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to leave the light on for my toddler - and should i turn it off later?

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SlightlyItchyBraStrap Tue 23-Jul-13 09:13:32

DS 26 months asked me to leave his light on when he went to bed just now. I did - and he's fallen asleep - but would it be reasonable to turn it off later? Don't want him waking up scared, but he's not usually scared.... But don't really want to set a precedent for sleeping with the lights on all night.

Anyone have something similar with their toddlers?

valiumredhead Tue 23-Jul-13 09:18:29

Just leave it on, they grow out of it eventually. My ds it's 12 and doesn't have a night light now, my mum is 65 and still likes a low light on!

olympicsrock Tue 23-Jul-13 09:37:11

We leave an 'eco moonlight' on for our toddler. I like to be able to see him when i go in to check. If we didn't he wakes up frightened. It just plugs flat into the socket and uses minimal electricity around 1p per night. You can get them from jojo maman or on amazon.

Whatever gets him to bed! If you don't want the lights on all night you could get a nightlight.

QueenofKelsingra Tue 23-Jul-13 09:50:24

we have a nightlight for our 3yo. he used to sleep in the dark until a thunderstorm freaked him out. he refused to sleep without a light and woke up scared if I turned it off after he was asleep. bought nightlight and went straight back to sleeping through and going to bed without a fuss. i'm sure he'll grow out of it eventually!

YDdraigGoch Tue 23-Jul-13 09:54:33

We used to leave the landing light on - but eventually convinced the DDs that they CAN see in the dark once their eyes get used to it.

Nightlights are good though.

Pennyacrossthehall Tue 23-Jul-13 10:11:10

Don't start a bad habit.

The light from the hall, living room or even the streetlights (assuming that you live in a town) is more than enough to see by.

Don't teach them that the dark is scary. The dark is just dark.

Prozacbear Tue 23-Jul-13 12:27:12

I don't think it's a 'bad' habit is it?

I always slept with the light on as a child, couldn't have it off. Now if DP is away, I will still have a low light on. I don't think I'm damaged or anything. DS also has a low light on - I will buy him a nightlight though.

and the dark is bloody scary, full of werewolves and zombies!

ArtexMonkey Tue 23-Jul-13 12:29:33

My 3yo has to have the landing light on when he nods off, i just turn it off when we go to bed.

thebody Tue 23-Jul-13 12:29:50

it's not a bad habit. we always leave the landing light on and dd 14 would be hysterical if she woke up in the dark, literally has been, so we have plug in coloured lights in her room.

thebody Tue 23-Jul-13 12:30:47

also if you say you will leave the light in and then turn off later he won't trust you.

Longdistance Tue 23-Jul-13 12:32:40

We leave the light on for dd1 and she's gonna be 4 in September.

We do, however switch it off before we go to bed. No issue whatsoever when she wakes that we switched the light off. If she wakes in the night, she can still find our bedroom and come in with us.

Oldraver Tue 23-Jul-13 12:36:27

Do whatever you need for him to get to sleep, maybe a nightlight for him.

DS was fin without a light when he was younger (around 1) but started wanting to have some kind of light on. His DB got him out of it last year and he decided he was no longer bothered by it.

But yes it is better for them to sleep in darkness

Pennyacrossthehall Tue 23-Jul-13 12:38:42

Humans (and, I'm guessing, most animals) sleep better in the dark.

SlightlyItchyBraStrap Tue 23-Jul-13 12:39:41

Well, he woke up and called out (this is normal, usually happens at least once) and dh resettled him and turned off the light while he was in there. He went back to sleep no problems.

Neglected to mention, there is a nightlight in there, but he specifically asked to have the big light on. Will look into the Eco moonlight someone mentioned. Personally I have to have a completely dark room, or sleep with a T-shirt over my eyes!

Pennyacrossthehall Tue 23-Jul-13 12:42:47

Oh, and "...if DP is away, I will still have a low light on" to me, that's odd.

Not trying to start a war, but why do you behave differently when you're on your own?

I also should add to my previous post - if you live in the country, where it can be pitch black in the middle of the night, then a glowlight/plug on the landing is a good idea just for visibility.

MrsKeithRichards Tue 23-Jul-13 12:44:55

If my DH is away overnight I leave the TV low on all night - I hate being on my own. Odd? I don't think it's a case of being odd or not, it's what makes me feel better!

OP do what you have to do!

fairylightsinthespring Tue 23-Jul-13 12:45:40

DS (nearly 4) has just started doing this but its so he can "read" his books in bed. We let him, he usually falls asleep after about 10 mins and we turn it off when we go to bed. He has a little blue nightlight that stays on and he turns his big light on in the morning when he gets up.

thebody Tue 23-Jul-13 12:46:23

penny that's a massive assumption based on what evidence???

both mine have a nightlight and I leave the bathroom light on all night too so that if they get up for the toilet the hall is lit up a bit and they can find the bathroom easily.

QueenofKelsingra Tue 23-Jul-13 13:04:04

my ds sleeps 12 hours with a night light so I don't buy the idea that everyone sleeps better in the dark. mine still all sleep through when its light at 5am and not dark til 10pm just as easily as they do in the winter.

I also leave the hall light on if DH is away, I don't feel as relaxed when he isn't home overnight, I don't think its odd. confused

LastTangoInDevonshire Tue 23-Jul-13 13:10:24

(Why do people talk about 2+ year olds in months? Is it because you want to keep them as 'babies'? Does my 'ed in, all them maths calculations.

In a psyche there is a lot of difference between "26 months" and "2.2 year old".)

Having said all that, I'd leave a small light on and turn off the big one. We still, grown up family, leave the bathroom light on all night so people can see where they're going.

hatsybatsy Tue 23-Jul-13 13:12:56

I'm with the posters who say don't start a bad habbit.

ds started asking for the light on at about that age - dh gave in and we very soon had a child who would not sleep without it. cue his sleep pattern worsening, him getting up very early, us fighting various battles with him not to have the room light on full blast all night.

dd asked for her light to be left on at that age too. I just said no - there was no fuss. She's fine. She's not scared of the dark and sleeps far better than her brother.

IvanaCake Tue 23-Jul-13 13:16:51

5.5 year old dd sleeps with the big light on, her door wide open and the landing light on. It's been this way for over a year now and she has hysterics if we mention switching it off. She won't even entertain the idea of a lamp or night light instead.

We're having to just go with it...its either that or we dont get any sleep!

Viviennemary Tue 23-Jul-13 13:22:41

I don't think it's such a good idea leaving the light full on all night. But you don't want a scared child. I was frightened of the dark when I was a child and still remember it. And I sometimes think night lights cast shadows. There isn't a hard and fast rule that works for every child.

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