To feel like a failure in not spotting my DS's broken finger earlier?

(57 Posts)
JohFlow Tue 30-Jul-13 17:22:01

On the last day of term my son came back from school and said that during a football match he had dived for the ball (as goalie) and a friend had landed on top of his hand. I looked at the hand and it looked swollen but presumed it was just bruised. A few days later the bruising went black and I became more concerned but something came to mind that 'you should wait till the bruising subsides a little before having it checked'. This I did. Finger could be moved and my son did not seem in pain apart from the first day. When the bruising started to dissapate - it was much clearer that his finger was deformed.

I have just spend two days in the hospital having it checked out. I have been told that repair is easier in the first 7 days before the bone starts to knit together again shortly after. My DS has signs of some re-setting in the wrong position.

He has to have an operation tomorrow to put everything back in line.

Feel that my slow reactions have complicated things. sad

freddiefrog Thu 01-Aug-13 12:43:04

I wouldn't feel too bad, I broke my own wrist without realising.

I was messing about on a zipwire with my kids and fell off. I only fell about a foot at the most, into a muddy puddle. The only thing hurt at the time was my pride and new jacket.

A few days later my wrist was unbearably painful and popped into the walk in minor injury unit to discover I'd broken my wrist.

MummytoMog Thu 01-Aug-13 12:45:15

I broke my big toe and was told I couldn't possibly have broken it, or I wouldn't be able to walk on that foot. Really? A week later it got crunched back into place rather painfully in A and E and strapped up for six weeks. Plus side to this - my bunion on that side disappeared. Down side to this - it aches to buggery in damp weather.

ShabbyButNotChic Thu 01-Aug-13 12:54:24

Dont worry, fingers are difficult. I used to do a lot of dance and broke a couple of fingers, and probably all my toes at some point. Mostly i didnt realise ut was broken not sprained until a couple of days later as they didnt look deformed or anything. It got to the point my mum would just strap them up a thats all they did at docs/hospital anyway. They are all fully functioning now smile
I also broke my wrist when i fell out of a tree aged 8, i didnt even cry at the time, and didnt suspect serious damage as it didnt hurt as much as i thought it would if it had broke. Until i woke up with a mahoosive wrist/hand a couple if days later.

I think unles they are really dramatic breaks and fractures are really quite easy to miss.

GhostsInSnow Thu 01-Aug-13 12:58:58

Dont worry, its easily done.

DD (15) hobbled around for 3 weeks with a fractured kneecap. Even our GP thought it was pulled ligaments. It only showed up on a precautionary x ray 3 weeks later.
DD still ribs me over it now and says she'll tell Social Services all about me blush

Tigresswoods Thu 01-Aug-13 13:01:44

My brother dragged himself around the house for 3 days with a broken knee (he was 18) before my dad took him to have it looked at.

softlysoftly Thu 01-Aug-13 13:45:30

God no collarone here too mum made me finish a show jumping round with mine smashed and then waited 2 days until dad thought they should take action.

Ditto broken arm with dsis.

It's right of passage and will give him something to hold against ti as an adult like we do grin

EssexGurl Thu 01-Aug-13 13:47:30

My wedding ring finger is bent. When I was about 5 we had friends over and were all playing sleeping lions. One of the lads stood on my hand. My mum and boys mum both swore blind it was fine. Never went to hospital and now wonky. A least you have got him sorted!!!

JohFlow Wed 07-Aug-13 16:01:35

So update - DS now been seen by 4 consultants. His knuckled clicked back out of place during the healing process. Doctors are unable to do the manual positioning again as the bone has already started knitting into place. Without further surgery; his finger will be permanently deformed - but its function would be preserved. The other option is for a wire to be fitted through the bone. This would result in a straighter finger; but there would be less function and he may not be able to create a fist with his finger bent. There would also be scarring as the finger will need to be opened twice.Seems like not much of a choice.

What would you opt for?

FairPhyllis Wed 07-Aug-13 17:11:12

Hm. What does he want? I think I would go for keeping the function - will the finger still have the strength it would have had otherwise? Is it his dominant hand? Does he play any instrument that he would struggle with in either scenario?

Don't feel bad for having not spotted it - I broke a finger playing netball at school and the A&E junior doctor sent me home saying it wasn't broken - then we got a phone call from the consultant saying he'd seen the X-ray and actually it was broken.

Scarring on fingers is an issue to think about - I also have scarring all along the nearside of my right index finger (long story) and it is actually a huge pain in the neck because you use that surface of that finger an awful lot - I find it much harder to do things like open bottles or anything where you exert pressure using that part of the finger or knuckle, because the scar tissue is quite sensitive.

JohFlow Wed 28-Aug-13 13:03:04

Hi Fair,

Apologies for not responding earlier - just seen your post now.

Have gone for function over straightness. He is strapped up for the next two weeks and will be seen by consultant again at 6 weeks (at my request).

Not dominant hand. So no concerns with writing etc.

Had not thought of the scar-rubbing scenario but that totally makes sense and makes me think that I have made a good decision now.

Thank you for your post x

happilyconfused Wed 28-Aug-13 15:03:53

Guilty as charged. DS ended up having an op on his finger to insert a k-wire. He of course points out that he was in pain for a couple of days before I eventually got round to anything about it.

MiddleAgeMiddleEngland Wed 28-Aug-13 15:33:14

Friends of ours failed to realise their DD had broken her leg after falling off her bike. Kissed it better and told her it would be ok in the morning. Which it wasn't, so they took her to A & E.

They are both doctors at the hospital they took her to, (Dad is an orthopedic surgeon) felt very embarrassed explaining to colleagues that they'd just kissed it better.

Don't worry, I'm sure it happens all the time. Hope your son's finger mends quickly now.

Lilypiesmum Sun 13-Apr-14 20:40:51

I've just searched broken fingers on here, pleased I did as I'm feeling a little better now. DDs finger got trapped in a door at school 2 weeks ago, it only hurt her that day, so I just put ice on it and gave her calpol. She's not complained since, but we noticed it was still swollen and bent in funny position. Trip to A&E confirmed it is broken but has set in an odd position. I'm gutted sad hoping they can reset it, but they've said as there's plenty of movement they won't do much!

Lauren83 Tue 15-Apr-14 19:34:14

Story that really upsets my mum everytime it comes up... I was 2/3 and out Xmas shopping, I had new shoes on and whinged all day about my feet, my mum dragged me round for hours and when we got home a nail had gone through my shoe and into my foot my sick was soaked with blood, she still feels guilty to this day, it happens!

Tiredemma Tue 15-Apr-14 19:36:41

we did this. Ds1 had a broken thumb for about two weeks before we took him to A&E.

RunnerBeen Tue 15-Apr-14 19:38:48

My sister had a broken arm for about five days before my mother decided she wasn't just milking it and took her to hospital. Don't feel too guilty grin

MrsDavidBowie Tue 15-Apr-14 19:40:42

Guilty here too.
Ds fell off a climbing frame when he was 2 ata friend's house.

Two days later he said his shoulder hurt....broken collarbone.

thebodydoestricks Tue 15-Apr-14 19:44:23

Same happened to my dd. I am a trained nurse. grin

It's life. Don't beat yourself up. Far far worse happens at sea.

zobey Wed 16-Apr-14 20:40:14

Dh was walking round and digging holes (his job) for 6 weeks plus with a broken foot. Not just once though but three times in a year and a bit.

Mitzi50 Wed 16-Apr-14 20:50:54

I sent my daughter to school with a broken foot - in my defence she hadn't had an accident (but had fallen out of her bed) and was walking around with only a slight limp. Even the doctor at A & E said she didn't think the foot was broken and only did the x ray as a precaution.

canyou Wed 16-Apr-14 20:51:28

If it makes you feel better
Both my Ddad and DP are paramedics

Dad left me with a broken wrist for a week apparently it was all in my headhmm
Dad told me sit down next to him and have a hug after he ignored my projectile vomiting blood for an hr as I only had migraine. Fortunately an A&E Dr diagnosed meningitis and treated me
Dp refused to believe I was in labour, ask two of his colleagues who were returning to base to pop in and tell me cop myself on Dd was born in the back of their ambulanceblush blush We live 8 min from the maternity unitconfused
I am in bed with hay fever/ cold vomiting from the cough Dp and the Dr he is overseas with have prescribed hot brandy and port with two paracetamol and an antihistamine. Yeah the DC will be fine will I get drunk/stonedhmm

Hope you feel better and have somewine your DR will survive and drag the tale of parental neglect out for the -- rest of his life-- next week

My DS hurt his thumb playing rugby on the Wednesday. I sent him to school on the Thursday. On the Friday he played benchball and injured the same thumb

The school phoned me to take him to the walk in Polyclinic.
I was hmm but did it and had to explain at reception that he's had 2 injuries.

He'd fractured it.
He was gloating at my obvious neglect (and still does) grin
I was blush

NHS Podiatrist <<for shame>>

almondcakes Wed 16-Apr-14 21:03:32

Do not worry. DD broke her finger, had it xrayed, was told it was not broken. Then I got a letter from the hospital a week later saying the xray had been reviewed, it was broken and to bring her back in. So these things can't be that easy to spot!

Nocomet Wed 16-Apr-14 21:04:40

I've a nasty feeling DD has done something similar to one of her fingers, it won't quite straighten, but she did it several weeks ago so I doubt theirs much point worrying.

She does have previous for going to sleep with both bones in her wrist broken clean through.

MiddleAgeMiddleEngland Wed 16-Apr-14 21:08:53

I think it happens a lot. Friends of ours failed to notice for two days that their son had broken his arm. The mum is a nurse, the dad is an orthopaedic surgeon. They had to explain to colleagues that they hadn't noticed. (But they had kissed it better a few times smile)

I'm sure the operation will go well and your son will be fine soon.

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