to feel confused by the level of affection one feels for nicknames on a screen?

(254 Posts)
ClockWatchingLady Fri 02-Aug-13 21:11:23

I'm a bit late to the party, having only just discovered MN (never been on other "chat" type sites either). It really feels like people care about each other here, and (like countless others, it seems) I continually find myself "checking" on people on certain threads, and thinking about some posters' welfare very regularly.

I can't formulate my question exactly, but isn't it a bit weird that none of us really knows each other? Or do we? What does it all mean?! People who have been on MN a long time: do you feel that you have real "friendships" here?

Definitely Clock, but not close friendships. You remember people for what they have been through and stories they have told. It is weird, but I do genuinely care for a lot of people on here and yet I have never met them and would pass them in the street.

It works both ways though you remember if someone has been a right arse for instance. wink

Tee2072 Fri 02-Aug-13 21:18:12

I have met quite a few MNetters. And care about even more.

But, then, I fell in love with my husband over the internet.

ClockWatchingLady Fri 02-Aug-13 21:19:34

Thanks for the reply, Sparklingbrook.
Interesting to hear.

(re-reading the title of this thread I just hope, then, that I'm not remembered as some right arse trying to impersonate the queen. I'm really not that posh wink )

mrsjay Fri 02-Aug-13 21:22:54

I randomly remembered something I read about a member said a while ago the other day It was quite weird I mentioned it to the poster I hope she didnt think i was so sort of stalker or something If you post alot and are on the same threads <waves @sparkling> then you have a sort of onscreen friendship going on does any of that make sense

ClockWatchingLady Fri 02-Aug-13 21:23:17

Do you mean in the flesh, Tee? (the MNers, I assume you and your husband have met in person)

mrsjay Fri 02-Aug-13 21:24:12

aww thats nice tee 2 of my friends have met their partners on the internet one is married the other in a LTR

You do find that you end up with like minded people on the same threads again and again. I am often found down the lighthearted end of MN talking cobblers and tutting over slebs. grin <waves to mrsjay>

Nirvana79 Fri 02-Aug-13 21:25:53

I find it hard sometimes. I've NC today, not for this thread but I never seem to fit in anywhere, even online. I'm a nice person, honestly grin

Everywhere I go I just don't fit. There is loads of support on here though that I've seen which is nice.

I am sure you fit somewhere Nirvana. Perhaps you need to talk more cobblers.

Nirvana79 Fri 02-Aug-13 21:27:18

Not today, the other day.

BrainSurgeon Fri 02-Aug-13 21:27:36

I totally see where you're coming from OP.

I started feeling the same after about a year here.... then I went to a MN meet-up and now I can definitely say I care about quite a few of these vipers grin

Nirvana79 Fri 02-Aug-13 21:28:02

Yeah maybe, Sparkling. I need to try harder I think.

ClockWatchingLady Fri 02-Aug-13 21:28:08

Yes, the NC thing is strange isn't it? So you sort of have to start all over again if you do it.

Tee2072 Fri 02-Aug-13 21:28:40

Yes, in the flesh, Clock. Both here in Belfast, for which I am the Local Editor, although I met some before I took up the job, and in London.

The Forty Plus Mummies have been talking online for over 5 years and meet up at least twice a year.

Nirvana I've only ever really fit in long term places online. I mean, I have friends, but not really close ones, my husband being the exception.

But this isn't my first internet message board by a long shot and I still have friends all over the world from others.

daisychain01 Fri 02-Aug-13 21:28:49

What a brilliant and perceptive observation. And its just so true. I notice that people chat away like they see each other every day! I probably havent been on here long enough because people dont really chat to me. Maybe it just takes ages and ages. But I love all the witty banter.

The top thread at the mo has to be TidyDancer's one about the friend who has asked her to decorate her wedding hall even though she de-invited her from the wedding. Its like a party in there every night, everyone getting involved!. grin

ClockWatchingLady Fri 02-Aug-13 21:29:12

What makes you think you don't fit, Nirvana?

Some people worry about being anonymous and some don't. I depends what you share really. There is nothing I have posted on here I would mind if anyone read TBH.

I'm the same as Niv I just don't feel like I fit in but still stick around on the sidelines and NC a fair bit.

I've had lots of support here though and never roam far from MN.

SisterMatic Fri 02-Aug-13 21:30:45

I found MN difficult at first but I am slowly getting into it. You have just got to take the plunge.

FruOla Fri 02-Aug-13 21:30:58

You get to 'know' some MNers over a period of time. As Sparkling says, you often find yourself 'chatting' to like minded people on MN.

And I've also met a number of MNers in real life - through MN - so deliberately arranging to meet, rather than just randomly meeting someone who you subsequently discover is a MNer.

SisterMatic Fri 02-Aug-13 21:31:30

...but also..know that once you are here..you never leave

<evil cackle>

Tee2072 Fri 02-Aug-13 21:31:46

Me too, Sparkling. I'm out loud and proud. grin

mrsjay Fri 02-Aug-13 21:32:06

I have made some lovely from forum and chatrooms MY dh thinks it weird <shrug>
yep Nirvana you need to talk tosh and rubbish it is fun

I have nothing to hide Tee do you feel the same? I am me.

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