My sister has just emailed me with the date and details of her hen night. I will be 7 months pregnant by the time it comes around and she has very sweetly made sure that there are activities I can join in on and made it clear she doesn't expect me to go on to late night bars with everyone else.
The problem is that her hen night is on my wedding anniversary. I know that wedding anniversaries aren't important to everyone but they are to DH and I. We have never been away for our anniversary for various reasons and we were determined that we would do so this year, firstly as it falls on a weekend so no need to take time off work and secondly because with the baby coming we may not get another weekend away in a while.
My sister has already moved her wedding forward as my due date fell on her original wedding day, which was incredibly nice of her but really unexpected, so I'm left feeling that I should probably change my plans for her.
If I'm brutally honest I would be reluctant to go even if it wasn't our anniversary as I'm already exhausted most of the time and can't imagine how I will feel in another two months. Add to that the cost of travel, activity, meal etc and I am left feeling I would rather not go, BUT would have put that to one side and gone if it weren't for the wedding anniversary issue on top of it all.
To add to my no doubt pregnany hormone induced guilt, this is my sister's second marriage and I can't help worrying that she will think that I am treating it as less important than her first marriage, where I was bridesmaid and organised a weekend away, was really enthusiastic etc.
I haven't told DH about the date yet, I know he will be really disappointed and upset if I tell him I want to cancel our weekend away (and it would be cancel as we couldn't afford for me to go on the hen night and have a special weekend away) so I want to be clear in my mind before I speak to him.
So, am I being unreasonable to tell her that I can't go and perhaps suggest she and I go out for a low key meal on another date?
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missmargot · 07/08/2013 15:47
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