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to think PIL are being a bit ridiculous re separate rooms?

(114 Posts)
Irishchic Wed 31-Jul-13 22:20:27

My dh's brother is 41 years old. He has been with his partner for 6 years and they have a year old dd. He lives in London, (we are in Ireland) yet whenever he comes home to visit his parets, he and his partner are not allowed share a room.

mY MIL's brother is visiting them at the moment. He is in his 60's and divorced this last 5 years. He has a partner of around 2 or 3 years standing now. They also have separate rooms in the house, even though they live togethe as a couple.

AIBU to think this is ridiclous? If bro in law was like, 18 or 19, i could maybe see what their point was, but now, as a grown man, it just seems a bit daft to me.

Am prepared for the flaming for being intolerant.

Greythorne Wed 31-Jul-13 22:21:19

Ridiculous.

Bakingtins Wed 31-Jul-13 22:22:08

Their house, their rules? though it does seem a bit daft.

Whothefuckfarted Wed 31-Jul-13 22:22:27

I think it's ridiculous. But I guess their home, their rules.

If it were me visiting I'd book a B&B close by instead of being treated like a naughty teenager...

maternitart Wed 31-Jul-13 22:22:55

They are being ridiculous but they must have v strong religious views to impose such rules, I assume?

StarsAboveYou Wed 31-Jul-13 22:23:22

It does seem ridiculous but in their house its their rules which stand and I suppose if they don't like it they could stay in a hotel nearby instead.

KatAndKit Wed 31-Jul-13 22:23:59

Totally ridiculous especially as they have a child. I would stay in a hotel instead if my parents were like that about me and my family. Their house their rules of course but i would be offended personally

SanityClause Wed 31-Jul-13 22:24:08

My parents would do this.

paperclipsarebetterthanstaples Wed 31-Jul-13 22:25:55

Their house, their rules. If people don't like them they can use hotels

hamab Wed 31-Jul-13 22:26:17

I'm amazed they want to stay there! I'd go for the b and b too. What will the dc think as they get a bit older?

kinkyfuckery Wed 31-Jul-13 22:26:30

Do you think the issue is that they aren't married? What was the situation with your MILs brother when he and his wife would come to stay?

Sleepyhead33 Wed 31-Jul-13 22:27:28

Madness...but I wouldn't put up with it. Definitely book a b&b and explain why they are choosing that over staying with family.

makingdoo Wed 31-Jul-13 22:28:10

Totally ridiculous but their house their rules.

I have lots if aunts here in Ireland who would probably do the same. My cousins and I always stay in B&Bs for family gatherings for this reason.

joanofarchitrave Wed 31-Jul-13 22:28:29

Ridiculous.

I have a slight problem with the very young (like, under 18) being allowed to share rooms, but once a person is an adult...

I think a gentle 'Lovely to see you but I think next time we will stay elsewhere and visit' would be well called for.

pigletmania Wed 31-Jul-13 22:28:57

Bloody stupid, they are not kids!

scarlettsmummy2 Wed 31-Jul-13 22:29:54

All that catholic repression. Quite amusing actually

Bragadocia Wed 31-Jul-13 22:32:23

Would anyone think, "their house, their rules" if the couple in question were married and not allowed to share?

TallyGrenshall Wed 31-Jul-13 22:33:05

My mother insisted, many years ago, that my sister slept in my room whilst her then partner slept downstairs. My sister was about 7 months pregnant at the time. I don't know if my mother was relying on creaky stairs as an early alarm system or expecting 7 year old me to defend my sisters long gone virginity grin

It's their house etc but there comes a point where it's just daft

minitoot Wed 31-Jul-13 22:34:20

ridiculous, but they'll never change so I suppose you just have to put up with it.

Xmasbaby11 Wed 31-Jul-13 22:34:31

Ridiculous.

Irishchic Wed 31-Jul-13 22:35:31

My MIL would not object, but my FIL wont allow it.

BIL, his partner and their dd stay with us when they come home. We live around 5 mins from PIL. PIL know they do not have separate rooms here but as it is not undertheir nose they do not have to object.

BIL and his partner are expecting dd2. This will not go down well.

I think it is daft, and sad, as it means PIL get to spend less time with their little granddaughter.

diddl Germany Wed 31-Jul-13 22:39:14

If they don't want unmarried couples sleeping together/having sex in their house I don't see why they should be ridiculed for it tbh.

danceponydance Wed 31-Jul-13 22:39:29

An ex boyfriend's sister had to move her fiancé into the spare room of the house they owned and lived in together when her parents came to visit or stay. It's fair enough having strong religious views but you do need to be realistic about other peoples views and how they live their lives as well.

Ethlinn Wed 31-Jul-13 22:40:37

Totally ridiculous. Although my parents are exactly the same. Ridiculously conservative. My OH is the first guy allowed to share the room (and bed) with me when we're there. And it's probably only because we have DS now, so pretending I am completely innocent makes no sense grin.

Huh. Bit odd. FIL must have very strong views indeed.

Is BIL revolting against a very strict Catholic upbringing by not marrying his partner?

Thank goodness no one is gay in that family. Oh hang on, the Pope said being gay is ok now didn't he?

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