Wibu to out exdps to new gf?

(51 Posts)
Ohlookitstwins Tue 20-Aug-13 13:41:20

To tell exdps new gf that we have been sleeping together up until last week when i found out about het and another woman he is having a baby with. while sleeping with both of us or would that make me look like a pyscho bitter ex?

Sparklingbrook Tue 20-Aug-13 13:43:26

Sounds complicated.

Faezy Tue 20-Aug-13 13:43:32

Others probably won't agree but I'd tell her. Be prepared for her to believe him though unless you have evidence. Even then she's likely to be in denial.

You might look like a "pyscho bitter ex", but I would! grin
On the other hand, do you have any reason to believe that she doesn't already know it?

DuchessFanny Tue 20-Aug-13 13:46:02

Have you all been using precautions ? If not they need to know that you're all 'sharing' also - get yourself tested !

pollyblue Tue 20-Aug-13 13:46:06

How long has he been your ex?

And why are you still having sex with him, if he is your ex?

Hang on, let me get the timeline right.

You were with XP.
You and XP broke up.
XP got another woman pregnant (PW).
XP started seeing yet another woman (GF).
You and XP started having sex again but you didn't know about PW or GF.
You found out about PW and GF and stopped sleeping with him.

Is that right?

Do you think GF knows about PW? Was there a break between them or did they overlap?

It isn't your responsibility to speak to GF or PW about each other, and I don't think either of them would take it well. XP is clearly a twat player and unlikely to change, so he wouldn't respond to suggestions to come clean.

Do you have any mutual friends that could join the dots for GF?

ilovesooty Tue 20-Aug-13 13:50:36

If you want to sleep with someone who puts himself about like that it's up to you.

I would have thought your priority would be getting yourself checked and reflecting on your own sexual choices rather than involving yourself in other people's.

AnyFucker Tue 20-Aug-13 13:56:27

Let Jeremy decide

ilovesooty Tue 20-Aug-13 13:57:57

Nice one AF
I was thinking the same thing.

GetStuffezd Tue 20-Aug-13 13:59:24

Let Jeremy decide
Indeed

ImNotABarbieGirl Tue 20-Aug-13 14:01:28

Id let her know. Wouldn't you want to know? Apart from her awful (and yours) taste in men, I'm assumeing this woman has done nothing wrong? I really hope you have all used protection esp for the poor pregnant womans sake hmm

Ohlookitstwins Tue 20-Aug-13 14:07:05

Yes very compilcated i agree.

We broke up in jan but have been sleeping together the why is beyond me i still love hi blah blah blah u have heard it all before.

horry has the situation right it may be none of my business about gf but hes also my dcs father so do need to know about pw new gf doesn't know anything nore does pw.

Ohlookitstwins Tue 20-Aug-13 14:11:13

Clearly he wasn't with pw or me as for gf i don't know i have already been checked.

And for those who are saying about the man we chose nobody chooses to be with someone who does this sort of thing i know i didn't.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Tue 20-Aug-13 14:12:41

Tell them. It's the decent thing.

AnyFucker Tue 20-Aug-13 14:13:14

You are dropping him like a rank fish now though

aren't you ?

ilovesooty Tue 20-Aug-13 14:14:09

Of course you chose him. Anyone would think you have no responsibility or control.

Ohlookitstwins Tue 20-Aug-13 14:15:15

He has been dropped just wish it was off a cliff.

AnyFucker Tue 20-Aug-13 14:16:36

You knew about his new girlfriend already, didn't you ?

It's the third spoke in this rather nasty little wheel that is news to you, yes ?

How strange it's that triggering your newfound judginess about the sexual shenanigans of this man you love. Yuk.

Ohlookitstwins Tue 20-Aug-13 14:18:27

Yes sooty i chose to be with someone who when i met four years ago was loving caring honest and kind not a man that has turned into the most vile nastiest creature i can have ever met so yes thank you your comments really help.

ilovesooty Tue 20-Aug-13 14:19:17

I think AF is spot on there.

ilovesooty Tue 20-Aug-13 14:20:47

Wow. That's some personality transplant.

Ohlookitstwins Tue 20-Aug-13 14:21:34

No af i didn't not until he told me last week they have only been together two months so assume what you like.

Bogeyface Tue 20-Aug-13 14:22:26

I'm confused, is he seeing her and sleeping with you too? Or is there a third woman who he has been seeing as well who is now pregnant by him?

mrsjay Tue 20-Aug-13 14:22:55

god he sound s a charmer seriously what would you achieve if you told anybody why are you sleeping with him and he has a new girlfriend and a baby on the way with somebody else am i getting that right, tell them if you like but he wont suffer and he wont come back you .im not even sure who you are going to tell about what, he must like a dog with 2 dicks with all these women

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