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AIBU?

customer services getting my title wrong

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gasman · 05/08/2013 10:30

I have just phoned a major UK retailer (famed for their customer service). Despite me introducing myself and then correcting them once they persisted on calling me Mrs Gasman.

I am not Mrs Gasman. I am Dr Gasman. They were also being unhelpful in actually dealing with my problem so I terminated the call. I told them it was because they couldn't get my name right.

WIBU?

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angelos02 · 05/08/2013 10:32

Is your title relevant to what you were buying? If not, YABU.

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absentmindeddooooodles · 05/08/2013 10:32

Really........ I'm constantly getting called Mrs on the phone rather than miss. So what? As long as it does not affect the order or details on the system etc then its really not the biggest issue ever is it? This just makes you sound very pretentious.

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DayOldCheesecake · 05/08/2013 10:33

Oh how ghastly! Have you considered calling your MP or writing a letter to the Telegraph?

I don't know how you can go on, I really don't - but remember - you can always call the Samaritans if you need support.

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lovecupboards · 05/08/2013 10:34

Well if they were being unhelpful fair enough, but I wouldn't get too hung up on them dropping the Dr, presumably this is some low paid call centre staff person?

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HollyBerryBush · 05/08/2013 10:34

Could be worse they could call you by your first name - now that is beyond rude

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LittleRedDinosaur · 05/08/2013 10:35

I am a doctor, I am also a Mrs. People call me both. Get over it.

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angelos02 · 05/08/2013 10:35

I'm wondering if this is a reverse AIBU? Very precious OP if not.

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ShatnersBassoon · 05/08/2013 10:35

It's so unimportant. Just a simple mistake.

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CajaDeLaMemoria · 05/08/2013 10:36

Yes.

In the grand scheme of things, your title does not matter on a phone call.

Customer service agents take hundreds of calls per day. They have to stick to a script whilst also solving your problem, and meet tough time/call number/sales targets.

They'll be told to call you Mrs or Mr, because they are 'standard', and easy to identify. Most people who are accidentally called 'Mrs' but are actually 'Miss' won't mind. When you speak, they'll remember that you are female, and they have to recall your surname. Mrs Gasman is easiest to remember, and allows them to get your attention and solve your problem. It's a minor irritant that it's technically wrong.

If they were unhelpful, fair enough, terminate the call. Complain that they have been unhelpful. Your title really is irrelevant, though, it's just a title.

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DaddyPigsMistress · 05/08/2013 10:37

Stupid pesant! Imagine not knowing how to address their betters.


Have them hung

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didldidi · 05/08/2013 10:37

Yes you were, it's one of my pet hates and totally irrelevant to your conversation.

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MrsRajeshKoothrappali · 05/08/2013 10:39

I get called Mrs instead of Miss frequently (even have it on my Tesco clubcard).

Doesn't worry me.

I also have a different surname to DS and frequently get called Mrs DS Surname by the school.

I don't think it's a big deal.

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ClockWatchingLady · 05/08/2013 10:42

I can understand feeling annoyed with them in general if the customer service was crap. But IMO the title thing is a bit irrelevant.

I'm also a "Dr" but would feel like a right tit insisting the title was used by customer services representatives.

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Bosgrove · 05/08/2013 10:43

One of my friends is a doctor (Phd) but she refuses to used her Dr title....it may have something to do with her surname (Pain)

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Manchesterhistorygirl · 05/08/2013 10:43

Seriously this is all you have to worry about?

My surname is long and unusual and it's always being said incorrectly, not worth worrying about IMHO.

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gasman · 05/08/2013 10:44

Ok. I WBU but what is the fucking point of checking who you are and then not using it.

I have to say the Mrs/ Dr thing really pisses me off anyway. I don't mind being called by my first name I just don't like it when people make the effort to find out your title and then don't use it. I don't generally use my title (only with this company as they insist you have one on your cards) all the rest of my stuff just comes to Gasman and those companies would usually call me by my first name.

The issues isn't that I think Dr is a better title it is just that I hate being called Mrs (what the fuck is my marital status got to do with them anyway? )

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Feminine · 05/08/2013 10:45

Why did you want to be called Dr during the call?

What difference to your call would it have made?

Were you purchasing medical supplies?

Were you in Character? Grin

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gasman · 05/08/2013 10:46

I have a lot to worry about at the moment hence getting irrationally hung up on what people call me. Far easier to deal with than planning my international move, bathroom ceiling that has just fallen down, planning ongoing UK care for crumbly aged relatives that I'm responsible for etc. etc.

Tyinng up the estate of my late mother before I leave the UK.

Clearing out and selling up my flat.

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Feminine · 05/08/2013 10:46

Ok, just saw your up-date. Still don't get it though!

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HappyMummyOfOne · 05/08/2013 10:47

If your only worry is regarding pretentious titles then you must have a very easy life. Save complaining for when it really matters.

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gasman · 05/08/2013 10:47

I didn't want to be called Dr. I just didn't want to be called Mrs.

They wanted to call me using a title. I told them to use my correct title and then they ignored me.

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Feminine · 05/08/2013 10:48

With all that going on, I'm not surprised you are overwrought!

:) I'm sorry for all the stress you have, and for the loss of your Mum.

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inneedofsomehelpplz · 05/08/2013 10:48

drown the bastards!!!! how dare they not know who you are!!! Biscuit

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gasman · 05/08/2013 10:48

HappyMummyofOne read my update.

Easy life... I think not!

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LEMisdisappointed · 05/08/2013 10:50

confused

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