To think this party invitation is rude

(101 Posts)
SlumberingDormouse Sat 27-Jul-13 11:25:33

Friends are having a housewarming party. They both work full time and are comfortably off. The Fb invitation states that they will only be providing Sainsbury's basics pizzas, which they got in the reduced aisle for about 50p each a month ago and have been freezing ever since hmm. They've asked everyone to bring their own booze as well as they won't be providing any. AIBU to think that making a point of being this frugal on a party invitation is rude?

GetStuffezd Sat 27-Jul-13 11:27:24

Eh? in what way was that written on the invite? Why would anyone put all the guff about getting them from the reduced aisle, etc on an INVITE?!

Ummmm setting up house can be VERY expensive.

I think you ought to decline, the hosts won't mind not seeing your sour face smile

scarletforya Sat 27-Jul-13 11:29:00

Possibly they are joking? Or maybe their Facebook was hacked?

YouTheCat Sat 27-Jul-13 11:29:03

Who cares? You don't have to eat it. Maybe all their 'comfortably off' money has gone on their new house? confused

SlumberingDormouse Sat 27-Jul-13 11:29:23

Yeah it was on the invite! I know setting up house can be expensive, but I'm sure the man's £100K trust fund (which he boasts about regularly) will soften the blow a bit.

grin what? they actually put all the detail about providing reduced aisle Sainsburys frozen pizza on the actual invite???

EvieanneVolvic Sat 27-Jul-13 11:29:55

If they both work full time and they have just moved house where the frig would they find the time to lay on an elaborate buffet? Sounds cheap and cheerful to me and they are managing expectations well. And surely taking booze to a party is standard. And I would be amazed if they don't lay on a starter bar.

Having said all that, the invitation does sound a little overly in your face. Did they really go into detail about 50p a pizza from Sainsbury's? What did the invite actually say unforgivably nosey

Drip drip

lastnightiwenttomanderleyagain Sat 27-Jul-13 11:30:10

Are they being sarcastic and missing the mark?

I would perhaps put on an invite 'bring a bottle' but we'd normally have a back up supply anyway - though our experience is that we generally end up with more than we started with due to drivers etc.

All seems a bit odd really, and not a particularly warm housewarming!

mrsjay Sat 27-Jul-13 11:30:29

they pu ton the invite that they are serving value pizza really confused

EvieanneVolvic Sat 27-Jul-13 11:31:21

Oh well, still sounds fun to me! If you don't think you'll enjoy it you presumably have the option of not going?

sweetestcup Sat 27-Jul-13 11:32:30

Oh come on "Maybe all their 'comfortably off' money has gone on their new house?"...this is still either yes really rude or really funny if its a joke, no-one in their right minds would put that on an invitation! grin

Mumsyblouse Sat 27-Jul-13 11:33:04

They are just trying to manage expectations, still a bit of an odd thing to write (but I guess they can write more on Facebook than a paper invite). As Evieanne says though, you don't have to do- I still would!

Post a pic of the invite or im afraid you are telling big fat whoppers.

SlumberingDormouse Sat 27-Jul-13 11:33:26

I'll probably go. As may be obvious, I don't like the man much at all but the woman is my oldest friend. I have no objection to thrift (and am thrifty myself) but putting it on the invitation just seems a bit rude to me.

Secretswitch Sat 27-Jul-13 11:34:27

How bizarre! I don't believe I've ever received an invite with such descriptive notes about food. Just decline if you don't wish to attend.

Mumsyblouse Sat 27-Jul-13 11:34:35

Perhaps it was more like 'we're having a few people round for a pizza (must use up all those Sansbo's one we bought on special offer for 50p, ha,ha) on X night, bring a bottle as we are a bit skint' type thing. If it was a formal housewarming, slightly different, but this sounds like a pizza and bring a bottle party- again, if you think it rude, don't attend.

TidyDancer Sat 27-Jul-13 11:34:58

What was the wording on the invitation?

MargeSimpsonzzz Sat 27-Jul-13 11:35:48

omg, well, I sympathise that all there money is used up elsewhere, but unless they are students, and their guests will be just so delighted to have a place to congregate full stop, then it's very tight. Especially as the chances are people would have brought a bottle anyway, so they have needlessly advertised how tight they are.

I am moving house soon so I know every cent is accounted for! but still, the difference between being generous and being eye-wateringly tight on this occasion is not worth it. So, they stump up for some some booze, but probably tuck away a few bottles aftwerwards! It's just not worth being so inhospitable.

Or you say to a few close friends, could you ever get me a bottle of diet coke/tonic on your way over!

But I'm Irish, there's no greater shame here than to be a mean host. My cousin was a mean host to my great aunt once and there are raised eyebrows years later!!

If you you can't afford booze, then invite them over for a coffee? or afternoon tea and do sandwiches and a shop bought cake! That's acceptable in my world, no idea if my world is the real world

HeySoulSister Sat 27-Jul-13 11:36:11

do you think it could be a joke op??

usualsuspect Sat 27-Jul-13 11:36:22

What's wrong with asking people to bring a bottle, wouldn't you take one anyway?

EvieanneVolvic Sat 27-Jul-13 11:36:42

I see your point, but would you rather they hadn't said anything, you turn up salivating in sure and certain hope of a million different amuse bouches, whole trout, vat loads of coq au vin, pavlovae grin, chocolate fountains only to find basic pizzas?

cozietoesie Sat 27-Jul-13 11:38:15

I would guess it to be some (bad) in joke. I reckon when you get there, there will be a full gourmet spread.


enpanne Sat 27-Jul-13 11:39:01

Bring some sainsburys basics lager when you go. Bring some proper food for yourself as well, those budget pizzas will be made as cheaply as possible with the worst quality ingredients.

Or don't go smile

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