Regular-ish poster, have namechanged because this will out me.
I have just got engaged to a lovely man after MANY years of singledom, a couple of doomed relationships with dodgy men and a very serious illness. He is kind, funny and although we have had a few bumps in the road, it feels 100% perfect and we are both chuffed as nuts :-)
I am not exactly in the first flush of youth and this is a first marriage for both of us. A few years ago I fell out badly with a member of my family on my mum's side. My granddad was dying of cancer, and my uncle made some nasty remark to the family (not including me) to the effect of "Who on earth is going to want YoungGirlGrowingOld - just look at her - she'll end up unmarried and alone just like her crazy mother". My granddad (bless him) tried to say that he thought that was awful and he was wrong, but this was met with more derogatory remarks about me from charming uncle. The thought of granddad hearing all that just before he died makes me feel a bit sick. (I may be being over-sensitive though).
I am not normally confrontational but I pulled my uncle up on his comments as soon as I found out. I was recovering from major surgery at the time so was not at my best either physically or emotionally. He made various threatening remarks ("You dont want to make an enemy out of me, you don't know who you are dealing with, etc") He then rang my my mum to complain about the particular word I used to describe him (DM was not very supportive of me, but that's a whole other AIBU...) Part of me is scared that people at my wedding will think the same - what's he doing with her? etc - and I hate that his nasty remarks still affect me years later and that I will inevitably worry about this on my long-awaited wedding day.
WIBU to send him an engagement announcement or a picture from my wedding? With a suitable rude message?? Or is this just childishness and stooping to his level? Would he simply construe it as mischief-making? Part of me really wants to prove that he was wrong about me (and granddad was right!) but most people in RL are of the "forget it and move on" persuasion.
Over to you MN jury.....
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YoungGirlGrowingOld · 06/08/2013 16:57
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