20-Aug-13 14:39:55

One of my downfalls is free food. Yesterday I did low-carb all day, then when I got home Mum had left a bar of Toblerone as a thank-you for dog-sitting. Today I restarted, had scrambled eggs before I left the house, went to a work meeting and was offered the choice of scone, flapjacks or brownie. I said oooh, a brownie would be lovely. Why? Why? Why did I not go 'thank you, it's very kind but no'? Then having already buggered up today when someone came out of a catered meeting with trays of leftover sandwiches etc I had a mini sausage roll. Free food is not free carbs/calories, depending on which you're following! <tries to convince self>

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