Went ghetto at Disney. A naice middle class girl...(197 Posts)
like me. The shame. Spent just one (just one!) day at Disney on holidays in Florida recently - and still wasn't able to keep my "hold my earrings, kids" rage under wraps Last excitement of the day was a (actually v cool) live stunt show. Kids hyper, all excited, chatting to other kids around them on the bleachers we were sitting on. My DS (8) nattering to kid slightly in front of him, then v politely asked his mum if he'd swap with him (as in her son) as he couldn't really see the whole thing. She turned around, hmm'd haw'd, and v pointedly told him - without knowing my DH was listening - that yes, "I will move, but only because it's better for my son, and for you. Just so you know." And - and I swear I'm not usually this ragey but it's a long humid fucking day - and I did a full hand on hip, dramatic "UP KIDS, sit over here" glare, she gives me a "huh?!" (Imagine hand/hip firmness, perhaps a finger point yikes) "Well, it's MUCH better for them at this end isn't it?!! and we all KNOW you know all about that." DH thinks I was AIBU...
I think the "Hold my earrings, kids" is referencing the behaviour of certain women who would take their earrings out in a confrontation so they didn't get ripped out (in an anticipated physical fight).
Pretty much just a guess, but I've seen it done before (earrings taken out as an act of intimidation, or as actual precaution).
<wanders back in>
YABU. I have been in the US for over 20 years. The use of "ghetto" implies someone is from a lower socio-economic bracket. It is an offensive and racist term. Ghetto's in the US have historically been the home to African Americans. Usually huge clusters of flats, generally assumed to be crime and drug ridden.
A bit like "Hold my jacket" then?
Only much funnier because its about people from the ghetto
Yes, the holding of the earrings puzzled me too
I was actually getting the gist of this, although I think YABU but then someone threw "popular poster" into the mix
What popular poster? I doesn't sound like anyone I know
I'm guessing there's another poster with "pinot" in their name? This poster is judged by some to be both admired but also a target to be taken down a peg or two. However, the OP isn't the poster in question.
Serious question, how did your son and husband feel after you'd behaved like this?
Thanks Vivacia . Playground games on MN
Someone once had a go at me for calling out her "friend" on some garbage she was spouting. Told me that I shouldn't dare criticise this poster as she had posted for ages and knew an incredible amount about the subject (She didn't actually)
I can barely remember my own name, let alone others'
I'm pretty much the same AmIthatHot ! I'm always surprised when somebody "recognises" me, as I don't think I'm that prolific or interesting a poster.
It was a joke! Not an AIBU, granted, and might have made a good thread in chat if OP had asked about travelling and instantly (and sometimes inappropriately) responding to surroundings when immersed.
I am from the S.E but DD after spending three days with the ILs who live near Birmingham was asking for, "stike and kidnay poi" and we all laughed.
And "ghetto" has a very different and modern meaning these days in the same way that the word, "gay" has compared how that was used in the period between the two world wars. Language is ever-evolving.
If "ghetto" is a word which is derogatory about people from socio-economically deprived backgrounds then why are so many millionaire rappers using it? Magazines which I can no longer afford promote stupidly-priced clothing and accessories using the tag "Ghetto-Fabulous".
Poor OP. Sometimes it takes a while to get the hang of forums and on MN in particular, which board to post on and how to phrase things. I don't believe for a second that her post was malicious in intent, she was just trying to make us laugh.
Adriana, I invite you to stand outside my house and call the first person you see "ghetto". I can't wait for you to explain your language evolution to them. I am sure they will be very edified and leave grateful for your helpful explanation.
I have no idea what that post meant. You don't sound like a 'naice middle class girl' in that post, you sound drunk.
What? But that would be unacceptable and rude in anyone's book, surely?
I live in a very socio-economically deprived area of the South East and wouldn't dream of standing on the doorstep and calling out any sort of epithet! I wouldn't do that if I lived in Knightsbridge although I might be tempted if I saw Dave, George or Boris on the street to use choice language - I can't lie...
And I wouldn't bloody dare to stand in my doorway of my former house full stop to be honest. No-go police estate, violent crime huge, street smelt of weed, windows regularly broken, DC mugged for ice-cream money, shots, blue-lights and sirens every fucking night and most days, I could go on.
The fact is, the OP maybe doesn't know about this and was trying to have a bit of a joke. I know it's no joke living like this more than most, but could we not cut her some slack, or are we all just jealous of the holiday?
Yes, it is all about holiday jealousy. Not sure if you have ever been in South Florida in July but I have. It is like the seventh circle of hell. Toss a bit of the Happiest Place on Earth and it is enough to give anyone the rage. Perhaps you are right, we should give the op a miss for her ignorant use of word.
Oh - I missed out my favourite, Mr Iain Duncan Smith, man of the people. I would totally unleash a tirade at him from my doorstep, manners be damned. It would probably end with me "disappearing" though.
I wouldn't know about Florida. Generous ILs tried to send us to Disneyland Paris for three days but with DS' S.N we couldn't accept. Is it the same as here but even hotter? God forbid.
I don't do well in the heat and can see myself ending up doing the head-snakey thing at judgey people rather than coldly telling them to submit their autism cures to The Lancet and DD (now thirteen) who watches too much American television telling the woman she nothin' but a ten dollar ho with a two-bit haircut or something equally horrifying
I have lived in the US for over 20 years. Two of the twenty were spent in Stuart, Florida. Two long long years. I am also a heat hater. The best thing about Florida was the birth of my dd. (she considers herself to be Southern, even though her mother holds a British passport! )
Florida in the summer is like walking around wearing a heavy wet wool jumper...
My son has autism, we did not even attempt Disney at that time. He is very crowd and sound sensitive.
I also apologise for being so stroppy. I'm always defencive about racism and disabilism..
Yeah, there is a poster called Pinot who has been here a long time and used to be quite prolific.
From what I gather a lot of people liked her. A lot.
She's on a break from MN at the moment.
I wonder why ?
No need, I'm the same wrt to disablism and racism I hope. Congrats on your Southern DD, not a bad identity to have at all!
My best friend on-line lives in Palm Beach and describes Orlando as "a zoo". Her DS3 has ADHD. It is really difficult for them even though I know that Disney try to make things accessible.
We are spending the six weeks holiday in England in the house as usual because the beaches, the parks, the swimming pools, even the bloody supermarkets are too much for DS and now we have to deal with schools fining us for taking him for a three-day holiday in mid-September when he can actually feel safe enough to play on the beach for half an hour.
Good luck to you and yours for the summer
I'm in Florida right now. I'm middl class and vair naice. Don't see the issue with Disney. DH, the DTDs and I are having a super time.
Why would you go to Florida and only do one day at Disney (and Hollywood Studios at that - I presume OP is talking about the Indiana Jones stunt show) when the cheapest available ticket is a 2 day pass?
I am mildly offended at the suggestion that naice people don't go to Disney when in Florida.
Me too Evil - I love Disney and I am not ashamed to say it. I wouldn't go every year or get silly/obessive about it, but we have had a couple fo the most magical and fabulous holiday there and we will never regret them, or apologise/justify to anyone for enjoying them. So ner.
(and I say that as someone who is pretty discerning and cynical about many things.)
Sorry, that really was the most terribly garbled post.
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