To be mildly disappointed that all of the brides I know have been rather reasonable?

(31 Posts)
nenevomito Mon 29-Jul-13 21:17:43

Just that really.

I've met a few who've got stressed before the day. I've been there myself, waking up at 3am because of cake boxes, but none of them have been even remotely cunty. Not one.

Am I alone in never having been abused by people who are having their special day or are the Bridezilla threads on here the state of play now?

Have I just been rather lucky in having friends and family that aren't arseholes, or should I feel disappointed by missing the excitement and drama?

Anyone else out there managed to just have rather nice times at weddings like me?

LilacPeony Mon 29-Jul-13 21:27:39

I think if you regularly read Mumsnet talk boards you do get a slightly exaggerated view of things, because obviously people tend to post about more extreme stuff. I went to many a soft play place and park for example when my kids were small, but didn't get into any confrontations with people, but from reading the talk boards, you might think confrontations happened at soft play places all the time. Same as bridezilla/groomzilla behaviour. It probably happens sometimes because people do get stressed, but most brides and grooms are probably ok.

grin

SantanaLopez Mon 29-Jul-13 21:33:11

YANBU. I live for wedding threads.

NumTumDeDum Mon 29-Jul-13 21:37:50

I am currently Bridezilla if that helps. I have 6 weeks to get it all sorted. Not sure if I'm being cunty enough about it though. What would help?

SmiteYouWithThunderbolts Mon 29-Jul-13 21:47:04

I have met one cunty bridezilla, but she only morphed into such the day before the wedding when she started barking orders at unsuspecting family members to finish bits of wedding prep, tantrumming when we they got it wrong and then never saying thank you to those who had given up an entire day to faff around with bloody ribbons.

BOF Mon 29-Jul-13 21:47:14

Are you able to disinvite a few guests, Num?

nenevomito Mon 29-Jul-13 21:50:58

I have one friend at the moment due to get married soon, having perfectly reasonable worries about having made too many wedding favours and wondering what to do with them.

However she's not invited extra people to go with the number of favours.

She's missing a trick grin

NumTumDeDum Mon 29-Jul-13 22:00:16

Hmn. I could randomly disinvite a few BOF. Given the recession, I think maybe anyone with more than two children?

NumTumDeDum Mon 29-Jul-13 22:01:07

Perhaps by way of a limmerick?

SantanaLopez Mon 29-Jul-13 22:02:16

You should make them all perform a choreographed dance at the reception Num.

ArtexMonkey Mon 29-Jul-13 22:07:10

grin

Great thread, I was thinking the same myself. I am being a bridesmaid for my bezzie in the next couple of years, the best man will be my ex partner - AWKWARD. however, this was not sprung on me, and I haven't had any orders barked at me yet, and afaik our dc will be invited etc. Obviously there's still plenty of time for things to go awry. I hope I can work it all up into a lovely 12 page thread for yous all.

NumTumDeDum Mon 29-Jul-13 22:16:27

A choreographed dance you say? It has potential.

SantanaLopez Mon 29-Jul-13 22:20:08
nenevomito Mon 29-Jul-13 22:42:14

I've been invited to a number of weddings where my ex's were also invited. This is what happens if you are liberal with your loving at Uni.

NumTumDeDum Mon 29-Jul-13 22:45:07

I have two of dp's ex girlfriends coming to our wedding. They're both very nice.

NumTumDeDum Mon 29-Jul-13 22:45:30

None of my exs though. They're not very nice. grin

deleted203 Mon 29-Jul-13 22:49:02

I've decided all my friends are clearly dull. None of them stressed over their wedding days. None of them made ridiculous demands. Most of them couldn't give a shit what colour their napkins were.

Perhaps I need to wait for their offspring to get married...

nenevomito Tue 30-Jul-13 07:52:43

When I had a young baby, I was allowed to take it to my friend's child-free wedding as well. The bitch. There was a whole thread in that and she let me down by being rather nice and reasonable about it all.

purplewithred Tue 30-Jul-13 08:06:49

I am getting married next year and am a bit concerned that I'm going to fail at the Bridezilla bit. However I have plenty of time and will keep on top of the threads. Will start with the Save the Date thing, which I'd never heard of before, so that will be very useful. Don't actually know the date yet so I can not just send them out to people who won't get invited but I can send out several dates too. Wasn't going to have a wedding list but am working on my poem asking for money (which we don't need) - may sing it and make it into a youtube link or something. Will also work on an appalling colour theme and insist everyone adheres to it.

Honestly don't know where I'd be without Mumsnet.

ChunkyPickle Tue 30-Jul-13 08:16:22

Same here, my cousin was particularly nice and invited me/dp/ds literally at the last minute when we moved back to the country at short notice - no fuss (well, except the good kind), wedding was lovely, she was lovely, all was fantastic.

Every other wedding I've been to, whether more or less formal has also been very comfortable and nice with no drama. I don't know what I'm doing wrong.

yanbu.

i never went bridezilla for the first one, mainly because my mil was having it as her perfect day and flung tantrums when she didn't get her way. my upcoming is what I want, small and informal. hard to get bridezilla about that. though if oh doesn't set some time aside soon so we can talk through some of the basic arrangements I may kill him. or maybe I should go cunty bridezilla on his arse until he realises... grin

all my friends are obviously boring too...

YANBU. I have a large family and friends are very accommodating and don't ask for a repeat of the Hungef Games to decide who goes. They might get a bit crabby, but in a reasonable way, and laugh at themselves at the same time and are never cunty, and always polite. They send well thought out, sensible and simple invitations, and happily allow babies to come along. angry

Flobbadobs Tue 30-Jul-13 09:31:10

YANBU, it's all very unreasonable!
The only person who got a bit that way was me in the run up over flowers of all things, half of the people didn't want to wear the buttonholes for a variety of really rather crap reasons so I cancelled the order after having a bit of a strop at the IL's after some 'helpful' suggestions... Flowers ffs...
I gave myself a slap when I'd calmed down grin

nenevomito Tue 30-Jul-13 13:21:32

How have you all managed to come to terms with the disappointment of not knowing anyone who is an that arse-like?

I'm almost tempted to do a 'renewing of my vows' ceremony, just so I can snub people in rhyme.

Please send me some money, honey
But don't expect an invite cos I'm tight.

That kind of thing.

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