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To ask the neighbours to keep the noise down?

(75 Posts)
BetterNotBitter Sat 20-Jul-13 20:06:32

Our neighbours have invested in a temporary hot tub.

It's 20.05 and there's about ten squealing, screaming, shouting, laughing, shrieking women in the garden right under our toddlers bedroom. They have music blasting and look to be settled in for the night.

Our toddler has been in bed an hour and they've just woken her up.

How late would you let it go on before asking them to keep the noise down? I'm thinking 9? Too early?

hugoagogo Sun 21-Jul-13 15:17:27

Our neighbours were still going strong at 1.30am. gits

ubik Sun 21-Jul-13 10:08:17

I live in a flat and if above/below have a paty we often move our children to a different room - fortunately this works very well for us. It's a shame this wasn't an option fir the op.

Don't start a war - I have befn through this sort of thing, much better to have a talk with neighbour and work out how to get along.

lunar1 Sun 21-Jul-13 09:16:00

Hope you took your DD out to play at 6am very loudly OP. I would be expecting a big apology after being threatened like that.

alemci Sun 21-Jul-13 09:00:03

also when you move in somewhere you are the new person and you should be building bridges and testing the water not upsetting the people already established.

hopefully the neighbour will apologise and not let her friend speak to you like that. she doesn't even live there.

crazyhamsterdisguisedasapanda Sun 21-Jul-13 00:07:49

Why are people suggesting the OP moves her Dd , she shouldn't have to ffs its her own home !

Tbh I don't think I could be on polite terms with a neighbour like that.

Can you imagine the chit chat over the coffee "do you remember the time your mate threatened to punch me?" "Yes, that was hillarious wasn't it? Such fun, I must ring her to see how her anger managements going, another biscotti?"

Aquamildred Sat 20-Jul-13 23:26:15

Mine are blasting music and shouting and screaming under dds bedroom sad

Alibabaandthe40nappies Sat 20-Jul-13 23:16:55

Dear god how revolting. I hope your neighbour comes round with a big apology tomorrow OP.

Go to sleep quickly while it's quiet!

BetterNotBitter Sat 20-Jul-13 23:14:21

I don't think I'd feel right ringing the police as the actual neighbour seemed apologetic.

Fakebook, if you read back through the thread you'd see moving toddlers not an option. I was perfectly reasonable, they chose to react in that way to a polite request, that's not me making it worse that's them being ridiculous.

One of them has just been sick, very loudly, but thankfully now all is silent. Hopefully it lasts.

Thanks everyone smile you made my noisy night pass easier!!

Alibabaandthe40nappies Sat 20-Jul-13 23:10:17

Fakebook - seriously? You think the OP should have put up with not even being able to hear her own TV with the windows all shut?

That is not a case of 'go in another room', that is a case of move out to a hotel for the night to get some sleep.

If you want to scream and shout along to music at the top of your voice, then there are plenty of clubs with a license to let you do such things.
Doing it in a back garden when there are close neighbours is just rude and antisocial. Have a party, yes. Pretend you are in a nightclub/on a beach in Ibiza, no.

Two sets of our neighbours have parties occasionally. One set turn all their security lights on, throw open the back door and blast loud music directly towards our house while shrieking with laughter - it often goes on until 2/3am. I have called the police and environmental health more than once.
The other set have quieter music, people having a laugh and a chat but not so loud that putting the fan on in our DCs bedroom doesn't cover most of the noise. They are having one this evening actually, and since not long after ten they have been indoors and the volume has been turned right down. They are lovely neighbours and if on the off chance that they did have rowdy guests they would be mortified to know they had disturbed us. There is no need for me to call the police about these people, obviously!

GameSetAndMatch Sat 20-Jul-13 23:09:49

its not 1 night out of 365 days though. ever since the heatwave started i bet everyones had the neighbour parties taking the piss and getting away with it with the excuse 'it wont last long, the hot weather so were going to make the most of it and fuck you all'.

and if other neighbours are pissed off too then thats more than enough incentive to call police, especially if you've been threatened, op.

dont care how bloody drunk they are, if they want to be pissed and stuff they should go to a nightclub.

hope all others on here with inconsiderate twatty neighbours are doing the 101 thing too, after midnight.

there is suppose to be noise law, so why isnt anyone taking notice of it? cos they find people are too scared to call poilice and so do it all the more. and all people are too intaimidated to 'fallouyt' with the neighbours from hell. and thats why they get away with it.

and breathe.....

Shinyshoes1 Sat 20-Jul-13 23:07:55

Don't call the police it could break the neighbourly relationship before its even started

It sounds like your neighbour had taken your polite complaint onboard but her friend didn't and she was the problem
I'd see how your neighbour reacts when she sees you next she may even offer an apology

MrsWolowitz Sat 20-Jul-13 23:06:25

Hope you're ok.

None of this is your fault. THEY were selfish and noisy, THEY threatened you.

You've done nothing wrong.

Fakebook Sat 20-Jul-13 23:02:09

It's one night out of 365 days. Let them have their fun. Move your toddler to another room for one night. You've made it worse now.

Wishfulmakeupping Sat 20-Jul-13 23:01:51

Your neighbour friend is a cheeky bitch. If its still going in at 11.30 I'd be calling police

ubik Sat 20-Jul-13 23:01:21

I think you should let it lie now. Perhaps see your neighbour tomorrow and try to come to some agreement about noise

bookforgoddaughter Sat 20-Jul-13 22:58:12

I know I am going against the grain but I would not call the police. I fully understand how tired and frustrated you feel right now, but calling the police could lead to a permanent breakdown in your relationship with your neighbours. You can speak calmly with them tomorrow and hopefully ensure they are more considerate in the future.

hugoagogo Sat 20-Jul-13 22:54:03

My neighbours are having a massive street party with outdoor screens and lots of noise-nice of them to warn us wasn't it? Some people like to sleep at night, it's hard enough at the moment with the bloody heat.

Poor you op if it carries on I would call 101 rather than go round again.

BetterNotBitter Sat 20-Jul-13 22:53:53

Yeah, my husband is here.

I thought it'd be better earlier that I went round, I thought it was a bit harsh to send a man round to a group of women but there's no way I'm going round again!!

My husband would go in a heartbeat but I think it will only inflame the situation even more to go again.

Would be helpful if another neighbour would go and say something now though!

alemci Sat 20-Jul-13 22:45:00

why get drunk and abusive, its so childish, if they were teenagers fair enough. are there any men around in the household..

I feel a bit sorry for the neighbour which is why if think about giving them another chance. If she was trying to stop her mate being a twat then she's probably a reasonable person.

If its made them louder I'd be tempted to go round again if its still going on at 11 (or send your dh if you have one as this might inflame things less). If the actual neighbour is reasonable I wouldn't kick off to her but I'd ask them once more the quieten down, emphasising that you don't want them to be silent but just to show a bit of consideration, and that regretfully if any of then behave in a threatening manner or don't quieten down you'll have no choice but to call the police.

If you don't feel safe then I'd just do that anyway without warning them if they don't shut the fuck up.

Alibabaandthe40nappies Sat 20-Jul-13 22:43:23

Definitely call the police. Hopefully the fact that her friend has been so awful means this will be a one off.

Nice.

Everyone likes a drink, no one likes a drunk.

valiumredhead Sat 20-Jul-13 22:41:27

I'd love a hot tub! <helpful>

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