ZOMBIE THREAD ALERT: This thread hasn't been posted on for a while.

to think there should be a forum where things can be discussed without having to be AIBU about stuff?

(61 Posts)
kim147 Sun 28-Jul-13 10:00:26

So where do you post where you just want a discussion without having to be unreasonable about it?

I know there's loads of forums on here - Royalty etc but they just seem like backwaters and things get lost on there.

Chat's great - but moves quickly.

And AIBU is quite hostile.

In RL - you can have discussions about stuff without having to take a side.

AIBU to think some sort of general discussion forum would be good without the need for all those obscure forums?

Or was that tried and people didn't like it?

ZillionChocolate Sun 28-Jul-13 10:04:28


In RL if you barge into an established conversation and change the subject, that's rude.

FruOla Sun 28-Jul-13 10:05:30

Well, Chat is the obvious place. There's Other Subjects too www.mumsnet.com/Talk/other_subjects, but I'm not sure how many people go directly there?

Pagwatch Sun 28-Jul-13 10:07:42

I don't understand your comment Zillion.
Op didn't talk about changing the subject.

I agree but aibu is only huge because people like it. People apparently want t argue more than chat grin

I use chat to post in most of the time but everything gets shoe horned into so there is little choice really.

kim147 Sun 28-Jul-13 10:07:57

Chat's just chat. It's nice but things get lost in there and it's mainly inane stuff.

If you look at other forums on here, some get a post a week if that.

AIBU is great as people have some very good and in depth discussions on here.

But there's been times I'd like to start a discussion but it's more along the lines of "Have you seen / heard this?" or "Look at this stuff" where I haven't really got an AIBU for.

Dackyduddles Sun 28-Jul-13 10:09:36

Have you seen etc is chat surely?

kim147 Sun 28-Jul-13 10:11:04

And I am slightly annoyed about my thread being moved elsewhere as a good discussion could have developed around the research being done on it - I just hadn't formed an opinion but I thought it was interesting.

Now it's got lost in the news section.

I thought about posting it in chat but it would have vanished in there.

kim147 Sun 28-Jul-13 10:12:04

For me "Chat" is just friendy chit chat. Nothing too serious.

AIBU is where you get the good discussions.

Eyesunderarock Sun 28-Jul-13 10:15:47

'In the News' is useful.
I think it's a question of what the content is as to where to post. I get infuriated when AIBU is used to make totally inane and rhetorical points.
'AIBU to be upset at this poor little puppy dog being used as a football?'
Who is going to say yes, YABU?

kim147 Sun 28-Jul-13 10:21:44

I think we need Serious chat and inane chat grin

There is a lot of knowledge and experience on MN and I've loved some of the discussions.

But sometimes you want a discussion as opposed to a bunfight argument.

Sparklingbrook Sun 28-Jul-13 10:25:55

We need a 'Talking Bollocks' Topic for sure. I would own that topic. grin

MardyBra Sun 28-Jul-13 10:25:56

Inane chat for me then. grin

RandallPinkFloyd Sun 28-Jul-13 10:27:58

I think it's just the nature of the beast. There's plenty of topics, definitely don't think we need any more. It's just that AIBU and Chat are the most popular.

I personally don't search using topics though, just Active Convos and TIO so I end up bumbling in and out of all sorts!

Sparklingbrook Sun 28-Jul-13 10:28:39

That's what I do Randall. I don't go in via a topic at all.

MardyBra Sun 28-Jul-13 10:29:05

talking Bollocks for sparkling

MardyBra Sun 28-Jul-13 10:32:54

Totally agree with the Actve Convos approach. Then you can hide any topics you don't want to see and get an eclectic mix of interesting threads. It works until someone does a false Aibu like "AIBU to ask you about weaning/breastfeeding/high chairs/buggies/dog training/camping?" ( all topics I have hidden).

MardyBra Sun 28-Jul-13 10:33:44

There is WWYD but it's like a bloody morgue in there.

RandallPinkFloyd Sun 28-Jul-13 10:35:58

I didn't know there was any other was tbh, until I saw people talking about what topics they go into! There was people saying "well, I'm interested in politics so I look in there" etc. I felt a bit bad, I've never thought about it that deeply, I just sort of wander around mindlessly and chime in when I get the urge blush

Although a Talking Bollocks section sounds right up my street grin

RandallPinkFloyd Sun 28-Jul-13 10:36:44

*was any other WAY.

MardyBra Sun 28-Jul-13 10:38:23

I think I could rattle off a whole of contenders for permanent residence in Talking Bollocks.

mystaplerisevil Sun 28-Jul-13 10:38:41

i used to post in other subjects quite alot, it was nice in there

aibu has just taken over mn now

Pagwatch Sun 28-Jul-13 10:38:50

God yes, a talking bollocks section!

I use active convos too. But that's how I became embroiled in the birth mother fight in Step Parenting and apparently became the spokesperson for foul mouthed people with no imagination. Or summat.

Iwantmybed Sun 28-Jul-13 10:42:39

I'd like an entitled section. I love reading about bridezillas and mumzillas and shitty friends then appear on AIBU

RandallPinkFloyd Sun 28-Jul-13 10:45:47

Ooh Pag, you're so lairy!

Soz to kim for being a bit arsey on your other thread btw. It's awfully angry on here at the moment, I think it may have rubbed off on me for a minute blush

Rooners Sun 28-Jul-13 10:47:29

Well Kim I don't know how long you've been around for, but in the olden days when this was all fields, it was kind of as you say - I suppose a lot of stuff got posted in chat rather than aibu.

Then along came aibu and took over the whole ethos basically and it's never gone back.

I hate aibu.

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now