To rant about my children's now ruined brand new clothes?(276 Posts)
I know I am BU but I am so pissed off I don't care.
My parents took my children camping at their expense for two weeks. This is awesome and I am incredibly lucky to have such a close and supportive family.
As the weather was hot and they've grown since last summer, I had gave them their holiday clothes for our holiday this year.
My parents have allowed them to go a play park in their brand, spanking new white shorts. They have not soaked the resulting stains as soon as they occurred, they've been through the wash twice with surf, vanish in wash and vanish spray on stain remover, nothing has touched it, they're now soaking in the sink with half water, half vanish. They're obviously going top need replacing
I know I am lucky that my kids got a free holiday and in the grand scheme of things they're only shorts, but I am so fucking annoyed that no-one thought to ask them to change into more suitable clothing for going to the park in the mud. They'd only worn the shorts once.
My daughter and son would obliterate a pair of white shorts in the house never mind on a camping trip
I LOVE my dd wearing white and ending up whatever colour!! It doesnt matter if her clothes are new or not!! It shows she has had a GREAT time and thats all that really matters.
Sorry Yabu to send white shorts on a camping trip. Try bleaching failing that dye them....
This is a control issue. If you want control take your kids on holiday yourself. Of course YABU.
Celia <shakes head>
Aye - I have to say I have told dh about this OP, and we have laughed a lot!
Special going-to-the-pub-in-the-evening white shorts on a camping trip. The idea that under the same circumstances, you would have soaked them straightaway. Never been camping obviously.
The misplacing of priorities and lack of gratitude! Astonishing!
The suggestion that doing laundry is your hobby.
All have made us laugh.
Seriously though OP, I envy you. To be so spoiled for familial support as to consider the loss of a pair of supermarket shorts as being worthy of note and complaint, in the face of a two week break at someone else's expense, is a very fortunate place to be.
Whatever else may be going on in your life, that is special.
Be careful you don't abuse it.
Someone also mentioned on this thread the guinea pigs with their own towels!!! What that all about???
My sil once rang me to "just let me know" that her children's brand new trainers were dirty after playing in my garden and her dd was not allowed to remove her bobble as she'd now lost it and could I find it please?
Strangely, I never offered to babysit again!
the amount of time, money and energy you have wasted over a pair of shorts in unbelivable.
I would have just thrown the shorts out and got on with my life.
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
this is one of the funniest mumsnet threads ever.
You know you're being unreasonable. You're also ungrateful and have no perspective. Your kids had fun, with their family at no expense to you while you had 2 weeks child free time.
I hope you had the good manners not to mention anything to your parents.
I am [shocked].
I think the OP's NN gives us a clue as to why she's so upset about the clothes. I agree with the posters who say put it down to experience and next year get some sacrilege clothes from primark or charity shops which won't bother you if they get ruined.
Ridiculous that you would even be bothered two weeks child free how ungrateful you are
Get a grip.
All this fuss over young children getting clothes dirty?Go over and read some of the threads of parents with terminally ill children,and count yourself lucky that your children are healthy enough to get a pair of tesco shorts dirty while they enjoy a childhood summer holiday with their grandparents.
So OP how is shortgate this morning all clean ...
YABU and ridiculous
Did the dc only have the denim pair and the white pair? On a two week camping holiday (I would fall at my DParents' feet if they did that for me, btw)? You need at least 3 normal useable pairs for play and no fecking white ones. Kids' clothes get ruined. That at is a fact of life and you prepare for it rather than restrict play. Plenty of time to fanny around "looking good" and sitting around daintily, posing for photos later in life (should they wish to do that).
BTW, having had pet birds and a parrot I can let you all know that taking care of them for 2 weeks is no work at all.
You are very spoiled op.
OK so YABU, You know that, we know that.
But I get how you feel because I'm the same
DS goes with my mum to a campsite each year for 2 nights, they stay in a static and it does have a 'club' for the evening.
I send shoes/clothes/T-shirts that are OK for mud/ paddling and that I don't mind getting ruined and some smarter but nothing precious clothes for the evening.
It drives me mad that she tells him to put his trainers on - he only ever has 1 pair - and then takes him somewhere with a river and practically forces him to paddle in them - as in won't let him take them off. He has Velcro up plimsolls 2-3 pairs at £5 each for this sort of summer activity. He then chooses his day clothes to put on but she'll insist he wears the ones he's worn to the club because they'll already be dirty.
Sounds like a pathetic thing to get annoyed about
and probably is! BUT........... my whole family has been going to this campsite for over 60 years and we 'all' my cousins and siblings etc had day clothes and smarter evening clothes and were made to shower and get clean for the club and have shoes that we could get wet/muddy and shoes we weren't allowed to deliberately ruin.
Mum told me "only send things camping you can afford to replace and don't mind getting ruined"
Year before last I only sent crocs and 2 pairs of plimsolls and old clothes that were stained already - she kept getting him to change shoes and by the first evening asked him where his trainers/ smart clothes were for club. Mummy didn't send them so nanny bought him a cheap pair. When she asked why I just replyed "only send things camping that you can afford to replace and don't mind getting ruined"
TBH I think the main reason it makes me feel stabby is that 363 days of the year I am a LP, I cope alone and although I'm very laid back I look after things because I can't afford to just buy more - then I lose that control for 2 days, and feel some misplaced anger that by not considering my feelings I'm not missed.
Told you it was stupid
For the cerise playsuits, buy some biotex laundry cleaner and soak the items for a good 12 hours in biotex in a bucket of water, then wash on warm with stain remover sprayed all over the blotches, and if they come out of the wash still looking a bit blotchy repeat with the biotex. Line dry or hang indoors away from heat.
Next time send old, sensible clothes for a camping holiday and do the packing yourself. Buying new anything is guaranteeing they will be ruined. It is Murphy's Law.
I hate it when people destroy laundry -- this was something exH used to do with bleach on the odd occasion when he got to the pile first. But camping and nice clothes do not mix even when there are laundry facilities.
Nooka, no you are not the only one. It's a shame to see children inhibited from fun by second thoughts about their clothes. It's usually girls that are hobbled in this way.
They don't have to watch their clothes because I don't let them go down wet slide in white shorts, I'd have sent them back to the tent to get changed.
This takes all the fun and spontaneity out of it and is a strange lesson to be teaching children. They really are being taught to watch their clothes and think of their clothes first before any other considerations; it's not a simple matter of 'There's the slide. Let's slide on it' for children who are going to be reminded of what they are wearing and then sent off to change.
See this is why I hate stains, I don't know how to deal with them. What's napisan?
I don't know how you've managed to get two children to the point where they can go off on a camping holiday without knowing about setting stains with heat, or about napisan.
I hope your children are so distracted by the puppy that they are missing all this drama about the clothes and it won't give them some sort of complex.
YABVU to be "fucking annoyed" - you need a new perspective on life !
And to appreciate your parents taking your DC on holiday for 2 weeks !!
Anyway, I suggest sticking to your guns and upping the ante next time by sending white gloves.
You allow your DCs to choose their own clothes, then place restrictions on when they can wear them and expect other people to enforce them - oh, and you expect others to follow your clothes washing routines.
Are you my DSC mum?
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