I quite like a family tradition of giving and receiving gifts so DP and I have always given each other surprise gifts for Christmas and our birthdays. The monetary value of the gift does not bother me at all, more the thought behind it, and I honestly enjoy the giving bit a lot (I think about possible gifts long and hard, plan out the surprise, and enjoy seeing DP enjoy receiving them).
Last year was DP's 40th and as he always likes openning a lot of presents I got 18 of them and arranged them around our bed before I woke him up. Two were 'proper' presents and the rest were small things, little jokes, etc. He had a great time tearing the miles of wraping paper all over the bed.
This year it was my 40th. DP got me 7 lie-in vouchers. Now this is a sore point for a number of reasons. I do all the early mornings (weekdays and weekends) and even if DP is doing something with DD, I get up to get her washed, fed, dressed, etc. DP only sorts himself out in the mornings. As you can imagine this is a sore point in our relationship and we have argued about it in the past. So I feel like he has gifted me something that he should be doing anyway. Also, 7 is a pityful number. If he was to really make amends he could have gifted me 52 lie-ins so we could have one each every weekend. I haven't used any of the vouchers as frankly they piss me off.
So, would I be unreasonable never to buy him a present again? I enjoy our family tradition and don't want to give up on it, but I can't quite motivate myself to think about Christmas this year.
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Booboostoo · 24/07/2013 22:43
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