to be so upset - after all it's only a haircut

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4yo DD had shoulder length blonde ringlets - until this morning. She has never had her haircut and it has taken more than 4 years to get her hair this length.
Then, this morning, disaster! We went to a friends house and 2 little girls decided to play hairdressers in said friends bedroom, cue kids paper scissors and one cropped head! sad I can't believe how upset I am by this, it is a mess! understatement of the year Hairdresser can't do anything about the front, less than an inch long in most places, in some places more like an eighth of an inch. The back is better than the front, with the length in the centre untouched but the sides have all gone. (have been advised to keep the length for now and tie it into a very sad looking ponytail). I have been crying and think that I am being ridiculous, but everytime I look at her I think she looks like a shorn sheep. So AIBU or would you feel the same way?

NatashaBee Wed 07-Aug-13 17:25:57

CajaDeLaMemoria shock

GummyLopes Wed 07-Aug-13 17:27:19

I think you are being ridiculous. The hair will grow back.

I wouldn't let her take her cycle helmet out when we went to the park this afternoon blush, but I think that it might be a bit hot for a knitted/ crocheted hat (and yes, I do both), nor do I think that school will let her wear one in the classroom, but it's definitely the way to go through the summer holidays. I love the first one Peterparkersays but not keen on the red one.

sparkle12mar08 Wed 07-Aug-13 17:33:29

Would a wide fabric headband work? Like this?

limitedperiodonly Wed 07-Aug-13 17:34:21

Aww! You'll treasure the pictures in years to come.

Probably in about 10 when she's dyeing it mauve or black goth-like.

Xiaoxiong Wed 07-Aug-13 17:35:18

OP look at my profile - you'll see a picture of my DS after DH attacked the front of his hair with nail scissors while I was having a lie-in, resulting in a truly grotendous mullet. I had a fit when I woke up and then tried to "fix" the back to match the front as DS ran away screaming with laughter hmm

Luckily before we cut all his hair off entirely we realised what we had done and nearly died laughing.

He did look like Cadfael for a while but it grew back much faster than we could have hoped.

Poor you. I feel sad on your behalf and amazed at the posters saying 'it's only hair'. It will grow back though. I hope you cheer up soon.

diddl Wed 07-Aug-13 17:42:34

My daughter did this.

She cropped the left front as close to her head as she could!

She wanted short hair "like a boy" so that she could go to her brother's party!

He had said that he only wanted boys there!

I just cut the rest straight across as short as I could.

Looked odd, but I really didn't want it layering all over.

Oblomov Wed 07-Aug-13 17:42:43

I would be gutted.
What did the friend say?
Realistically, there is nothing you can do? She is starting reception, you say. Even worse. More photo's. Oh well. Can only make good of a bad job.

diddl Wed 07-Aug-13 17:46:57

I was gutted also.

But she was of course, still my cheeky gorgeous little girl, & once she'd been to Kindergarten & everyone had seen her, it seemed better.

Then, seeing a little girl who was bald due to treatment for cancer kind of put it into perspective..

littlewhitebag Wed 07-Aug-13 17:50:17

This post made me chuckle. My niece cut my DD's hair when the were both staying with my parents (they were 4 and 5 at the time). My mum called me to say something terrible had happened in such a grave voice my stomach nearly turned inside out. When she told me I laughed so hard I almost cried. They are now aged 20 and 21 and we still talk about it. You will laugh about it it eventually and her hair will grow.

Have a look at my profile, I hope the photo uploaded! I'm not going to let her forget this one!
oblomov What did the friends Dad say? "Thank Goodness we went up when we did, it would have been his little girls turn next" grin

diddl I must admit that I did think that, which is one of the reasons why I thought I was being totally unreasonable, but I still cried - and now I've got a massive headache sad

ChippingInHopHopHop Wed 07-Aug-13 17:55:59

I would be gutted too - and very cross, but I'd try not to give out about it tooooooooo much.

Can you post the pics on your profile? (you can obscure her face if you are worried about that) We might be able to reassure you a bit?!

Sadly the first big hair cut does tend to change the hair a lot, but there's nothing you can do about it now little buggers

Oblomov Wed 07-Aug-13 17:56:09

I can't see your profile.

ChippingInHopHopHop Wed 07-Aug-13 17:57:02

You need to make your profile public smile

ChippingInHopHopHop Wed 07-Aug-13 17:58:21

Of course a child losing their hair through cancer is a million times worse, no-one would dispute that. However, currently this is your 'crisis' and you are allowed to be upset about it, even if in the scheme of world events it's a non event.

DontmindifIdo Wed 07-Aug-13 17:58:59

well, on the bright side, most DCs hair grows quickly, DS's hair grows about 2 inches every 5-6 weeks, so hopefully there'll be at least another inch of hair regrowth by school starting in September.

DearPrudence Wed 07-Aug-13 18:07:59

I would be gutted too - even though I could see it in perspective, you wouldn't choose for your child to start reception looking peculiar.

Flossiechops Wed 07-Aug-13 18:13:03

Op I know exactly how you feel. My ds, 8 has a crown of blonde locks and has always had it quite long. He always has lots of comments on how lovely his hair is. He went off with his sister to stay with my mother in laws for a few days, she rang and asked if she could take dd to the hairdressers as she felt her fringe needed a trim. Fair enough it was a bit long. Imagine my horror when they returned and ds had had all of his locks cut off in a shaved style! Mil didn't even mention ds having his hair cut - she knows I would have said no!! I was furious!

don'tmindifido I'm hoping that it will grow quickly, but it hasn't done to date. She had no hair for 2 years and it's taken another 3 to get it to shoulder length sad

I thought my profile was public, can someone please check?

Flossiechops I would be seriously furious, and frankly tempted to take the clippers to MILs hair. What was her excuse? Did he want his hair cut?

Scruffey Wed 07-Aug-13 18:14:59

My ds's friend, a little girl who started reception with him had recently had a similar episode with scissors. She started school with one side of her fringe the proper length and the rest of it ranged from that length to about 2cm long and it was all extremely wonky and zig zagged despite the best efforts of the hairdresser. The little girl is now 6, it's all grown fine and just a funny story. It is just hair, so try and see things more positively tomorrow.

crazykat Wed 07-Aug-13 18:18:34

My DS1 cut 6" off either side of DD1's hair last week. Her hair was down to her waist and the front is now jaw level. Thankfully it just looks like a long fringe as her hair is very curly and if it had been a bit shorter it would've looked a right state.

MrsLouisTheroux Wed 07-Aug-13 18:29:32

We can't click on your name justforlaughs so I don't think pofile is public.

DD did this. She had beautiful long hair all one length and cut herself a fringe. She then decided she didn't like the fringe so cut it off ( in an attempt to make it disappear) 1cm from her scalp. It took 6 months to grow to a 'fringe' length again! sad smile

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