To refuse to accept a parcel for next door

(92 Posts)
StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Mon 19-Aug-13 11:12:11

so man with HUGE box came to the door with a parcel for next door, was I unreasonable to say 'no I'd rather not, its very large and I actually don't get on with them' he huffed at me and stormed away shock and I felt bad for approx a minute. saw him leave without it so nicer neighbour on other side must have accepted it. I am horrible aren't I smile

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Tue 20-Aug-13 16:39:19

50shades hope you read the linked poo pouffe thread grin

I always take parcels for my neighbour but once it was a box the size of a coffin and I said no as I had no where to put it and it would cause an obstruction in my hallway . My 2 year old likes to open other people's parcels too lol.

PrincessFlirtyPants Tue 20-Aug-13 07:22:29

YANBU, if you don't get along with them you don't have to do them any favours if you don't want to. If I didn't get on with my neighbour and I got a note saying that they had my parcel I wouldn't be looking forward to collecting it.

I do it for my neighbours but I don't like it. The other week I took in a parcel and we had it in our hallway for 3 weeks because our next door neighbours were hardly ever in. It was so irritating having it there taking up space! Would have moved it into a cupboard but I wouldn't have wanted to invite them in while I got the parcel from the cupboard.

Mimishimi Tue 20-Aug-13 05:38:20

It's so weird. I just clicked on this thread to check responses when there was a knock at my neighbour's apartment door. "parcel delivery!" from the courier. Since they just moved in from downstairs (to a bigger apartment), they've had a lot of deliveries lately but neighbour said she wasn't expecting anything. Courier said the people upstairs nominated her and she sounded surprised but I think she took it. From the grunting and thump as it was placed down,I doubt it's books. She is a housewife. And here I was thinking it didn't happen here ! It's just so strange that it happened exactly at the moment I was also thinking about it. I would be quite cross if neighbours nominated me without asking first. Not likely to happen as I am not from the same cultural group as most of my neighbours but it's still going to be annoying if she starts getting treated as a collection depot ( this is the first time I've heard it though).

Mouserama Tue 20-Aug-13 05:09:58

In the last week, I've accepted around 8 parcels for my NDN. I'm on Mat Leave, and NDN eorks so I'm not too bothered about taking in the parcels for him although am bloody curious to know what all of the parcels are - 8 in one week is a bit excessive! I just wish that the ting of the deliveries were better - I generally get the knock on the door as soon as I've just got my boob out to feed baby!

JerseySpud Mon 19-Aug-13 18:48:15

takes a bow

I knew my memory for random threads that make me laugh would come in handy

MammaTJ Mon 19-Aug-13 18:44:49

I would take in for some neighbours, but not for others. I don't need the 'lady' who shouted 'Oi, fat cunt' to me to have a reason to knock on my door. I also don't need the people who were so called friends of mine but saying all sorts about me behind my back knocking on my door either.

YANBU!

Cheesyslice Mon 19-Aug-13 18:37:24

I used to quite happily take stuff in for our neighbours. Then they asked the delivery company that frequently dropped stuff off for them to NOT leave anything with us! We've only ever had very pleasant exchanges with them.

Cheeky fuckers. grin

Spikeytree Mon 19-Aug-13 18:25:17

It pisses me off when you take a parcel in, try knocking repeatedly on their door and just get ignored. I can see them moving around, I can hear them, but no I'll just stand outside your house with a heavy parcel being ignored. After 5 days of this I left it on their doorstep. I don't take in for them anymore and I have the sticker on my letterbox saying return to delivery office.

coldwater1 Mon 19-Aug-13 18:16:07

I don't get on with my neighbour but still take their parcels in, they send their kids round to pick them up though. Lol

I have refused to take in parcels for one set of neighbours twice on the grounds that they are fucking horrible people and we don't speak. I felt like a tit but no way am I having them come to my door, I fucking hate them.

silverten Mon 19-Aug-13 18:11:41

It's really very simple- if you are a twat you can't possibly expect your neighbours to do you any favours.

One set of my neighbours is lovely- no problems with taking in their parcels, lending them our drive, moving their bins, unblocking their drains (we have rods and are much younger than them) ...

The other set wouldn't piss on you if you were on fire. They get nothing from us.

What goes around comes around.

thanks jersey

GhostsInSnow Mon 19-Aug-13 17:59:18

Oh God jersey that made me howl, thank you!

hardbeingme Mon 19-Aug-13 16:21:47

YANBU i take them in but usually end up feeling annoyed - one side is fine but the other side shes often at home but 'can't be bothered to open the door, besides i knew you'd be in' hmm

neighbour opposite has taken them for me but has lived here long enough to have fallen out with half the street so has strict rules over who's parcels she will or will not accept.

however was most annoyed taking one in for neighbours i don't know, big heavy box, here for days - i kept knocking incase they didn't receive a card and when i did finally catch them not even a thank you and they expected me to carry it over the road for them - nope! next time i will say no and feel guilty for the rest of the day

JerseySpud Mon 19-Aug-13 16:05:16
PedantMarina Mon 19-Aug-13 15:41:01

I am insanely jealous at valiumred and anybody else who so comprehensively doesn't get how nasty neighbours can be.

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Mon 19-Aug-13 15:29:35

quoteunquote no I am happy not to bother with them tbh.

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Mon 19-Aug-13 15:28:26

Thanks all who see my point, the rest... I am not normally horrible, will do anything for the rest of my local community but next door got all shirty with us when we had an extension done, no reason as far as we could see just stopped speaking then hung over the fence at every opportunity glaring everytime we went into the garden. The fence on their side blew down, its their responsibility but DH offered to put up a new one at shared cost. on the day he did it she came out and put out washing and ignored him, he came home later and went out and said 'its not straight and you are over on our side!' DH explained that it needed to dog leg a bit to meet the wall at the end. He got a tape measure out! I said 'what about a thanks then?' he told me to shut up! wtf ungrateful gits. since then he has complained about DS... not at the time but when we have been away he hangs around glaring and says stuff like ' i will complain to the police next time DS plays his music loudly when you leave him home alone' my response 'he is 20, an adult, if its too loud knock and ask him to turn it down, if he doesn't, feel free to call the police' called me a few names... ffs what can I do if I am not there and 6 weeks after the event is pointless anyway. If DH goes out to cut back the trees he is out there saying they are falling in my garden, rant rant, they never cut their grass, never open a window, never finish a job and there is cat shit all over their garden that stinks in warm weather. so no just not very nice people at all. I am happy to be ignored as all the other neighbours are friendly and nice.

Madlizzy Mon 19-Aug-13 15:21:12

I don't get on with my neighbour as he's a misogynistic, foul mouthed, aggressive twat, and I won't take parcels in for him, so no, I don't think that YBU at all.

OnFoot Mon 19-Aug-13 15:19:53

oh bother. I meant to type YANBU, not YABU. Sorry.

quoteunquote Mon 19-Aug-13 15:12:42

I actually don't get on with them'

It would of been a good opportunity to start to change that.

chocoluvva Mon 19-Aug-13 15:07:46

Go on OP - spill your neighbours horribleness with us!

LisaMed Mon 19-Aug-13 14:22:11

My neighbours are lovely and I cherish them, they take in parcels for me and I get them goodies. I would take in a parcel for them in a heartbeat.

Previous ones with the death threats, abuse, grief and vandalism - probably wouldn't bother.

OnFoot Mon 19-Aug-13 14:09:44

YABU. I take in parcels happily for most neighbours and always have done. But I currently have one neighbour who is a total pain and I simply want no non-essential contact with her so I've asked the couriers and postie not to leave anything for our house at her house and I will not be taking parcels for her if the matter crops up.

She's extremely nosy and comes into our garden if she thinks we're out and tries to get into our sheds etc. Other neighbours called the police once as they thought we had burglars. If you're out front gardening say, and have the front door unlocked, she'll try to sneak past me into the house to nose. So, no, I don't want any unnecessary contact with her, I don't want her getting my post and I won't be taking in her post.

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