to think this is taking the piss

(50 Posts)
cuteboots Mon 22-Jul-13 08:41:59

so In the week my cousin who I rarely see asked if I could possibly give her son a lift to work. I said Id think about it and get him to come and ask me. Didnt hear anymore! This morning walked out tot he car and there he was stood by the car !? Is this taking the piss or am I being a it over the top about this?

Nanny0gg Mon 22-Jul-13 08:45:09

Why couldn't you just give her a straight Yes or No?

obviouslyneedsupernanny Mon 22-Jul-13 08:46:20

I agree

SkinnybitchWannabe Mon 22-Jul-13 08:47:08

It is cheeky. but you should have given a direct answer

quesadilla Mon 22-Jul-13 08:49:03

Sorry, don't understand: did you say "get him to come over" as in yes you would do it but he had to make his way to your house? Or did you mean for him to come over to discuss it?

If its the first I can't see why that's taking the piss - the clear suggestion is that you were saying yes. If the latter you should have been more clear that you hadn't made up your mind...

ImTooHecsyForYourParty Mon 22-Jul-13 08:49:21

What did you need to think about?

Is it that you wanted him to ask you himself?

Why? [curious]

AnaisB Mon 22-Jul-13 08:49:44

I agree - Why didn't you answer her?

MrsKeithRichards Mon 22-Jul-13 08:52:13

Yeah why not just a yes or no?

Trills Mon 22-Jul-13 08:56:11

I would want to be asked by the person wanting the favour too.

So that I would be able to say "I will pick you up from x location at y o;clock, do you understand that if you are late I will not be giving you any more lifts?" and be sure that the message got through, rather than the mother just passing on "yes, she'll do it".

EvieanneVolvic Mon 22-Jul-13 08:58:45

No he is not taking the piss.
No you are not being 'a bit over the top'; you are being a lot over the top.

As just about everyone else has said, why one earth were you being so mysterious about it/ There would have been nothing (much) wrong in saying no straight off!

EvieanneVolvic Mon 22-Jul-13 08:59:43

Trills; yes that would have been reasonable imho.

CookieLady Mon 22-Jul-13 10:31:07

Yabvu.

cuteboots Mon 22-Jul-13 10:45:47

I dont think Im being unresonable here. I havent seen them for ages and dont like people relying on me for a lift as I dont rely on people for lifts. All he had to do is ask is this just not manners? To just be stood waiting by my car is I think taking the piss...

Trills- I agree 100%

SJisontheway Mon 22-Jul-13 11:04:15

Erm, you don't rely on people for lifts because you have a car. If he is always on time and doesn't hold you up I can't see why you'd say no, but appreciate that's your right. It just sounds like crossed wires. Give him a lift, or don't. Let him know where you stand. No more crossed wires.

Nanny0gg Mon 22-Jul-13 11:08:19

Doing someone a favour isn't having them 'rely' on you.

If you don't want to help out, you should have just said a straight No.

(And if you don't think you're unreasonable then why post in AIBU?)

squeakytoy Mon 22-Jul-13 11:11:35

nobody was relying on you, you were asked if you could do a favour..

it all sounds a bit hard work ... either say yes or say no.. not "i will think about it"..

MonstersDontCry Mon 22-Jul-13 11:14:59

Why didn't you just say no if you didn't want to do it? They may have Taken the 'come over and ask me' as a yes.

FFS if you're that precious you should just have said No at the beginning. You seem to think that people should have to jump through hoops in order to prove themselves worth of being helped by you. You were asked to give your young cousin a lift on one specific occasion which would suggest that it was something important to him (job interview? hospital appointment?) and you don't give a straight answer so his mum probably said, look, she's going to be a cow about it, just turn up there and block your ears to the moaning, we have no other option.

cuteboots Mon 22-Jul-13 11:37:13

solidgoldbrass- Easy tiger ! Im the first to offer people a lift thanks.

BabyMakesMyEyesGoSleepy Mon 22-Jul-13 14:33:08

YABU and a little bit weird.

Minion Mon 22-Jul-13 14:37:03

How old is the son?
Child, teen, young adult?
Even so regardless of age, if you didn't want to give him a hand, say no. But of you have nothing against the lad is isn't always making you do things for him, then why not? You get to have a good catch up with your cousin.

usualsuspect Mon 22-Jul-13 14:37:05

Yabu, I can't be doing with people who play stupid bloody mind games.

Just say yes or no.

EvieanneVolvic Mon 22-Jul-13 14:41:12

Easy tiger ! Im the first to offer people a lift thanks.

Well going by what you've said here that's not 100% the case is it, but that's not the point...why the frig did you not just say no?

NatashaBee Mon 22-Jul-13 14:45:52

Unless they're generally cheeky pisstakers, I'd assume it was a misunderstanding. Why would you not just say yes or no at the time?

cloudskitchen Mon 22-Jul-13 14:47:29

I'm also curious as to why you didn't just say yes (or no) is there some deeper issue. why make them jump through hoops. it was a simple enough request.

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