to be pissed off that everyone is saying I will "need to move house"?

(84 Posts)
MortifiedAdams Fri 26-Jul-13 22:32:07

We have just informed the family that we are expecting a second baby. The first things out of, without a doubt, each of their mouths has been about us needing to.move.

We live in a two bed ground floor victorian terraced flat. The rooms are, pardon, fucking huge. The children will be two years apart so will share a room,.and probably the most.of their toys.

So.whh why why do.people need to question it? With actual serious concerned faces? My friend has a newbuild three bed which, while.it is nice, is smaller, square footage wise.

It might be the hormones but I would just like a grin and a "congratulations". FFS my Dad is scpurong the net looking for 'reasonable' three beds....like.we are in some.sort of emergency situation. I love my flat!

PunkHedgehog Fri 26-Jul-13 22:33:40

Congratulations! grin

NewAtThisMalarky Fri 26-Jul-13 22:33:45

Congratulations smile

MortifiedAdams Fri 26-Jul-13 22:37:27

Haha I love the grins and congrarulations! This is what baby news should be met with!

PunkHedgehog Fri 26-Jul-13 22:38:45

Seriously, you'll be fine. The one-room-per-child idea is very new, when your house was built people used to manage fine with half a dozen in the same room. Probably with only two beds between them.

Friends of mine shared a room until they were 14 and 16 (despite there being a spare bedroom in the house) at which point they got separate rooms so the elder had quiet revising space. For opposite sex kids you'll need an extra room a bit before that, but still not for years and years.

Tee2072 Fri 26-Jul-13 22:39:04

Congratulations!

And ignore them all!

SarahAndFuck Fri 26-Jul-13 22:40:14

Congratulations. grin

And actually envy at the sound of your flat. I used to live in such a flat. The hallway was bigger than my living room now.

ubik Fri 26-Jul-13 22:40:53

Well I had three in a two-bed flat and the girls had a huge room and loved sharing up until DD1 was 8 and we decided to move as she wanted her own space. That said many, many of her friends share quite happily with 2 or three to a room.

if yu love your flat, stay until you feel the need to move

and congratulations

Congratulations!

We live in a 2 bedroom house, with 2 children with a 4 year age gap and manage just fine!

MortifiedAdams Fri 26-Jul-13 22:44:07

Sarah it is the only street like it in at least a mile.radius - if I moved, I might be able to get a third bedroom.and a square of grass at the back but I feel like I would lose so.much. Ive wanted to live on this street since I was a child.

We have a massive park about two mins walk away and I never had a garden growing up so I dont want to compromise for something I dont care about grin

vintagecakeisstillnice Fri 26-Jul-13 22:44:59

Congratulations!

We viewed a Victorian flat that sounds like yours but at he time we thought we couldn't afford it, I so regret it. . .

Anyway congratulations again and I come from a big family when there was only my 2 youngest sibs left at home they choose to share a room even though they & DPs were in a 5 bedded house.

Splitheadgirl Fri 26-Jul-13 22:45:45

OP, I am from an Irish Catholic family, so NO ONE says that to me - even though I have three children in a two up, two down box!!

My neighbour where I grew up, had 21 children (I kid you not) in a three bedroom house.

You'll manage. That is what parents do. You'll be just fine!!!

BiscuitDunker Fri 26-Jul-13 22:47:17

I live in a massive 2bed flat and have our second baby on the way and weirdly,next to nobody has asked told us about "needing" a 3bed place!

We know this baby is a girl and we already have a dd so they can share a room and we will move to a 3 bed in years to come but its certainly not a priority and I don't understand people that seem to think it should be! To me all having a second kids bedroom means is just another room to tidy up and trip over toys in lol

vintagecakeisstillnice Fri 26-Jul-13 22:47:35

Oh and before the DPs extended, there was 5of us in one HUGE bedroom, we still 20+ years later talk about the silly games and stories we shared.

ButtercupsAreFlowers Fri 26-Jul-13 22:47:45

Congratulations! No need to move. So annoying when people make these kinds of comments - I always feel judged by it, and what I hear is that people think we are inadequately housed. And of course children can share rooms - so ridiculous, the idea that every child must have their own room from the word go. We lived in a very similar-sounding flat with two DCS - finally moved to a bigger place when they were 8 and 4, but there were lots of reasons for the move. Enjoy your pregnancy, and your home!

MotherOfSuburbia Fri 26-Jul-13 22:47:51

We were in a small 2 bed flat with 4 kids till last year. You'll be fine!

softlysoftly Fri 26-Jul-13 22:50:27

Congratulations! I actually want a house with less but bigger bedrooms as the dds would LOVE to share but there isn't really room so in 2 rooms.

MrsMook Fri 26-Jul-13 22:51:39

Congratulations.

My cousins grew up in a "3 bed" semi. One in the box room, and 3 in the larger bedroom with a cabin bed and bunk beds. They've had the usual sibling spats but are incredibly close.

DH was one of 5 children in a 3 bed bungalow. The two girls shared what is barely a double room, and the 3 boys shared another cosy room. Two sets of his nephews have shared rooms through choice.

Doubtfuldaphne Fri 26-Jul-13 22:56:24

I grew up in a house with six bedrooms and yet my sister and I always shared until we moved at the age of about 15! Definitely no need to move at all. Plus why would you want the stress of moving while you're pregnant?!

BlackeyedSusan Fri 26-Jul-13 22:57:52

congratulations.

also a two bed with two children, though their bedroom is not huge. our living room is spacious enough though and if we lived in a house, one would have to sleep in a shoe box and there would be no floor space to play.

LilacPeony Fri 26-Jul-13 23:00:38

I live in a 2 up 2 down and my dds are 6 and 9 and we seem to be managing fine. I had a room on my own growing up and i remember lying there petrified of burglars/ghosts etc. I think i would have found it reassuring to share with a sibling.

Friends who shared until they left home said it was fine when they were kids but they would have liked a room of their own as teens, so i am hoping to move by then.

grin at 21 children in a three bedroom house.

hothereinnit Fri 26-Jul-13 23:01:06

in a similar situation to doubtful - we live in a 6 bed house, yet my 2 girls insist on sharing a room, and have done for the last 5 years (since dd2 began climbing out of her cot to go and visit her big sister! grin)

congratulations, OP, and here's to happy sharing smile

I always think the issue is not having a bedroom each but more the size of the house and living space so your flat sounds ideal. Not sure why everyone is so concerned.

We have one DS and a two bed house. Both bedrooms are a decent size but we don't have a separate dining room and a tiny kitchen so when we have another child we will probably move because of that, nothing to do with needing a bedroom each.

MousyMouse Fri 26-Jul-13 23:03:41

you will be fine.
we lived in a two bed (small rooms) flat until dc were 2&5 and only moved because the bedrooms were too small. even though we now have the space they share a bedroom.

WonderBarbara Fri 26-Jul-13 23:04:38

Congratulations smile no need to move, little ones are fine to share as everyone has said

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