to be so upset - after all it's only a haircut

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4yo DD had shoulder length blonde ringlets - until this morning. She has never had her haircut and it has taken more than 4 years to get her hair this length.
Then, this morning, disaster! We went to a friends house and 2 little girls decided to play hairdressers in said friends bedroom, cue kids paper scissors and one cropped head! sad I can't believe how upset I am by this, it is a mess! understatement of the year Hairdresser can't do anything about the front, less than an inch long in most places, in some places more like an eighth of an inch. The back is better than the front, with the length in the centre untouched but the sides have all gone. (have been advised to keep the length for now and tie it into a very sad looking ponytail). I have been crying and think that I am being ridiculous, but everytime I look at her I think she looks like a shorn sheep. So AIBU or would you feel the same way?

GhoulWithADragonTattoo Fri 09-Aug-13 18:28:58

Aaaww she is very sweet. I think you're right, opt for a crop and then grow it out from there. She'll look lovely anyway smile

Nagoo Fri 09-Aug-13 13:35:02

It's edgy smile She had the attitude to pull that off grin

She is pretty cute isn't she blush grin

diddl Thu 08-Aug-13 20:08:30

I'd have to cut the back-it's too mullety!

But I wouldn't crop it all.

She's a little cute girl-so what if she has uneven hair for a while?

musicposy Thu 08-Aug-13 20:03:04

Oh she's so, so cute and adorable, even with the dodgy haircut. I'd leave it a couple of months and then she'll have a bit of a fringe and it will look much better.

DD1 did this at age 5. Took to her hair with the scissors for some bizarre reason known only to herself and cut random sections all over her head to almost scalp length. I was pretty upset too!

It took about a year before she had all over shoulder length hair, but after a month or two it was much better. She's 17 now and has glorious almost waist length hair (which she's had for years) and both of us laugh about it. She still can't tell me why she did it!

The first thing I noticed when looking at your DD was her cheeky smile and how cute she is, so try not to worry too much.

pongping Thu 08-Aug-13 20:01:19

Meant to add - I did the same thing at a similar age. I love the photo my parents took of the evidence.

pongping Thu 08-Aug-13 20:00:12

That is some AWESOME hair! grin

That's what I thought, Coconutty but she got really upset at the thought of having short hair. Shame she didn't think of that before! grin. Having said that, in all fairness, she's never been to a hairdresser in her life (I don't even have my own hair cut!) and had no idea what her friend was going to do. She didn't have a mirror.

Coconutty Thu 08-Aug-13 19:44:34

Aww, she's cute.

I think I would get the back cut tbh rather than keep messing about with clips and pony tails. She has a lovely face and will look good with a crop.

Have been to the hairdressers and they suggest tying what's left of the back in a ponytail and clipping the short sides back (to look as if they are tied back) until they grow a bit longer and then have it all cut into a bob. I'm not sure whether to do this or try for a pixie style (with a difference). I'm a bit more relaxed about the whole thing today.

QOD Thu 08-Aug-13 19:28:31

She's a cutie! Excellent layering job

DearPrudence Thu 08-Aug-13 19:14:58

I've seen the pics now. It's not nearly as bad as I imagined, but I still think it's OK to be a bit upset.

I hope the shock has worn off a bit now and you're starting to get used to it!

sashh Thu 08-Aug-13 19:02:29

You are right to be upset.

But - keep repeating

My child's hair will regrow
My child lost her hair having fun
One day we will both laugh about this (and take pictures)

Aniseeda Thu 08-Aug-13 17:22:59

Aw she's lovely grin and, with such a sweet little face, I think a short style would suit her and at least look as if you meant it to be that way!

I am sure it won't take too long to grow back. My DD was more or less bald until she was two and then took ages to get any decent length but it did eventually thicken up and start growing faster - she's 13 now and has gorgeous long hair which I envy!

(Mine also played hairdressers once but, as I was standing right next to her at the time, I was able to grab the kitchen scissors off her before she did too much damage but, oh my goodness, can't they move fast when they have an evil plan in mind!)

Oblomov Thu 08-Aug-13 17:18:16

Have now seen the profile.
Ok, so its not great. But its not that bad.
It probably is to you, because you know what it looked like before. But to us, as a first looker, its not that bad.
One suggestion. You should go to the hairdresser, explain what has happened and get them to even it up a bit. I think that will make it look a lot better. They will have heard it all before, and will make it look better.

ArtexMonkey Thu 08-Aug-13 17:17:15

She is very sweet smile

I would chop the back off too. A cute pixie cut will look lovely, she should have a few curls coming back round her ears by September I would say.

Yanbu for being so upset though, what a shock.

diddl Thu 08-Aug-13 17:16:23

I agree with limited.

The pic of her in the pink tshirt where it looks as if it's just under her ears-would look fab that length imo-& the rest will seem to catch up faster.

She's gorgeous-such a cute, cheeky face!

diddl Thu 08-Aug-13 17:12:58

OMG-that's just what my daughter did!

Her's wasn't so long in the back & I just cut it straight acrossjust under her ears!

AlanMoore Thu 08-Aug-13 17:09:39

Length in a ponytail and Loads of clips for her, patience and a pint of gin for you! Once the front is long enough to be a short fringe it'll look fine, by the time school starts it'll be barely noticeable. My friends sister did this in about 1985,I remember it like it was yesterday smile her mum gave her a pixie cut and clipped daisies in it, it was actually gorgeous!

Daysies Thu 08-Aug-13 17:07:20

Oh shes beautiful! Could you cope with a lovely short pixie cut? I bet it would suit her and they can look very girly!

Flossiechops Thu 08-Aug-13 17:01:05

You will laugh about it when she's grown up - just not yet!

limitedperiodonly Thu 08-Aug-13 16:31:30

She looks sweet from the front - especially in the pink t-shirt one. I'd cut my losses and take the back off though grin

She has lovely thick hair for a three year old. That'll grow back nicely.

YANBU.

I would be devastated if that happened to DD. She's nearly 7 now and her hair is half way down her back, but it's curly at the ends so looks shorter. However, she was pretty much bald until she was two so her hair has taken forever to grow to the length it is.

She has had this explained to her and since she started school has been firmly instructed to keep scissors away from her hair and not to let friends near it with scissors - I've read too many threads like this here! wink - and she understands that only Grandma, the hairdresser and I are allowed to take scissors to her hair. grin

OneUp Thu 08-Aug-13 15:43:05

Aww I think she looks quite cute actually from the front. It'll grow faster than you think anyway smile

Flossiechops Thu 08-Aug-13 07:27:14

Op, apparently yes he was asking to have it cut whilst in the hairdressers BUT he's only 8 and she should have asked me first. I didn't say anything to her about it as it was too late. It's now back to its crowning glory!

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