The person in question was with my DP's best friend for a few years but recently dumped him. I was only friendly to her to make things easier within the 'group' if we were out together etc but she's always been a bit sharp tongued and, for want of a classier word, a bit of a bitch. Most of our friends feel the same way and she's insulted almost all of us on at least one occasion.
Anyway, bumped into this 'friend' yesterday. She was with a group of people I don't really now & her new partner and introduced me as 'so and so's baby mamma' (i.e that's the woman who had a kid with ) 
Didn't actually say my name and started a sentence abut her new BF.
She knows that DS's dad has been utterly horrible & I like to forget about him most of the time.
Sounds petty but a.) I'm not a teenager who says things like 'baby mamma' and b.) I have a name/occupation besides 'baby mamma'....wtaf
I was only staying civil with her to keep the peace but seeing as she's always bringing DS's dad up when she knows full well I'd rather not talk about it and I'm not obliged to have anything to do with her now she's no longer with DPs BF, WIBU to not bother anymore?
Am ignoring a text about a 'movie night' because I know I'll end up replying 'fuck no. I have more constructive things to do with my time away from DS than be insulted, thank you very much'...
AIBU?
to want to ditch a 'friend' for this?
ClassyAsALannister · 06/08/2013 12:31
She actually used the words 'baby mamma'! 
No, I wouldn't think twice about dropping the friendship in your circumstances.
Yes I mean, I'm mid twenties but even then and tongue in cheek, surely that is just not something anyone says?
She's quite insecure about her size & appearance so I've always put it down to her needing to insult others to feel better. Doesn't make it ok obviously.
I'll just drift away & hope she gets the hint!
(and obviously, I felt pretty insulted that she used the one thing I dislike most about myself/situation to introduce me to people especially as she knows full bloody well. That can't have been accidental, surely)?
Then you've done your bit as a nice human being. 
You don't need to do any more!
Just wanted to check I wasn't being OTT as it's one of my 'buttons' and she certainly pushed it & it isn't the first time.
I just don't see why I should bother anymore.
And seriously, who insults people or puts them down and then asks them to meet up? She does it to everyone as far as I can tell but
That's how I feel about it lottie
And she's a tad melodramatic, which I really can't stand even in small doses.
I just stood there at the time because I was sleep deprived after a night with an ill toddler, doing the 'yeah yeah yeah, see you' thing. Spoke to DP about it that evening and it was his reaction (he was quite angry on my behalf) that I thought 'yeah, that was shit actually'. Baby brain definitely lasts long into toddlerhood 
Oh god no. We've 'known' each other for years. That's why it was deliberate (well, almost certainly deliberate).
I disliked her occasional bitchy rants about people but since she broke up with DPs BF she's been worse and I genuinely think she's made up a few fibs to make people dislike him etc. Play ground stuff. It's made me like her a whole lot less & I owe her nothing so just want to ignore her, but hoped that I wasn't being OTT, hence posting here
^ I wish I had but I was knackered! I just sort of pulled a 
face and then tried to make excuses to get away so I could collapse at home (DS was with a friend so I could catch up on sleep...the saint that she is)!
I spent the majority of the conversation thinking about my pillow and how comfy my new duvet is
So actually, I'm a bit cheeky myself...
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