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to be so upset - after all it's only a haircut

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4yo DD had shoulder length blonde ringlets - until this morning. She has never had her haircut and it has taken more than 4 years to get her hair this length.
Then, this morning, disaster! We went to a friends house and 2 little girls decided to play hairdressers in said friends bedroom, cue kids paper scissors and one cropped head! sad I can't believe how upset I am by this, it is a mess! understatement of the year Hairdresser can't do anything about the front, less than an inch long in most places, in some places more like an eighth of an inch. The back is better than the front, with the length in the centre untouched but the sides have all gone. (have been advised to keep the length for now and tie it into a very sad looking ponytail). I have been crying and think that I am being ridiculous, but everytime I look at her I think she looks like a shorn sheep. So AIBU or would you feel the same way?

MrsCampbellBlack Wed 07-Aug-13 16:23:06

I would totally feel the same way. DD cut herself a very short fringe when she was 3 - I was very upset. I knew it was just hair etc etc but I was still sad.

But it will grow quickly and you can use clips and hairbands in the interim to disguise it.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Wed 07-Aug-13 16:23:14

YANBU but I would cut it off and start again otherwise she'll look like she's got a baby mullet!

Nagoo Wed 07-Aug-13 16:23:20

Oh no! You aren't ridiculous at all. Yes, yes, it's just hair, but it's a shock all the same!

UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea Wed 07-Aug-13 16:23:37

You will look back and laugh one day, I promise. It's only hair and it will grow back.

CajaDeLaMemoria Wed 07-Aug-13 16:25:22

I had my hair cut last year, and the hairdresser was holding it all up and then tripped and cut it all off. It went from touching the bottom of my shoulder blades to being ear-length, and I hate it. I sobbed, and I was 22. It's only just got back to being below shoulder length.

Not unreasonable at all. I hope her hair grows back quickly - which it no doubt will at that age! - and she doesn't let scissors near it again!

500internalerror Wed 07-Aug-13 16:27:45

It definitely will grow back! But it might not be the same; hair often changes after the first real cut - I have kids that went from white to mousey...

thingamywotsita Wed 07-Aug-13 16:31:41

caja! what did the hairdresser say!?

ShowOfHands Wed 07-Aug-13 16:32:49

It's normal to be upset. Just like my Mum was upset when I did it and I was upset when dd did it.

It will grow back and faster than you'd think but for now, it's okay to have a sniffle and feel sad.

MrsCampbellBlack it would take more than clips and hairbands to disguise this one! grin I think it needs a wig!
Neomaxi that's what I said when she did it - it's a really, really, really bad mullet!

I can't decide whether to laugh or cry - I have taken photos and will keep them safe for when she gets married! I just keep thinking that it's taken so long for her hair to look like a girl rather than a boy that she'll be about 8 before it recovers! sad she WILL wear dresses and skirts now, instead of living in trousers!

and her reception photo will be a talking point for years to come wink

twinkletoedelephant Wed 07-Aug-13 16:36:39

My dd often use to give herself a hair cut but she was practically bald untill she was 2 then it just grew and grew we have had it cut by hairdressers when it was bum length last year and it's getting that way again.... I was always finding clumps in drawers it will grow back and won't take as long as you think

CSIJanner Wed 07-Aug-13 16:39:18

YANBU but need to remind yourself its only hair and will grow back.

DC1 was at pre-school this year. They left the scissors out unsupervised on a table so that they were accessible according to OFSTED recommendations. 4inches from right to the middle, lopped off. The first appointment gave a mullet look. The second more of a feather bob.

The only thing the preschool said that it was a rite of passage angry They were lucky it wasn't an earlobe!

MrsCampbellBlack Wed 07-Aug-13 16:41:17

Does she like hats then wink

Honestly, I feel your pain though. I went into my sitting room and just saw a trail of blonde hair across the carpet. My reaction was not my finest parenting moment.

RaRayRay1 Wed 07-Aug-13 16:53:52

My sister did this when she was about 3, she was the only one out of 5 of us girls that had long hair at that age, it was almost bum length and my mum loved it .

With older sisters the scissors were bound to get left out and she cut it all off, it was ear length, I remember my
Mum crying and I was 15 and cried too.

It did grow back really quickly though, she still has lovely long hair now at 21 grin

JohFlow Wed 07-Aug-13 16:55:46

hehe. My son did a similar thing (but 9 years old at time). I said that tomorrow we are going to the hairdressers. He said that he did not want to go. In the morning I got up and went for a wash as usual. There were the scissors and a long strand of his hair by the sink. My heart absolutely sank!. I went down to ask him if he knew anything about this. What he had done with cut just one section right down to the roots - in his fringe so that it was immediately obvious. I was horrified! Why cut it there of all places?

Again, similar to you the hairdresser couldn't find a way to balance it out with the rest of his cut.

We can laugh now. But at the time it was awful. So every sympathy.

I think I would be gutted to if his first haircut was off his friend with paper scissors x

CaptainSweatPants Wed 07-Aug-13 17:00:08

How canyou trip & cut it all off?!!!

NobodyPutsTomArcherInTheCorner Wed 07-Aug-13 17:02:38

sad I would be upset.

RevoltingPeasant Wed 07-Aug-13 17:10:10

OP I'd be upset - I don't have DC yet but am 10 years older than DSis4 and remember how beautiful her chestnut ringlets were when she was a toddler.

May I say, though....? Don't make a big issue out of this to her. She doesn't care about 'looking pretty' and I think it's a huge shame to tell her she MUST wear skirts and be all girly if she doesn't want to.

And look at it this way, at least it was DD herself who cut it, and not your MIL.... wink

bluesbaby Wed 07-Aug-13 17:12:44

Make sure you take photos so you can take revenge when she is older for the pain she has caused you!

You will be laughing evilly about this in 10 years time!

kilmuir Wed 07-Aug-13 17:16:55

Oops. My niece did something similar. My DSis had to get it cut short and funky.

Branleuse Wed 07-Aug-13 17:19:16

oh bless you. My dd did the same when she was 3. its a rite of passage.

revoltingpeasants I wouldn't really make her wear skirts and dresses, she hates them with a vengeance. Was talking about this with MIL the other day when she said that SIL is talking about getting married (when the dog dies confused) and we mentioned DD being bridesmaid. Haha, she'll make a great pageboy! grin

PeterParkerSays Wed 07-Aug-13 17:21:37

Do you knit / crochet / know someone who does.

I'd get her a hat which really suits her and which she wears on pain of death until her hair grows back; some thing like this or this.

marciaoverstrand Wed 07-Aug-13 17:24:05

My DD did this when she was 3, just before she was due to be a bridesmaid.
It was nearly waist length and she cut one half to shoulder length.
I cried, and she cries now when I show her the pictures as her hair takes ages to grow now!

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